booking appointment this week

[shelley72]

it has been a while since i went to one of these and i cant quite remember what they entail. i know they ask about medical/birth history and checks but is there anything else i should think about before i go? are they likely to ask what type of birth i would prefer because i really think my options are limited this time around . am feeling a bit nervous..

shelley...I have mine tomorrow.
They will ask all you have mentioned, any previous pregnancies/losses etc. then they go through what you can & can't eat in pregnancy & will do your height & weight. They also took my blood pressure, blood & urine sample.
That's what happened at mine, but I know some areas differ in what they do.
Hope all goes well.

There wasn't much discussion about options, it was more a case of form filling to record lots of medical history and getting you registered on all the different systems that seem to be needed for maternity care.

On a side note - I know understand why there are problems with the workload on midwifes - I've never seen so much form filling in my life - have been 3 times and it really does seem to be overkill and repetition of the same questions and answers onto different forms and computer systems...

thank you, mostly as i thought then. still feeling a bit nervous about going today. i think its because i havent really told family/people about this pg - too scared to i suppose, for fear of what they will say . i think the booking makes it all 'real'.

how was your appointment wifey6? do you have a scan date yet? i am anxious that i wont get one in time for the nuchal scan, as my 12 weeks falls on christmas day. i hope that they are open between christmas and new year, i think it can be done up to 13+5?

shelley...try not to worry. Can i ask why you havent told family yet? We haven't told our families either (due to a MMC earlier this year). I'm sure your MW will be supportive.
My app was emotional but MW was wonderful & is going to 'sneak' me in for a scan at 10+ weeks & hoping to get my 12 week scan either 23 or 27 dec as I am 12 weeks Boxing Day.
I agree that it does make it seem more real. Hoping it goes well for you & they can sort a scan date out for you.

i have told my mum. but not others. i have two gorgeous children already and i know that my nan (whom i love dearly) doesnt approve of me having any more, so i am reluctant to tell her in case she cant hide her disapproval. when i got pg with my 2nd (which i MC) she asked if it was an accident . i had been married for over 10 years at that point and already had DS so the fact i wanted another shouldnt have been a surprise! i also have a 'friend' who really doenst approve of my life choices - recently stopped work to be a SAHM - and say i should really work as DCs are expensive. so i know she will not be happy.

like i say we have 2 DC, DS (5) has asked FC for a baby. i know he will be v excited but having had MMC between him and his sister i cant let him know yet (nor do i want him overhearing anyone talking about it), or take anything for granted. part of me doesnt want to go through that again so i am worried about that too. i just worry that i am pushing my luck in having a third.

we must be a due date apart then!

That's such a shame that you don't have much RL support. Your choices, if that be work, children, etc are between you & your husband. As long as the interest of your family is the most important, which it sounds like it is, it is none of anyone else's business.
Why deprive yourself & your children in fear of the disapproval of others. You do what makes you & your little family happy.
Yes we sound like we are a day or so apart!
My mum knows we are pregnant & has been terrific. We have a DS who is 2.6 & I too am a SAHM. It's our choice & it works well for a us a family.
Hopefully you will get the support you need from your midwife & a scan before Xmas. I really hope mine is the 23rd & not 27th dec. I really want to relax & enjoy Xmas.

i know, i am hoping that maybe i will be pleasantly surprised. my mum is very happy though, and my brother will be too (though possibly at the thought of having birthdays and christmas x 3!) and i know i do worry too much what others think when i really shouldnt. and after working since i graduated, i really LOVE being a SAHM and giving my children my time. its a struggle sometimes (like last night when i panicked how i would even afford to dress myself once bump shows) but its not all about £££ is it.

for me a scan on the 21st would be perfect. before xmas so i could relax and would have childcare and everything! i do not want to take DD along. just in case its bad news.

right had better get lunch and get some toys packed up for DD- goodness knows how i will keep her entertained for an hour later

Let me know how it goes

hello im back! well i am high risk apparently - i think its just because i had a section last time round, because my awkward DD was breech. i also need to have a GTT due to family history and because my BP was high and they suspected pre eclampsia when i was pg with DS 5.5 YEARS AGO i have to be referred to a consultant to get this checked out too. i am also booked to go to VBAC clinic in due course. MW seemed young and keen so i think she may just be over cautious!

it was odd having the appointment as nothing much has changed in three years and i just sat there thinking 'i want your job!' and i wanted to ask the SMW how she was finding the course, what experience she had undertaken to get her into midwifery. my plan was when DD started nursery next year to get my OU biology course done, get some volunteering experience together and apply for midwifery the following year when she started school. that has all fallen by the wayside now!!!

wasnt given a scan date but its usually at about 13 weeks she said - so just into the new year for me...

At least they have plans in place for you now. Does that make you feel happier to have a plan in place?
Wow..your plans to do midwifery sound wonderful..something to aim for once this little one is born perhaps.
You'll no doubt get a letter through the post soon to arrange a scan.
How are you feeling after the appointment?

well more of a dream than a concrete plan. i realise that its a very competetive area to get into. its not even so much the babies that attracts me, more the looking after women during pregnancy side of things.

anyhow, i think the only thing i have learned is that its best for me NOT to have a plan. my children seem to know their own minds (even in utero) and my childbirth plans thus far have never worked out. it still seems all a bit distant and like its not really happening to me. i think once i have that scan appointment through and i know that everything is ok then maybe i will start getting excited. My MMC was at 11 wks so until i get past that stage i will be a bit twitchy. some days i feel very pg, other days i feel as though there will be nothing there when they look .

this afternoon i am feeling a bit ill and exhausted. Poor DCs have been 'looking after me' by snuggling me under a blanket. i really want to tell DS why mummy is a bit poorly but dont want to get his hopes up too soon!

thank you for your concern, i may pop along to the july13 board now its all official

I know what you mean...my MMC happened when I was 12+5 so I feel very edgy til scan.
Like you..feel very pregnant somedays, then others I feel like I'm imagining it
Do pop on over & join. A lovely bunch of ladies on there.