Help!

[Kay03]

I found out I was pregnant last wed (planned!) and was elated the first day. Since then I have been having panick attacks and am so scared about change. I can't stop crying and hate feeling this way. My husband is so so supportive but I can't shake it. Please help!

Hi, sorry to hear you are feeling sacred right now. I think it's normal to feel frightened after finding out you're pregnant, even if it is planned. I know I felt scared. I think the positive test makes the 'theoretical' baby suddenly seem very real and there's no going back all of a sudden. I think you need to give yourself some space to feel all your emotions, both positive and negative, it's ok to feel happy and scared at the same time. What is it that is worrying you in particular?

I don't know. I just don't feel happy. I feel like I want to get out of this. Like I'm suffocated by everything and that it's all a mistake. I feel physically sick (not morning sickness) and so so scared like I'm going mad. I feel so bad for my husband cos he's been so supportive but icant hide the way I feel. He's away till wed too and I just need him to make me feel better. Nothing feels like its going to feel better though.

It sounds as if the reality of being pregnant has sent you into a bit of a spin. I wonder if trying to think about the specifics might ground you more and stop it all feeling so big and overwhelming. Is it the baby that's daunting? Is being pregnant scary? Are you worried about the changes to your body? The labour? It's probably a bit of all those things but if you try and make the scare seem more concrete then you can start to think about things you can do.

It's not the pregnancy itself, more how t will change mine and my husbands lives. We're so happy and I love him so much, it is frightening that all this is going to change. I know it's not rational.

Yes, things will change, but not all change is bad :) This is what I keep telling myself! I got pregnant first month we tried and now 23+3, so more than half way there and I get the scared panics.

But, life changes anyway, you have to embrace it and realise you will still go out, have couple time etc. etc..

Hormones also make us batshit crazy, which doesn't help!

This too shall pass. x

Lol I know you're right! I've only known for 5 days and I can't quite get my head round it. Hormones are completely off the scale. Xxx