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I just burst into tears on midwife

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wildpoppy · 19/09/2012 10:36

So embarrassed. Was asking me about birth of dd (nearly two years ago) and I said she had coughing fit on mucus on first night and was rushed away for suctioning and I was worried it would happen again as I thought she was just coughing and didn't notice anything was wrong. Said all this then burst into great sobs. Aaaaargh. Will I ever get over it? Will I now be marked down as emotionally unstable?

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CaptainHetty · 19/09/2012 10:39

They're used to it, you're pregnant, you're hormonal, and we're allowed to burst into tears at the drop of a hat. Please don't worry anyone is going to think you're unstable.

If it makes you feel any better I burst into tears because I dropped a trifle on the floor last week :o

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wildpoppy · 19/09/2012 10:41

Yes but you nearly lost a trifle. That is serious!

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Lambzig · 19/09/2012 10:41

I sobbed in front of my consultant last week (32 weeks pg) when planning the birth and talking about my (lovely) experiences when DD was born. I also believe I used the word 'magical' at least three times. DH was mortified.

ISeeThreadPeople · 19/09/2012 10:46

I cried all over several HCPs when pg with ds. I would snot and gulp and sob. The consultant put a manly hand on my shoulder and told me I was 'a strong, powerful mother' and I cried more. The midwife, scooted over to sit next to me, cuddled me and cried herself and I cried more. They did write in my notes about it. The put an instruction in there to treat me well as I was suffering with birth trauma. Every person who attended ds's birth saw the note in red pen with lots of !!! and was bloody lovely.

Cry away. It's normal. I cried when pg with dd because I couldn't choose which bubble bath to buy and they all sounded so wonderful and naturey and soothing. I was gently removed from the toiletries aisle in Sainsbo's and given tea by concerned staff.

CaptainHetty · 19/09/2012 10:53

It was not able to be salvaged, I think it was more the loss of trifle than the mess that reduced me to tears. The cat enjoyed it though.

I also nearly lost my temper with a sonographer yesterday, have to go in once a week for a scan and I usually have the same person every time. This one wanted my jeans pulled halfway down my thighs, my right arm above my head, my left arm by my side... I nearly burst into the Hokey Cokey while she was busy directing my arms and legs. Told me off for putting my hand under my head, kept telling me I was breathing when she asked me to hold my breath (it was the baby kicking, not me breathing, I was on the verge of passing out rather uncomfortable from not breathing at the time )

Perhaps pregnancy just makes us all emotionally unstable :o

eagleray · 19/09/2012 10:58

Am 23 weeks pg, sat on loo at work reading this on my phone and crying with laughter (complete with snot and tears). Challenge is now to recompose myself as due in a bloody meeting!

milkyjo · 19/09/2012 11:15

I've just cried reading this!

mrsdaisaku · 19/09/2012 11:52

Also another one reduced to tears just from reading this... Aren't hormones wonderful things??

piggyboo · 19/09/2012 12:08

cried twice at my MW appointments so far this pregnancy. MW even scheduled my last visit as a long one at my house so i could talk through my birth plan 'in my own surroundings'. Think she must think i'm suffering from PTSD when actually i cry at anything these days, even cried at a documentary about a plane crash the other day.

helsybells · 19/09/2012 12:19

I burst into tears on "hello how are you" a week ago!! I was feeling really emotional and down largely through lack of sleep and being fed up (1 week to DDate). I agree with others, they are totally used to it and it happens all the time!

Also agree CaptainHetty I'm not surprised you cried dropping a trifle - so disappointing and everything is 10 times more effort when you're pregnant so effectively it's the same as dropping 10 trifles!!!!

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wildpoppy · 19/09/2012 12:24

I want a trifle so much right now that I am almost crying with need.

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sundaesundae · 19/09/2012 12:26

I cried this morning because I have conjuctivitis, I then cried more because crying hurt, I wasn't that upset about it, but just started crying and crying. Twas ridonkulous.

SarryB · 19/09/2012 12:32

I cried when I was pregnant because I couldn't reach the remote control from where I was sitting, and really didn't want to watch Bargain Hunt.

