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After loss when can you try again?

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MollyMae · 02/12/2012 19:26

Found out this weekend that we've had a mmc. Have to go back to EPU for a 2nd blood test tomorrow to rule out an ectopic pregnancy. Just wondering though, if you have the tablets to speed up the process do you have to wait long before you can try to get pregnant again?

Hope someone can help x

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Haylebop12 · 02/12/2012 19:29

The epu will tell you wait at least one cycle (1period) but this is for dating reasons.

You can start trying again when your ready.

I did.

bonzo77 · 02/12/2012 19:33

Sorry for your loss. I was told ideally to wait till you have a period, but the nurse said just to wait until the pregnancy hormones were gone (ie a negative HPT) then it would be ok. Get some Internet cheapie tests and wee away! I had the erpc, got a bfn after 5 days, ovulated after about 14 days. Pregnant after 3 periods. Your first few cycles ate likely to be really wierd, so don't stress if they are longer or shorter than normal.

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MollyMae · 02/12/2012 19:37

Sorry if I seem really cold asking this question so soon, but just thinking about getting on and trying again is what's getting me through x

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SecretCervix · 02/12/2012 19:42

I had one cycle between my MC and getting pregnant this time around (but admittedly am one of the lucky ones in that regard) am now 17+3 so it can happen. Don't feel sorry for wanting to get back on the horse as it were, I was the same. It's perfectly normal I think. I am sorry for your loss, do be kind to yourself x

Kelbells · 02/12/2012 19:43

Hi Molly, I'm so sorry for your loss... I can empathise, I had a mmc last November 2011 and really felt that trying again would help me. We fell pregnant again in December but suffered a chemical pregnancy, I just think that my body wasn't ready, then again in January... I'm now sat feeding my 7 week old DS as I type! So in my experience go for it! With the caveat - if you think you can handle it emotionally - how will you cope if like me you suffer another loss so soon? I was a nervous wreck through the pregnancy after my previous losses but I don't think time would've helped that at all - mc takes your innocence - but it was all worth it and I cherish my son all the more now he's here! All my best, you will get there and it will be worth all you've been through x

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MollyMae · 02/12/2012 19:45

Does anyone have any advice with regard to opting for the tablet rather than letting nature take its course?

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bonzo77 · 02/12/2012 20:12

Mollmae don't be sorry. The first question I asked when I came round from the anaesthetic was when we could try again. Not sure about medical vs expectant management. I had an ERPC which was the right thing for me. Totally painless straight away, minimal bleeding.

Haylebop12 · 02/12/2012 20:13

Don't be sorry, I get as though getting pregnant would help to come to terms with it.

I opted for natural but can honestly say I found it pretty stressful both emotionally and physically as I didn't know what to expect. There will be lots ladies who have mc'd and been through either options who can give their opinions too.

It will get easier

Kelbells · 02/12/2012 20:31

I can't tell you about the medical option although a friend of mine opted for it and said that she wished that in hindsight she'd asked her partner (or someone) to stay at home with her while it happened as it was more emotionally and physically stressful than she expected it to be, I think she had just expected a heavy period. I also opted for the ERPC which was totally the right thing for me, it was all over and done within a day and although I had to face the emotional fallout of the mmc, I didn't have to face the physical act of miscarrying which I was dreading (it was 2 weeks before my wedding), the hospital were amazing at getting me in quickly, it was painless, I had very little bleeding and I recovered quickly from the anaesthetic, if you're considering at all as an option I would recommend it but I know surgery isn't an option for everyone. I hope that isn't too graphic, I wanted to be honest with you about my experience x

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MollyMae · 02/12/2012 20:35

Thanks for telling me your experiences. It can't be easy reliving it x

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Haylebop12 · 03/12/2012 20:50

I honk if you have the support at home then it's ok to let nature take its course.

Tmi but my dh had to come and get the baby as I couldn't bare to look at it. Although it can go down the toilet obviously or can disintegrate into the womb lining by which you won't actually are it. Iyswim. Be prepared to sit on the loo for a few hours if bleeding is super heavy and have someone there to bring you sugary drinks and snacks as the blood loss can make you fairly light headed. I found once the baby/placenta had passed the bleeding seriously slowed down and was like a light period.

Any questions just ask.

whiterose2011 · 03/12/2012 21:21

Hi Molly. So sorry to hear about your loss. I had a mc in Sept and opted for the medical management. I had to wait about 3 and a half weeks to confirm whether the pregnancy was viable and really couldn't bear to wait any longer. I needed some closure so decided against letting nature take it's course.

As I needed the 2nd batch of tablets on a Saturday, I had to be admitted and had my mc in hospital. That was actually my preference tbh. I didn't want to be around familiar things. I was worried that I would constantly be reminded of my mc if I had it at home.

I was also worried about how much bleeding I'd have (which turned out to be alot) and how I would know it was over. In the end they put one of those things they use in a smear test (can't remember the name) and removed the baby/placenta with tongs - they were stuck at the neck of my cervix which was pretty painful. I also had morphine which completely knocked me out for about 2 hours after the mc had actually happened.

Everyone is different so you should do what you feel is right. I wanted to know that I had people around me that could tell me whether what I was experiencing was normal or not. If you have it at home, make sure you ask for strong painkillers and have someone with you, lots of pads and sugary food as OP says. I didn't have enough sugar/carbs etc and was pretty weak by the end of the day.

We started trying again after I got AF. Now on cycle 2 so keeping my fingers crossed for a nice Xmas present for me and DH.

Take care of yourself xxx

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