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Midwife booking in appt

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LittlemissChristmas · 27/11/2012 08:41

Did you take DH with you?
First dc so not really sure what to expect. Got my appt this week, on DHs day off. Thanks

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Indith · 27/11/2012 08:44

It can be useful as there is stuff on the form about his family history too. Plus if he is off anyway then it is nice for him to meet your named MW and be able to ask questions, be involved in the choice of where to give birth (I know you would talk about that at home too but it gives himt he chance to ask the MW his own questions about it) and so on.

I took dh to the first one with ds1 but not the other dcs, I could reel off his family history by then and we knew I'd be having homebirths so no need to take him.

worsestershiresauce · 27/11/2012 08:49

Yes, but if I do it again I won't as it was a waste of his time (he had to take a half day off work due to commute etc).

The actual appointment is a run through of questions on your health, family health (such as diabetes, sickle cell), blood tests, Blood pressure, weight. They also ask questions about mood/depression and relationship issues to allow people to open up about problems at home if they need to. Your DH isn't really needed unless there is a history of medical problems on his side that you need to discuss. No reason for him not to go if you want him there though.

dinkystinky · 27/11/2012 08:53

With DS1, yes - as the booking in appt with the midwife was immediately pre-scan (late referral). Same with DS2 (again so he was there for the scan). Wouldnt bother asking DH to take time off for it though - and as with Indith, once we'd been through family histories once, I knew it for the rest of the appointments.

dinkystinky · 27/11/2012 08:54

p.s. the midwife will ask you at some point if you suffer from domestic violence - I suspect if your DH is there she'll ask to have a private word or do it while you're off getting bloods on your own.

Jojoba1986 · 27/11/2012 09:14

My DH came to both of my booking appointments. We brought DS to the second one because we hadn't told anyone & it would be rather obvious if we asked someone to have him while we went to a long appointment for absolutely no reason! DH likes to be involved but did end up having to take DS for a walk. Who knew that one year olds don't like to sit quietly for over an hour?!

weeblueberry · 27/11/2012 10:50

DP came to my booking appointment. He was rather insistent

It was just as well because as soon as he mentioned having bipolar he was able to answer questions about his medical history that I wouldn't have known.

Pascha · 27/11/2012 10:55

Not the first time. He didn't need to be there at all. The second time it was at home so he was there pottering about with DS. He still didn't need to answer any questions.

Dillydollydaydream · 27/11/2012 10:58

My dh didn't come as he stayed at home with the dc. I was there the best part of an Hour so I'm glad he stayed at hone with the children, they would have been bored silly!

kalidasa · 27/11/2012 11:05

There are some questions about your partner's background/family health history etc but not very many. They will also get you on your own at some point to ask about domestic violence. I was very ill at my booking in appt (hyperemesis) and my MIL (who was staying with us to help) came with me! Which was obviously a bit unusual as midwife assumed she was my mother. Meant she knew all the answers to the questions about DP's family, obviously, but was a bit embarrassing when I had to go into some of my medical history.

StuckInTheFensAwayFromHome · 27/11/2012 11:06

Didn't bother with booking in - and glad because it would have bored him to tears as it was just form filling.
At the moment the plan is just to take him along to the scans, but that may change if we find that things are not progressing normally, or perhaps I may want him to come along as I get closer to due date.

StaceymReadyForNumber3 · 27/11/2012 11:19

We discussed family history beforehand so I didn't see the point in DH coming to the booking in. The plan was just for him to attend scans. Unfortunately I've been diagnosed with gestational diabetes, so he's managed to come to my appointments with the obstetrician to discuss birth options etc.

But if you want him there there's no reason not to.

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LittlemissChristmas · 27/11/2012 12:00

Fab thanks everyone. Think I'll let him know what happens and leave it up to him

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StormyBrid · 27/11/2012 12:05

Mine came with me. He knows more about his medical history than I do, but the main reason he came too is it's his baby too. Would feel rather as though it was primarily mine and he was less involved if he'd not been there.

ladymia · 27/11/2012 12:06

Mine did, he insists on coming to every appointment and normally just sits there like a spare part anyways! BUT i didn't think it was needed

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