TwinkleReturns · 19/09/2012 12:33

Im crying with laughter at CaptainHetty nearly doing the Hokey Cokey! Reminds me of my first scan with DD - I got the hysterical giggles! Every time I composed myself and she put the thingy on my tummy I burst out with hightpitched giggles. Luckily she had a sense of humour and we both ended up giggling hysterically while my then DP stood looking bemused and very concerned

Flisspaps · 19/09/2012 12:35

Sarry I'm not pregnant and that would make me cry!

MichaelFinnegansWhiskers · 19/09/2012 12:50

I was crying most of yesterday, after I fell over and banged my knee and ripped a hole in my only pair of comfortable jeans. Dd was on my shoulders at the time, so I couldn't put out a hand to stop myself and all the time I was falling I was thinking dd was going to come crashing down head first onto the pavement. She was fine though, and rather enjoyed the whole thing (18 months old, not a vicious sadist. Or no more than average for her age).

But I was so shocked that I was just sobbing and snotting wildly, and generally causing rather an embarassing scene on the high street. A nice lady hoiked me up off the floor and frogmarched me and dd into the chemists, where they sat me in the manicurist's chair and brought me a glass of water and some tissues.

sundaesundae · 19/09/2012 12:51

MFW I just started crying at the nicesness if the lady who hoiked you, i is mentals.

Sarry anyone would cry at that!

CaptainHetty · 19/09/2012 12:57

She also made DP sit on a chair in the corner, because if he moved a chair nearer me he was creating a fire hazard or something or other. So whilst I was laid on the bed thing, my jeans somewhere by my knees (thankfully I put decent pants on yesterday) and my arms waving around in some alternative, robotic hokey cokey, and intermittently holding my breath til I was going to burst, he had to watch from the corner of the room.

I also burst into tears because of the weekly scans and low fluid and poor growth the other day, and text DP at work to say I had 'the most ineffective uterus ever'. He cheered me up by telling me I had a 'lovely uterus'

CaptainHetty · 19/09/2012 13:01

Aw MFW, hope you're ok after your fall yesterday. Nice to know there are some kind people out there.

I too would cry at being forced to watch Bargain Hunt. I've taken to not watching TV because the remote is broken and I can't be arsed to get up every time I want to turn it over...

Northernlurkerisbackatwork · 19/09/2012 13:04

i suspect that HCPs don't worry much about the mums who weep everywhere. It's the ones who are scarily calm and don't cry who probably keep them up at nights worrying.

MickeyTheShortOne · 19/09/2012 13:07

I cry at work at least 3 times a week- don't worry about it! It's normal. Its always the constant "Are you alright?" questions that get me!!

MickeyTheShortOne · 19/09/2012 13:07

Also laughing at Sarry (sorry!!) for the bargain hunt thing. I think I would cry too!!

Wetthemogwai · 19/09/2012 13:12

When I was pg I cried because the yogurt I was eating wasn't the flavour I thought it was...

Doraemon · 19/09/2012 13:12

I nearly burst into tears yesterday listening to a radio programme about Dire Straits ffs.
Cried at my booking in appointment, very nearly cried over research midwife at first scan, sobbed all over another childminder at toddler group last week and fully expecting to sob all over consultant tomorrow because I will have to talk about DS1s premature birth 7 years ago - suspect I have some degree of PTSD but also have history of antenatal and postnatal depression so feel like I should preface anything I say with 'I will probably burst into tears in a minute but I'm not depressed at the minute, actually feel really good, but any mention of SCBU gets me going'. Suspect my notes will have 'mentally unstable' all over them in capital letters and highlighter pen by the time this baby comes.....

crazypaving · 19/09/2012 14:56

I know it's wrong but this thread has me in fits of giggles.

I'm a hormonal wreck too. In my last pg I accidentally put a yellow duster in with our white bedsheets and dyed them yellow. DH found me on the floor in the kitchen, surrounded by yellow sheets, sobbing. We bought some more lovely ones, and then I had an unplanned homebirth and, well, they had to go in the bin too in the end.

Last pg also we bought a whole new set of dinnerware. I picked up all the dinner plates and dropped them on the tile floor. My goodness I'm clumsy when I'm pregnant. Lucky I have a lovely DH - dealing with lots of broken china plus snotty sobby wife...

This time I'm mainly weeping at adverts, crap TV and general self pity.

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