Baby? texts started already!

[sparklekitty]

I'm only 39+1. Due date at the wknd and I've already has 2 'are you in labour yet' texts today! I've done everything I can to get things going and its all failed so I accepted yesterday that things will happen when the happen and I'm going to rest and not worry about it. Ironic that as soon as I give up and accept baby is in charge people start asking.

I totally understand that people are interested and impatient (1st baby on both sides) but these texts came from DM and DSIL both of whom I'm very close to and have promised that I will let them know as soon as labour kicks off.

I'm not annoyed at all, just think its funny that as soon as I regain my patience about it all others seems to be loosing theirs!

Ahhhhh - such a tightrope, I always worry if I don't ask it will seem like I am not caring / thinking of the mum, but if you do you are mithering them. Maybe I will send texts just saying 'thinking of you' in future - that should cover it.

Glad you have found your patience, I am only 36 weeks tomorrow and losing mine already - but if it would just unhook its feet from my ribs I'm sure I could find some more patience from somewhere! Can I have some of what you are having

ignore them and you might regret telling them when you go into labour as they'll be sending messages every ten minutes or wanting to rush to the hospital to wait it out
ignore and switch off your phone

I agree with PP. I was induced (had PE) at 38+6 and DD took 6 days to come! I was getting texts left, right and centre, every hour asking if anything was happening. As if I needed reminding my body was not doing what it was supposed to.

Maybe send a few texts every hour saying 'No, still not in labour' and they might get the message!!!

Jenner - you're right, it must be a tightrope between looking like you don't care and being overbearing. I know they're only enquiring because they care and are excited, just funny it's happened just as I've given up worrying about it :)

jkklpu - I know what you mean, they know I'll text when labour kicks off properly, then when I go to hospital, they also know they are not to come to hospital until I've called and that phone will be off while I'm there giving birth. They aren't unreasonable people and will respect that but this could be going on for a while!

I have made it clear that I won't be responding to "are you in labour texts" and that they should all be directed to DH as I really don't think I will want to speak to those STUPID people... YOU WILL KNOW WHEN I GO INTO LABOUR IF I AM CLOSE TO YOU AND LIKE YOU... Otherwise you will find out via Facebook a few days later... :)

lol Natty! I've had a text from DH this morning asking if I've had any more contractions :) Bless him, he still can't quite get his head around that fact that I won't have a few contractions, gushing waters and a baby will arrive a few hours later!! (It'll take him a few hours to get home from work)

I've already told people that I wont tell them until the baby is here, only hubby & I will know when I'm in labour, the main reason is that I am a private person and hate being the centre of attention, the last thing i want is to be worrying about keeping people waiting for news.

Another big reason is that hubby & I can choose to have a few hours just the 3 of us before anyone else knows and the masses arrive!

36 weeks here and already grumpy-grots about the constant "how are you feeing?" texts. I am the biggest bitch on planet Earth but it pisses me off! I just feel like an incubator - neither my parents nor in laws showed this much interest in me pre-pregnancy

When the labour texts start, I am going to send DH's phone number en masse, and he can deal with it.

Grumpy-grots. If they didn't do it, I'd be sobbing that they didn't care.

Text "yes, but we're not telling anyone", then don't reply to anything else from them. Confused the hell out of the few people silly enough to ask me. This time I'm smarter and deliberately vague about my due date.

My dad rang the other day "to say hi" which is UNHEARD of....I love him dearly but like you Orenishii, I didn't feel that I was considered worthy of that much attention before I was pregnant!

If anyone asks outright "Any news yet?" I'm going to say "Yes, I had the baby two weeks ago, he's adorable". As if I wouldn't have TOLD THEM if the baby was here.

I didn't tell anyone except my close family and friends my due date, specifically so I didn't get the texts and phone calls should I have gone past my due date. Thankfully DS arrived at 37+6 in about 5 hours flat so my mum had only managed to tell my immediate family. Got a call from my sister to wish me luck and love and other than that, only texts from close people to tell me they were thinking of us and nothing that required a response. I actually quite enjoyed receiving them!

I would do the same for the next one, whenever anyone asked when baby was due, I'd tell them early October. That way, I wouldn't get anyone annoying me. I'm not known for my patience with stupidity...

I'm getting sick of it too! 39+4 now, and getting several texts and a couple of phonecalls a day. It mainly seems to be people who either haven't had children, or who had theirs several years ago (so have forgotten what it feels like to be massively pregnant, hormonal and frustrated about lack of baby yet!). Even my boss texted me today to say that everyone at work is surprised that I haven't had the baby yet. I'm not even due yet!!

I'm 40+6 today and I swear the next person to text/whatsapp/fb me with "any news?" or "are you still pregnant?" or similar will get full force rage. If there was any news we would share it. If we didn't want to share it then I won't tell you even if you ask! Wouldn't be so bad but some of the people asking are mothers themselves and must remember what it was like?!

I had it too but people are just excited. Not sure why that means you have to be angry or rage at them. Good luck everyone.

Erm because it's been 2 weeks of texts and messages and I'm getting slightly annoyed at having to repeat "no news yet when there is we'll let you know"? How many times do I have to say the same thing before it sinks in that we'll let them know? I'm stressed enough as it is facing induction without being reminded every 5 minutes that I've not had a baby yet.

I had the same, was induced at 40 + 15. Nobody means any harm by it do they?