Crying at 33 weeks

[Weepo]

Looking for reassurance that this is normal/hormonal.

Other than the usual frustrations of life and preparing for a baby there is honestly no reason for me to be crying - I mean proper sobbing. I am 33+4 and this has been happening for about a month now.

I can't think of a good reason for the tears (I am very lucky in many ways) and yet every so often (2/3 times a week) they bubble up and I can't stop them. It is starting to make me paranoid that I am suffering from AND or that I will be more likely to suffer from PND. I also feel guilty about making a fuss when there is nothing wrong and there are so many others with a good reason to be upset.

I have been managing to hide the worst of it from DP and others to avoid having to explain myself (because I can't) but I think he is starting to notice when I disappear for baths or a rest or a drive at unusual times. I know I probably should be talking with him about it, but I really don't have any idea how to explain myself. Plus I don't want him to feel he ought to be trying to make me feel better when there may not be any way of doing so.

Hello,

I am 33+5 and suffering too, cried yesterday at work and this morning all over DH plus most nights. I think with me a lot to do with excruciating SPD but in general life is good so really nothing to cry about.

Anyway we are well within our rights to become hormonal messes! Don't hide it from DP as he will make you feel better! X

What triggers the crying?

I cried over marshmallows the other day, which is definitely just hormones, but I had AND when I was expecting DC1 (and then PND) and I'd often cry just because I felt miserable and didn't know why.

It's definitely worth discussing with your MW and your DH. If it is AND then the earlier you ask for help, the better. If PND can be avoided it is worth doing, even if you feel silly.

Thanks ladies.

There is often nothing to trigger the crying, but last night it was initially because I didn't fancy any of the food in the kitchen for dinner (this was easily solved with a quick trip to the shops), but I am fairly certain most of the time I am crying because I don't know why I am crying, if that makes any sense!

How did you know you had AND?

My MW is a bit rubbish with anything non medical and tends to rush through our appointments, but I may bring it up with her next week in case she has any advise.

I didn't realise I had AND until I was diagnosed with PND. I kept being asked how long I had felt as I did, when did it start, and the answer was from about 25 weeks pg. I really wish that I'd known about AND and what to look out for. Women have different experiences of it but my experience was:

• feeling overwhelmed by the demands of everyday life, often ending up in bed crying over the 'stress' of having to make a phone call, drive somewhere, having someone turn up unexpectedly etc.

• (especially after having the baby) wanting to run away to somewhere where no one would know me so people would stop hassling me. Hassling being friends and family sending texts, phone calls, meeting up, saying hello in the street: normal things.

• being completely thrown by any change of plan or break from routine, usually ending up with me in bed/going out for a walk/going for a drive to try to calm down, then getting an early night.

• constantly worrying about the baby and DH, thinking they would die, crying hysterically every time DH was 5 minutes late home from work thinking he'd been killed in a car crash.

• not wanting to do anything, go anywhere or talk to anyone. I spent all day every day of maternity leave before DS was born in the house with the curtains closed just sitting there, reading a book or surfing the Internet.

Really not fun.

If your MW isn't great then you can always book an appointment with your GP. My HV referred me to the GP anyway.