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Are you going to find out the sex?

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Mrsb999 · 19/09/2012 14:11

If baby is cooperating are you planning to find out the sex at your 20 wk scan?

I'm currently 13+3 with my first baby and always said I would find out but now I'm thinking a surprise may be nicer

Interested to hear your thoughts!

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LauraPalmer · 19/09/2012 14:56

Yes! We just found out on Monday and we're so excited that it's a BOY! He will be the first grandson in a huge family of girls.

Interestingly, knowing the sex has really shifted what this pregnancy feels like for me - it's not the possibility of a boy or a girl anymore...it's an actual real little baby BOY! . And I feel more bonded to him somehow, now that I know he's a 'he'.

(That said, I'm sure I would've been just as thrilled if 'he' would have been a 'her' - this is a much-longed for baby and most of all we're feeling very lucky that all is great health-wise.)

Good luck with deciding what to do. Either way, the 20wk scan is amazing.

minipie · 19/09/2012 15:10

Yes I did find out! I want as much information as I can possibly get (I am like that about everything) so no way I would have turned that down.

Like Laura says it makes her more of a real person to me.

Sheldonella · 19/09/2012 15:13

Definitely - I have booked a gender scan for 17 weeks. I can't wait :)

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Mrsb999 · 19/09/2012 15:14

Noooo! You are all meant to say you didn't or wouldn't find out! Now I'm changing my mind again!

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TittyWhistles · 19/09/2012 15:15

We did, got our first girl. She'll have 3 older brothers to watch out for her!

IcouldstillbeJoseph · 19/09/2012 15:16

I'm a MW and decided for sure I wouldn't find out with baby no.1, as I love the deliveries when the parents don't know. However, due to complications I found out by accident at 30 wks. Totally changed my view - I loved knowing! It made it all so much more real and easier to imagine.

Now pregnant with no.2 and have my 20 week scan tomorrow, really hoping all is ok and that we can find out.

elvislives2012 · 19/09/2012 15:18

I haven't!! Am 36 weeks now. I love not knowing and enjoy the constant guessing and am looking forward to the surprise at the end. I know what people mean about bonding though so we named the bump tony- a unisex name.

surprise11871 · 19/09/2012 15:22

we havent found out and i'm enjoying waiting for the surprise an extra thing to look forward to! We have been referring to the little one as jesus from day 1 as he/she is due 2 days before christmas so i still feel connected to our baby! i think its just a personal choice and everyone is different!

snickers251 · 19/09/2012 15:38

With our ds we found out but didn't tell a soul!! They still think we kept it as a surprise. It was something nice between me and dh and don't regret it at all.

With this one we will be finding out and telling everyone

PeshwariNaan · 19/09/2012 16:15

We did, even though hardly anybody we know did (well, the English people, anyway - my American friends tend to find out). It was pretty much just to make the name discussion easier!

DoodleAlley · 19/09/2012 16:32

Definitely. Found out with DS and it felt like another step on the road to getting to know him.

LOved it and really helped me bond with him.

And when he was finally born it was still beautiful and amazing and exciting.

Scroobius · 19/09/2012 17:28

We will be just because we already have a girls name but cannot agree on a boys name; if it's a girl we can stop torturing each other with names and if not we know we've got 4 months to come up with something! Otherwise I wouldn't be too bothered.

milkyjo · 19/09/2012 17:31

Didn't find out with DS and was convinced I was having a girl although took that with a pinch of salt as I didn't know for sure (or at all!)... clearly! This time we are finding out just so I can be more organised and get clothes sorted from loft etc. If its a boy I can just wash everything, if its a girl I can pick out all the white vests and neutral stuff and shove the rest back in the loft. I can't imagine being able to do this with a toddler and a newborn on my hands so its purely for the preparation side of things - but saying that I would be more excited about my pregnancy if I find out the sex, not that I'm not but not as much as the first!

Secondsop · 19/09/2012 17:46

We found out for a few reasons. My husband was very keen to, and I was happy to as it was a way for him to bond more before birth. We also found out because my husband's parents are on the other side of the world and it was one way we could share an aspect of the pregnancy as they were missing it all otherwise. We also wanted to know because his grandmother is absolutely desperate for a boy (it's all girls in the wider family so far) and if we were having a boy (we are) we didn't want her to pass away before he was born without knowing there was a boy on the way..

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