Advice please!

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Im in a predicament. Recently one of my close friends committed suocide (hung himself) and at the weekend as a final send off there is a big fire at thw top of a small fell above the woods where he took his life. My.predicament is everytime i have walked through these woods i have fallen over numerous times as theh are pretty trecherous and i will have to walk through the woods up a massive hill which takes about 40 mins to climb in the dark. Im not good at keeping my feet at the best of the times never mind 4 months prwgnant. I don't know what to do. I really want to go and pay my final respects but im not really sure about walking up and down a massive hill in the woods in the dark. I have really low blood pressure which makes me dizzy. I dont know what to do - help!!

Get a torch and hold someone's hand.

Sorry about your friend.

Do what is right by your child I would not go' Sorry to hear bout ur friend RIP. Im sure ur friend would understand totally you know all the reasons urself not to go call it a gut feeling of what might happen if you do trip' plus I always find Im less stable because more cautious when Im pregnant Murphy's law. Id Lite a candle and say Goodbye myself xx

So sorry to hear about your friend,

Do your other friends know your preg or is it still secret?
If they know, and you really want to go take a few bright flash lights and hold onto your friends (linking arms is probably more supportive than just holding hands) tell them you'll need to walk slowly,
If you feel though that you just can't cope with the walk up and down the hill, then don't go, and say goodbye in a different way

Thanks everyone. I'm still in 2 minds about going, just I really have a gut feeling that its unsafe, especially the walk back down when all my friends will of had a few beers. My friends know Im pg, and my other half will be coming too, as we have the same group of friends. I was thinking maybe if I set off a bit earlier sk I can walk slowly, link other half's arm and walk carefully... Its just the walking back down that scares me. Argh I don't know what to do. I obviously went to the funeral and to the private cremation afterwards, so I feel like I've already said bye and I don't wanna be getting all worked up again. I think the candle idea is great, just something tells me I will regret it if I don't go.

The worst part of a hilly walk for me is the downhill part as I've always been a bit unsteady with poor balance - add in to that darkness, tree roots and potentially tipsy/drunk people then I'd be thinking of giving it a miss.
The only thing that would maybe sway me is if someone else I knew would definitely not be drinking, and have a word beforehand about the two of you walking down together and at your own pace - not trying to keep up with the alcohol fuelled people that may be more gung ho.
(Oh and if you do go- then definitely get a headtorch - so your arms will be free and you have some good visibility of what you are walking along)

My other half has rang the farmer who owns the land behind the woods and he said we can park at the farm and use the farm track up to the fire :)