oooh having a huge wobble at 35 weeks....

[elizaregina]

Been v happy and postive about baby since beginging with no negative thoughts at all- even though had one and know about the reality of sleep etc...

A nasty thing happened with the house next door ( changed from family back to multiple lodgers and potential noise problems)

and suddenly I just wonder how I will cope - its was a silly thing to do - get pregnant again, and how will we get through it - DD is 5 and so easy now - and now we have to start again....wondering how we will cope - in so many ways! anyone else.....

suddenly worried will baby be ok - what if there is anything wrong with her - what about birth .....all the worry when they are ill...

One important thing to remember is that when baby is out and is your baby, you won't regret having him or her. Even when our kids are really trying our patience we would never swap them or want to send them back! The parental love which you have for your child overrides anything else. Personally, I think it will be lovely for your dd to have a sibling - my ds is now nearly 4 and I love the time I have with him. I don't feel the need to have another baby for my own benefit necessarily, but in the long run I think it would be better for him growing up to have a sibling. It takes the pressure off a child to not be the sole focus of their parents' love and hopes. With regards other worries, I think it is only natural to have anxieties about practical things and coping - I'm quite anxious about the sleep, particularly as hubby has major exams after baby is due and won't be able to help me much, and no relatives nearby. There is always something to stress about for everyone though - whether financial, space issues, time management etc. I have a friend who has 5 children and has to cope with the practicalities of cooking for 7 every night, space for them to sleep (some have to share rooms) and even getting them all in a car at the same time. She copes because she has to, and she is very happy with her life. Try not to let these worries play on your mind too much, everything will work out I am sure. x

mummy2benji

thanks soo much, yes taking focus off myself - thinking about DD.....of course for her it will be great...

i am not a very organised person and Dh is great but no help house wise! quiet happily send DD to school looking like wurzle gummage without brushing hair...i think the JS news this week and also poor april has helped to make me feel depressed and worried about children...

you have really really cheered me up though...thanks so much for posting...also v true about never wanting to send them back...and so true about too much pressure on one child...thanks