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containing our over keen mothers

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noodlekitkat · 27/03/2006 21:54

My Mum has invited herself to stay with me for the month up to my due date.

I love her but I am really not up to this, what do I do?

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Pixiefish · 27/03/2006 21:55

ask her to come after the baby is born rather than before

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noodlekitkat · 27/03/2006 22:00

Can't as she has to go back to work in Sept.. I am due end of August when she has her holiday time (works in school).

It is especially awkward as she lives abroad and has no one else to stay with over here.

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Pixiefish · 27/03/2006 22:08

can't you tell her- oh great mum i'll have tons of housework etc etc etc for you.

Yorkiegirl · 27/03/2006 22:09

oh that's great, mum, you can do loads of cooking and fill up the freezer for when baby is born.
And do all the housework
and pamper me rotten Grin

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noodlekitkat · 27/03/2006 22:15

She keeps saying that she wants to help - this is the problem! The reality is that she will be bored, totally dependant on me for entertainment and human interaction.

Although she is great she doesn't listen to anything I say or ever stop talking!

I wish she could come over with a friend and stay in a hotel so I could relax and prepare for the birth.

I think I will have to just put my foot down. A shame as it would be nice for her to see the baby a few days after it is born.

Oh well.....

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noodlekitkat · 27/03/2006 22:17

She can't cook or shop by herself either!

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noodlekitkat · 27/03/2006 22:19

Ooh a pizza has arrived.....

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thebecster · 28/03/2006 12:11

my sympathies noodlekitkat - I've had to put off a few people who wanted to come & stay recently, including my MIL and my neurotic sister. My Mum is fine, thankfully so at least I don't have that problem, but MIL is a high maintenance nightmare, and my sister is a complete loon...

In the end I managed to put them off by pointing out what it would be like for them. I've got bad morning sickness, so explained that at 4am they'd be woken by me running through their room (only way to get to bathroom) then the noise of me vomiting for 3 or 4 hours. And that sometimes I don't make it to the bathroom so might be sick in their room. And that my pelvic floor is now getting a bit spongey so when I retch hard I also pee all over the floor. That seemed to dissuade them, and they all postponed their trips or stayed in hotels. Hope I haven't put you off your pizza with this! But it did work...

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noodlekitkat · 28/03/2006 21:02

I think I may go for something like this... Thanks!

But poor you! :-(

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Gemmitygem · 29/03/2006 05:44

Is there any way she could stay somewhere nearby? Like she could rent a small place for 2 months. (depending on financial situation).

I imagine it would be great to have her there but just not staying with you; agree that is a strain. But she might be really helpful to have around..

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noodlekitkat · 29/03/2006 18:42

Yes I would love this but she is not very wealthy and she would still need me to shop for her and help her use the buses. I wish she could find a buddy to come over with...

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Pinchypants · 30/03/2006 11:03

Noodle, you can't be shopping, cooking, entertaining and helping your mum on and off of buses when you are in the last month of your pg!

Bless her, I'm sure she's dying to see you and to 'help'. You could point out to her that it's not going to be like it was before and while you don't need help yourself before the baby is born, you can't be worrying about helping anyone else out either at that stage (esp as may be hot summer).

Perhaps she could just come over for a week or something as a happy medium, at the start of the holidays?

Good luck getting this sorted - never ceases to amaze me how rellies (thankfully not my close ones) find it so difficult to really put themselves in someone else's shoes.

Pinchy xx

PinkTulips · 30/03/2006 11:11

o you poor thing, i think i'd flee the country if my mom offered to do this!

have you considered being blunt with her and explaining that as it's going to be the middle of summer all your planning on doing is sleeping and resting and you don't feel that she'd necessarily be a help to you? harsh but she has had kids herself so she might understand?

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noodlekitkat · 03/04/2006 19:14

Thanks girls,

Sorry I have been away from the computer and feeling insanely depressed and crazed lately for some reason.

Thanks for your comments, it helps that you know how I'm feeling here.

I will keep working on her and find a solution that she is happy with hopefully.

xxx00 big hugs N

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