Feeling weepy and low at 27 weeks

[Obstreperous]

I'm expecting DC2. Had PND following DC1's birth, and have a long history of low mood and eating problems.

I'm becoming increasingly weepy - have cried at work, on public transport, in toddler groups etc. I just feel like my resilience has disappeared, so normal irritation and stresses (like work stress, missing the bus or a stranger being rude) feel insurmountable. I feel like people are judging me constantly and finding me wanting - as a professional, mother, human being.

Since the weekend I've also felt really flat, no energy or interest in doing things. DC1 has watched nearly three hours of telly today, and has had no decent food (pasta, microwave scrambled egg, pizza...).

Just not sure what to do, if anything. A lot of the way I'm feeling is related to growing anxiety about doing the newborn stage again. DC1 was terribly unsettled, fed and cried constantly for the first 4-5 months. I didn't get any proper sleep for a year. We've moved since DC1 was born and I'm really struggling to make any friends. I miss living near my family. I'm also really short tempered and snappy with DH.

Sorry, moan over :).

Hi Obs - I can sympathise with you - its a real worry when the first one was , well a bit of a mare. Mine first son was extremely unsettled. People don't believe me, but he never shut his eyes for longer than 10 mins through the day. I had anxiety like you when I fell pregnant again very quickly. In fact, a community psy nurse came to see me and I remember crying uncontrollably.

However....my second son was a dream. I had the opposite problem and used to poke him becuase he slept so long I thought there was something wrong with him.

Not being near your family is hard. Is your husband supportive?

Thanks stands - yes, we split the care of DS1 pretty equally, although that's not possible with a newborn. I've kind of resigned myself to another horrible year :(. I would definitely like DS2 to be like your second!

My mw has offered to refer me to counselling if I'm still feeling like this at my next appt in about 3-4 weeks. My boss is also very supportive, although I'm starting to feel very guilty about being crap at work.