need to vent - really feel let down.

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Sorry i need to vent. OH has had yesterday and today off - a rare occurance. Yesterday he spent most of it down the pub but didn't get very drunk. However since 10am this morning he went awol. Am 37 weeks pregnant and basically been having early signs of labour, lots of pains and niggles, a bit of show etc in the past 48 hours especially. This morning i told him i felt sick and had diarrhoea so not to be too long - he went to have breakfast at his friends house - this friend is in his 50s, a school teacher off on a PD day, my OH is 30. This afternoon round 1pm i was in tears as in pain and couldn't get hold of him- no signal or his friend. Really thought i was going to have to drive myself to hospital.
Had a sleep and took paracetamol. Picked the kids up from school still no sign. Pain has subsided now and feeling better apart from crampy and lower back ache which i have had all week.
He rolled in at 5pm after DRIVING yes DRIVING in a state to pick up his friends daughter from school in someone elses car without insurance.
Am utterly fuming.
He couldn't stand and staggered through the door and is now throwing up.
Am utterly pissed off and really upset with him. How can he be so irresponsible plus knowing i have been having pains/labour signs for a week now and being ill this morning.
What if i go into labour tonight?? hes in no fit state to stand let alone drive, i feel he has really let me down so much.
Now am stressing and worrying incase i go into labour tonight. Have no-one to take me as don't live by friends/family apart from his nan who is in her 70s and who have the kids for us as planned.
:(

If you go into labour tonight you'll just have to call a taxi, bloody make sure he pays for it though!

As for his behaviour, I'd be fuming and having some very serious words, he needs to grow up and realise it isn't all about him anymore.

I cannot believe this. The other day I tentatively approached the subject of my DH cutting out alcohol from 35 weeks and he was all for it, and surprised I wasn't making him do it sooner!

If I were you, I would sit down and have a think about all you want to say, and write it down (helps get your thoughts clearer and makes you sound less like a crazy pregnant lady - you're NOT being crazy but incoherant and upset sometimes comes across wrong). Explain to him (when he is sober) in a quiet and controlled way exactly why he has upset you, and that if he would rather be irresponsible and thoughtless, then you'll be choosing someone else as a birthing partner.

As the previous poster says, he needs to do some serious growing up. You must be a very patient woman!!!

Is this expected behaviour from him, or out of the ordinary? If the latter, is he freaking out at imminent birth? If former, might be time for an honest conversation about expectations and responsibilities in a committed relationship, etc. In either case, try to have a non-heated talk (v. hard when he's behaved like such a tw*t), as if you get all angry and accusatory (as I expect I would in that situation) he's bound to get all defensive and clam up. I'd want to know why he's behaving like this, and why he thinks it's ok to behave like this when you're about to have a baby...