Paranoia in early pregnancy

[goodbyekitty123]

Hi guys. I'm new here. I've just found out I'm (around 5 weeks) pregnant with my second child. To be honest I thought I would be totally cool this time round and take everything in my stride but I feel so anxious. I swing from feeling very relaxed and positive to feeling worried and paranoid.
I've been having a few niggly cramps and some backache so this hasn't helped. I had this during my first pregnancy (which was over 3 years ago now) and it worried me then but it all turned out fine-so I don't know why I am getting so anxious about it really.
Are there any other expectant mums out there experiencing the same thing? Just want to know I'm not alone really.

hello!

I have the exact same thing, although my paranoia is still with me. I think our hormones and bodies make us do crazy things in pregnancy.

Your not alone x

I think a lot of people feel like this. I was very anxious during my second pregnancy, obsessing over twinges and reading up on all that could go wrong. I was surprised by it as I'd expected to be much calmer after my first pregnancy was fine. I miscarried at 12 weeks with the second, sadly.

I'm pg again now, 10 weeks, and I feel much calmer this time. I think in a way having it happen meant that I really realised I had no control over the process, and that if I am going to miscarry again it will happen whether I worry about it or not. We've also been TTCing much longer this time, so I've got more into stress management, starting meditating regularly etc. and I think that's really helped as I can identify the feelings building now and just let go of them. Could you try some relaxation CDs or something?

I'm sorry you are feeling anxious. I hope that it all goes well for you and that you find it easier after the scan.

Thanks for putting my mind at ease a bit. Philbee that's horrible about your previous pregnancy, good luck this time. Your post helped me realise that being anxious like this only stresses me out. I guess I just can't handle not being in control.
I had a word with my partner about my anxiety and he says he feel the same which is reassuring. I think I'll feel better after my first scan. I've just got to try not to be so impatient now!!

Thank you both for your kind words. Good luck to both of you. Fingers crossed we all have happy, healthy pregnancies!
xx

early pregnancy is terribly hard. My first was relatively trouble free and resulted in my son now aged 4. I then had 3 missed miscarriages around 12 weeks and then 2 early MCS around 6 weeks. I'm now 37 weeks with DS2, and this pregnancy has been on the surface trouble free, but not empty of worry and stresses and paranoia. It's hard I know. Try and stay positive and cliche though it is take one day at a time.

I had a missed MC at 9 weeks in March this year. Devastated doesn't cover it. I'm now pregnant again, thankfully, and am just over four weeks, but I'm absolutely petrified. Being 41 yrs old is definitely adding to the anxiety. Have being obsessing about when the mucus plug will develop over the weekend :o/. Head is mashed. Got an ante natal appt on Friday and will be asking for an early scan to help put my mind at ease.

I am with you all on this, 42 and six weeks pregnant with my second, had my first at 38, I'm obsessing because I don't feel the same (although defo still feel pregnant) as I did with my first. There's not much we can do except offer each other support on MN and try and 'suck it up' as one of my US relatives would say. And talk through things with understanding friends of course!

I think we'll all relax a bit after the 12 week scan. Just gotta keep it together for another 6 weeks!