Crying and can't seem to pick myself up this time

[milk]

For the last few weeks I've been feeling really depressed but I have some how managed to find the strength to pick myself up and get on a do things.

Today however, at 38+1, I have completely lost the will to do anything :( I just feel so miserable and depressed. All I want to do is cry. I tried talking to my mum but she just said its only for another few weeks, and how I shouldn't feel so sorry for myself when there are people who are permanently disabled out there. All my friends work/don't have kids so won't answer their mobiles on a weekday. DH just gets annoyed if I call him crying saying there is nothing he can do and I'm just ruining his day.

I don't know what to do :( I can't imagine continuing like this for another 2 weeks :(

DS1, 18mo, has spent the morning watching Cbeebies in his PJs.

Pick up the phone and ask to speak to your MW. If she isn't available ask her to call you back. Antenatal depression is not as talked about as postnatal but it exists and you can get help to stop you feeling like that.

:)I bet Ds1 thinks he's having a fab day. Why not get a duvet and snuggle with him after you've phoned. Then maybe later you'll both need a bit of fresh air and you can toddle to the park.

((hugs)) Milk. Unfortunately i cant offer any words of real help. But maybe knowing that someone has read your post and is thinking of you and hoping you feel better soon might help a little. :)

Indith's right - call your midwife and tell her how you feel. If you can't speak to her try your GP. Don't worry about your DS1 I'm sure he's had a lovely morning watching TV.

If you were my friend I wouldn't mind you calling me at work so consider giving one of your friends a call or even texting them to say you could do with a chat.

Good luck, look after yourself

I'm sorry, that sounds miserable. I hate those days when I know no other adult is around and it's just me for the day. I was in floods of tears to DH yesterday over a silly thing the GP said to me and I could hear that he was just 'what are you talking about?' on the phone. I think that indith is right, you need to talk to your mw to check for antenatal depression.

This might be patronising, but things that I have found helpful when feeling like that (albeit not pg) are putting music or the radio on, going outside (even just out of the door or into the garden), making a nice drink or snack, having a bath etc. It's rubbish when it's day after day after day though.

I hope that you get some support from your mw, it sounds like you need it and your mum and DH aren't being helpful.

Oh love - just look after yourself :) Snuggle up on the sofa, don't think you have to do anything, it's all your body's way of saying - stop now, don't wish to do anymore.

Time for some self-indulgance - get some nice food, get your PJs on, find something really wonderful to watch on TV - whether it's a guilty pleasure or something you've been wanting to watch, get your DS1 to cuddle up next to you and indulge in some R&R. It sounds like you need it!

I second the call the MW suggestion - quicker they can help you out, quicker you can feel better.

I have a history of depression (not natally related) and I always leave myself suffering before someone else suggests getting help (my DH in recent years) and when I do ask for help, I'm always hit with the realisation I should have asked sooner.

Best of luck OP, you don't need to suffer any longer.

Please call your midwife and ask for her help. I was seriously unhappy in the few weeks before DD was born, lethargic and couldn't get to work, leave the house or get out of bed and convinced something was wrong with the baby. It was only later that my GP suggested it might be antenatal depression and that she was sorry she hadnt picked it up. I remember sobbing for hours.

The good news is that it went away straight after the birth.

I am now pg with DC2 (32 weeks) and am recognising the same feelings starting again, so am trying to get some help.

I hope you can get someone to help you, but please do realise that how you feel is valid and your mother and DP need to understand what you are going through is real.

Forgive me if this is too scary and stalkerish but I think you're not far from me (I'm in N12). I've got a 2.5yo DD and at 37+4 I can totally sympathise with the general fed-upness you're feeling. And Cbeebies often seems to be doing more parenting than me these days too. PM me if you ever want to meet up for a coffee and a chat/moan :)

Milk, believe me my darling, your friends care...they may not be able to answer their phones immediately but I absolutely promise you, they care xxx

Sorry I didn't reply yesterday

In the end one of my friends I called up gave me a good telling off for not calling sooner and we went to the park near where she worked together at lunch time :)

Thank you for all your lovely comments :) Thank goodness I am feeling a lot better today :)

How you feeling today milk?

Hopefully you're having a good day. It is Friday after all. :)

Hello :)

I am feeling a lot better today, thank you :) Looking back I feel a bit silly being so down on Wednesday damn those crazy hormones!!!

Ah, dont feel silly. We're all allowed our down days. I sometimes think just writing it down and getting it out of your system is enough to make you feel a bit better. :)

"I sometimes think just writing it down and getting it out of your system is enough to make you feel a bit better."

Completely agree :)