39+1 and MIL has a countdown on facebook!! ffs!!

[dylsmimi]

Yes I know I'm probably being grumpy and unreasonable but I know there are 6 days till my due date I just don't need it shared with all of MILa friends on Facebook.
And yes she is excited bit bloody hell feel under total pressure.
Feel like keeping this baby in for an extra 10days just to piss her off!
I'm starting to.worry when labour will start and if I'll get to the hospital on time, can I defrost the car and get Ds1 sorted! Plus all my other to do list!! So I really don't need a countdown!!
Anyone else feel like this or am I just a grumpy cow?!!

I can see where Seeker is coming from.

Aside from truly bonkers parents (such as Nar4's mum), most prospective grandparents are simply excited and are sharing their joy with their friends.

Yes, by all means be clear about visiting times and when they should descend on you, but don't spoil their excitement.

Think about the feelings you have for your child - those exact same feelings are the ones that your parents, or inlaws have for their children. And now those children are having a baby.

Is it any wonder they want to share their news with their friends?

Don't have a word, or post a passive aggressive comment on FB. If it annoys you, then simply hide that comment thread, or stay off FB for a day or two.

Thanks everyone! I can definitely see that compared to some It's only something trivial. NAR4 that's terrible!!
seeker and titty I know she is excited and its her Facebook but you can be.excited for.someone without putting them under added pressure. God knows what the countdown will say after day 0!!
Dh has been asked to have a word and strictly tell her I do not want it put on Facebook when I'm actually in labour!!!
Think ill borrow some stats about babies born on their due date - very good idea!

She will be of course visiting when the baby is born - last time came straight to the hospital so i don't feel I am spoiling anyone's excitement but why should my last few days (or weeks) be felt like I'm being constantly scrutinised for every movement or twinge and that be.reported to people I don't know? I want to enjoy this time - sorry if that is seen as selfish.
And of course as yet there is no news to share!!! I am.still as.pregnant as i was last week and 20 weeks before that!!

I don't care how excited someone is about the arrival of their grandchild, if someone had done a bloody facebook countdown for me I would have been seriously annoyed.

dyls
Of course you should be able to enjoy the rest of your pregnancy without feeling you are being counted down - but I wouldn't make a fuss about this. It is not worth it.

I didn't tell anyone that I had gone into labour, cause I knew they'd just worry. That was all before mobile phones though.

Why not just hide that particular post? Agree that it's worth asking her not to put any labour/birth announcement online though until you've had a chance to. Family jumping the gun with making announcements online really is annoying.

Not that I'm still a tiny bit cross about my sister texting my friends after DD2 was born before I had a chance to. Oh no She's wonderful, just got a bit overexcited on the day.

My parents arrived at the hospital when I was in labour with DS. The midwife let them in. They said they were "just passing" even though they live half an hour away from the hospital. I'd already told them i didn't want them waiting at the hospital for me to give birth. They had bought cakes with them & they sat eating cake with DH in the delivery room while I lay on the bed having contractions. My DF was so excited that he actually started doing a dance at the bottom of my bed...and singing.

I was tired (had been going all night) and really wanted to be left alone. When I heaved myself off the bed & stormed off down the corridor, they eventually took the hint & left. They are brilliant grandparents though and generally do listen, but the birth of their first grandchild was just a little too much excitement for them and I think they lost the plot a bit!

Never happened again as I have warned the midwifes when I go into hospital having each baby, what she did. They are always given strict instructions that she is not allowed onto the ward.

As you might imagine, we are not close. This is just one thing in a long list of bonkers things my mother has done. MIL says I should write a book about it.

Whatever your parents or in-laws do when you are pregnant, in labour or have a new born, that you find annoying, can make for a really stressfull time. Stand up for yourselves ladies, its tough if they don't like it. This is the one time that your wants and needs come first.

I'm due in a couple days. MIL has cancelled a weekend away that coincides with due date (I said not to as was only a weekend and would only delay her visiting by a day), also cancelled an appointment she'd made when I'll be 40+4.
However, this appt is rescheduled for 40+10 and she has a night away on 40+11 and is twitching that I might not have had the baby by then!
I just think I don't need to know this- baby will arrive at some point in the next couple weeks! You can visit on the 2nd or 3rd day depending on how we are doing and whether younger free.

MrsK
that was naughty of your sister. When my aunt called on Xmas Day to let us know her DD had given birth on the bathroom floor I was dying to get on FB and do an OMG YOU WON'T BELIEVE IT post, but waited till her DH had updated his FB page first.

Same when SIL gave birth. I had to come and shout on MN about it so that my brother could tell the family himself.

It was naughty of her Mme. When I asked why my friends were texting congratulations before I'd let them know, she fessed up straight away and knew she'd got ahead of herself in her excitement. She won't ever do it again after the death stares she got from both me and MrK

I can see you in my mind's eye sitting on your hands while you waited to be able to share new baby news - it's a shame that more people don't!

God I hate Facebook!!! I always think if you chose not to then ur friends & family should respect ur wishes......I'm 8 months now & I've put nothing on there about it & I would be fuming if someone put it on their wall.......I would simply ask them to remove my business as its private!! I have to say though I am totally amazed at how much some people do put on there, my DP sister puts her life story on there & my DP goes on everyday it's the way of the world now unfortunately!! what happened to talking eh!!
Good luck x

1944 you sound like my MIL - normal! (i.e. excited and happy but sensible and respectful of the parents' privacy). I agree about FB - some people just can't stop with it, in all areas of life, not just having babies.

Yanbu. Being excited is great but not when they steal all the opportunities for u. My mil posted up pics and an announcement before I had chance too. And she doesn't need a count down to be excited and it's really insensitive given how tired and hormonal and fed up and uncomfy u r at that time. Who wants to see conversations about themselves that they aren't part of. It's rude tbh

If FB wasn't around she would probably be bringing this up in conversations with her friends anyway - granted she may not speak to as many people as those that would read her facebook status, but who is to stop her when you don't know what she's talking to her friends about. She is excited and yes if it makes you feel bad then either ask her to remove it or hide the posts - or better still DEFRIEND her! But this won't stop her still talking about it anyway - its just that you won't know about it, same as if you hide the posts.