Just realised I'm probably around 4 months pregnant! What does that say for conscious conception?!

[DreamyParentoid]

I did a pregnancy test recently and thought I must be just a couple of weeks pregnant. But in the last week my tummy is really pronounced and I am feeling kicks and starting to realise that I must be further along than I thought?!

I am still nighttime breast feeding first dd who is 14 months old. She is on the bottle during the day.

We are really delighted to be pregnant and excited to have got the first bit out of the way unnoticed, but I feel a little bit stoopid that I didn't realise. Literally I was lying on our bed on holiday in AUGUST saying 'what is this weird hard bit in my tummy?!' If I could feel a hard lump then I must have been at least a months along... so maybe I am 4 months pregnant or more! Now I realise the weenie thing has been kicking all the time and I have been so unconscious of its little presence. I feel bad about that. I just haven't had any periods or anything signs since my last pregnancy.

I only did the pregnancy test after going to the dr about my daughter and mentioning the hard bit asking her if it could be worms! She said, 'have you thought you might be pregnant?'...

My concerns are:
I have been drinking a little bit in the evenings.
My DD is off breast milk during the day and for quite a bit of night wakings, but I do still rely on the boob for getting her to sleep on some occaisions.
Her bedtime routine is about 1.5 hours altogether. How does one manage that with 2?
Plus she is in her own room, but in a little futon and I often fall asleep with her on one of her wakings in the night. Do you just put both little people in the same room?
She'll only be 1.5 years old when this one comes along. I'd hoped for a tiny bit larger gap just so she was old enough to understand a little bit.
My husband is super busy with work and will not be able to do very much so I am going to have to navigate bed times myself most of the time.

I am really happy to be pregnant. I've arranged to go and see the midwife next week and arrange a scan. Just wowzer what a shock!

x xx

Yes I can imagine it really was a shock!

When I was pregnant with DS I only found out because a friend was playfully prodding my stomach and announced 'you're pregnant'! I was already 3 months at this stage but hadn't noticed a thing except putting on a tiny bit of weight - which I put down to just eating more to stave off the nausea [hconfused] Looking back I don't know how I didn't know, but I wasn't trying to get pregnant. I do think if my friend hadn't said anything I wouldn't have known til I started feeling kicking! [hblush] I found out just after very very very heavy drinking over Christmas and New Year - me and DSs dad were only dating and it seems that dating really revolved around drinking.
DS is fine so I'm sure a few drinks will be fine.

In answer to your others concerns:

I co slept with DC2 for the first few months and then DD went in to her own room (though she BF at night for much longer). Now DS and DD share a bedroom - their choice - with bunk beds.

I wore DD in a sling a lot so I could still do things with DS. The stretchy wrap ones were good because I could still bend down etc and she was fully supported, even from birth. Then DD used to just sit in the sling or on the bed with me when I did bedtime with DS.

You could still continue BFing - my friend is pg and due in January and has carried on BFing her 2 year old. She found a really good book called Adventures in Tandem Nursing which she found really helpful.

If you do want to change your sleeping arrangements then you still have plenty of time.

Good luck and huge congratulations.

Sorry that was such a long post [hblush]

I wouldn't worry about the drinking, unless you are an alcoholic!

I have two friends who didn't know they were pregnant, one 7 months and the other two weeks before her due date, the two weeks one went on a bender to las Vegas for a hen do, baby ok.

Congratulations too, I must say I do envy you not knowing about the first bit of pregnancy. Take folic acid.

I was 19 weeks when I found out. I put the weight gain down to all the mince pies etc that I ate over Christmas. I was on the loo a million times a day, but I put that down to my New Year's Resolution, which was to drink more water. My periods were all over the place, which I put down to having just come off the pill (I fell pregnant immediately, like, a week after stopping the pill). I drank lots at Christmas and New Year too, but thankfully DD is fine. I was never falling-over drunk, but did have a very merry on Christmas Eve!

I only have one DC so can't help with most of your questions, but I would use this time to see if you can streamline your DD's bedtime routine a bit. I'd also get your DH to see if he can make some changes at work, and make more time for his family, it's not fair to expect you to deal with it all.

