That also weighs on my mind, abigboy My all-knowing oracle is my mother, though, but I can see her point. We live 250 miles away from any family, so from a practicality point of view, a elcs would be miles easier. It's just not for me!
My DS's birth was, to put it mildly, horrendous. I also worry about putting DH and DM though another traumatic labour - he got stuck with his head transverse, and there was no way to get him out aside from a EMCS. I do wonder if I'd been allowed to labour upright if he'd have turned himself, but too late to do anything about that now! It was 36 hours from my first contraction, 12 hours from arriving at hospital that he finally arrived.
When we arrived at hospital, he was having late decels, so they strongly advised cfm, and refused my water birth. CFM meant I was contained to the bed, which severely hindered my labour, and my ability to cope with the pain. Had diamorphine, pethidine, and finally an epidural. Had to endur the clip on his head, and blood samples from his scalp - the blood samples were awful. I blacked out during one before my epidural was sited, and came round to find my husband and mother in tears because it was so hard for them to watch me in that much pain. :( Not nice.
I am worried about the whole scenario happening again. Also worried about possibility of induction, as though I feel she'll be early, my induction is scheduled for 5 days after due date, and he was a spontaneous 42 weeker. I will be put on the drip. Going to chat with midwife and inquire about maybe an elcs if I go over as not too keen on the idea of induction with a CS scar.
My hospital has a high risk pool on the consultant unit, but not sure if I'll be there or the MW led unit - either way as the CS is my only adverse risk factor they're happy for me to go for it as long as everything else on admission is good! They have an underwater doppler, and also mobile CFM if I'm not in the pool. I have covered every eventuality.
Also I'm MW led care - I'm with one 2 one midwives on the Wirral, booked into Arrowe Park, and I only saw a consultant because I wanted the waterbirth in hospital. One 2 one would have been happy for me to have a home wbac - my husband not so much!
If you really want a wbac, I would fight for it. I've heard of women saying they'll have a homebirth if they can't have a wbac in hospital, and the consultants agreeing to wbac in hospital so that they're at least there.