Congratulations!

No one knows where the line is on the alcohol question people used to not limit their alcohol at all! So if it really is a "little bit" i.e., an amount that's safe for breastfeeding -- I wouldn't worrry too much.

Your DD will be a different person by the time the baby comes. Personally, I would try to get her sleeping through by that time if you think you can without too much trauma. (I night-weaned my DC1 a little earlier, and it was fine. It became obvious she was not hungry.) Won't you keep the baby in with you at first? I suppose all three could be in one room, but I would worry that the baby would wake the toddler.

Can you send your DH to sleep with the toddler? If she just needs a bit of reassurance sometimes, it probably won't interfere with his sleep too much.

My DD is almost 3 and we're expecting DC2 in March, and I'm thinking of having daddy handle wakings for the first month or so so I can focus on the baby. (He can make a comfortable bed on her floor if he wants.)

Oh I envy you so much! I'm 7 months, the first four were totally awful. I always wished for a pregnancy I didn't know was happening

Congratulations x

Thanks so much!

I think I am slowly coming to terms with the shock, but it does really help to post and hear from other lovely ladies

x

Have you actually been dated with a scan yet? Or are you just going by how your tummy feels?

Well partly a dr friend measured fundus over weekend and also am working backwards from feeling kicks. Haven't even met midwife yet, that is due next week. Then can arrange scan!

Dr friend thinks I'm 4 months... So we will see. Baby very active in there now we've established it's presence!

X to all

Fundal measurements aren't usually used until after about 28 weeks, I assume because they're not that reliable before then, so that may be incorrect.

I have a friend who didn't know she was pg until she was five months. Congratulations

Where I am they say that fundal measurements are useful from 20 weeks, and when the MW measured me at 21+6 I was almost exactly 22cms.

Congratulations dreamy!

Thank you! What does it mean when you write 21 +6?

It means 21 weeks and 6 days.

How are you getting on, do you have a scan date yet? I hated the first trimester, I'm kind of jealous you get to skip it :D

21+6 means 21 weeks and 6 days pregnant.

Right now, I'm 38+6, after finding out at around 3 months that I was pregnant (in my defense, I had taken a test earlier and it was negative!). I had the same feelings as you, I'd felt the hardness of my uterus (even made my sister have a prod of it!), felt movements and flutters, been so nauseous I'd been wearing seabands etc etc, and yet I still didn't properly realise. As soon as I peed on a stick, I knew the double lines would come up, although it was still a shock when they did!

Anyway - everything is fine, I have just a week to go, and I'm very excited.

You'll be fine ;). Good luck!

Gosh! Good luck :) It is quite funny to last have so many signs and not put 2 and 2 together. I love it! I think I am over the shock, mostly! I hope it goes really well cherry219.

To inchyinchy, I haven't had the dating scan yet, but my midwife (who I have now met) guesses at 17 weeks from feeling my tummy. I've just got to put some kind of a balance into my eating now! It's like now I realise that I've been pregnant my tummy is growing hugely and I'm starving all the time!

xxx suzi

I bet you're further along too!

My friend realised she might be pg, too a test and it was positive so went to the gp. The gp told her she seemed a bit further along than just a few weeks but she needed a scan to be sure. She paid for a private scan the following day which showed she was about 30 weeks. She went into labour that night!

Dreamy My tummy grew hugely as soon as I found out I was pregnant. I told my work colleagues on the Friday, and showed them the bump that had sprung up out of nowhere. They could not believe it, someone said "THAT wasn't there on Monday!" Others were saying "Wow, I had no idea you were pregnant" whilst I was thinking "You and me both!"

How far along did the scan say, Dreamy?

Just wondering how the scan went Dreamy?

I found out at 18 weeks, only did a test to prove to a girl at work I wasn't pregnant :/ and I hammered it a bit over summer (I work at music festivals)

Doc said if he'd survived this long he'd be fine and when I eventually had a scan all was well, so don't worry too much about the drinking!

Same with my bump too - it appeared a week after we found out along with the symptoms, thinking perhaps they were always there but I chose to ignore them.

Hope all goes well with your new bump :) xx