Positive test... don't quite believe it (lots of questions)

[TremoloGreen]

So, I had a positive pregnancy test this morning(!!) We've been trying for over a year, I have PCOS and don't always ovulate and we were just waiting for an appointment at the fertility clinic. So even though I have been actively trying, this is still somewhat of a surprise to me. It hasn't really sunk in, and I feel very afraid that the pregnancy will not last (or I will wake up tomorrow having dreamt the whole thing!) I'd really like to hear from others who have been in a similar situation, perhaps you can let me know whether feeling like this is normal or not, and say reassuring things to me

I have a couple of other questions...
It was only a cheap pregnancy test. Would it be mad to buy a ClearBlue later and test again?

When should I tell my doctor/ refer to a midwife and how does all that work? I live in Lewisham (borough) between King's, St Thomas' and Lewisham hospitals. Do I have to pick which one I want to go to before I access the midwife service? Do I phone the maternity department directly or my GP?

I have to go to Bangkok for a business trip in two weeks. Can I still go? I assume it's safe to fly, but will the change in time zones/ tiring myself out be dangerous? I don't really think I can tell my employer I'm not going to go but I don't want to stress myself out

Right, I'm off to read about what I shouldn't be eating and all that stuff (and maybe even do some work today). Thanks in advance!

First of all congratulations!

Next I'm 9 weeks still don't feel pregnant and this is my second I've been trying for a while too and the anxiety is normal its something you want so much when it happens you're scared it can't be real or its going to be taken away from you only thing you can do is relax!

If you want to buy a clearblue to make yourself feel better then its not mad but you'll have the same result! Its very rare to get a false positive

Phone your GP whenever you feel comfortable they'll refer you to the midwife after confirming the pregnancy they'll either ask you to take in a urine sample from that morning or they'll get you to pee in a jar while you're there to confirm. Being reffered to the midwife could happen anytime between 8-10 weeks depending on your area.

You can go on your trip its not dangerous but odds are you're going to be more tired than usual anyway and coping with morning sickness if you're suffering from that is going to be a pain in the butt on a plane and the altitude may make it worse.

The main thing to remember though is to relax and enjoy your pregnancy

Tremolo, congratulations! I can't add to QueenofJacks comments about the next steps etc but just wanted to say that you would NOT be mad to want to test again, and again, and again; you would be entirely normal! A false positive is extremely unusual but that doesn't mean you need stop at 1 test if you don't want to. I did tests just because I liked the feeling of seeing the second line appear. At the start I even did "control" tests using water and even got my husband to do one (!).

Actually, maybe I'm the abnormal one.

In terms of which hospital to choose in my area (Yorkshire) my midwife asked for a provisional choice to fill in the box, but said we'll talk about hospitals later and I think around 36 weeks she wants a firm decision of hospital from me, although I knew on day 1 where I wanted to give birth.
In terms of the test it's not mad to go out and buy a Clear Blue but if you strip them down they're all the same underneath. I went the opposite way and rather than buying an expensive test I weed on the cheapies I'd bought of eBay for about 10 days until my DP told me to stop being mad because I was obviously pregnant.
Your trip will be fine, just make sure you get up a lot on the flight for a wander to stretch your legs, although flying that far I'm sure you would anyway. Spend all your non-business time relaxing, napping and taking care of yourself. I went on holiday at about 8 weeks and I felt great away in the sun and was much better than when I was at home. There's also nothing to say your going to suffer and you'll breeze through the first part of your pregnancy.
Good luck.

Aaah tremolo your OP could have been written by me. :) So I hope what you're feeling is totally normal!!

I did a test last Wednesday (pretty much when my period would have been due) because I went to the pharmacist about something and she nonchalantly asked if I was pregnant. I went home and did a test, certain it would be negative but it wasn't. Nor was the next 4. Or the 2 Clearblue tests I did after that. Or the two tests I've done since. Thank God for bulk buying off eBay!

Basically doing more than one test, particularly given your situation, is NOT mad. It's totally normal. Its the months and months of trying and getting nowhere being that niggling little negative Nancy in your brain. ;)

You should make an appointment with your GP who will do an initial consultation (and give another pregnancy test if you want). They'll set up your 12 week scan and go through things with you. :)

For the business trip, I'm in exactly the same boat. The first week in October I'm due to go to the West Coast on a business trip. I'm going to go since the flying itself isn't harmful (assuming you keep hydrated and walk about) but, like you, am concerned about stress and getting enough rest.

Thanks for the replies everyone. I'm glad you've all confirmed I'm not mad, as I have just gone out and purchased a couple of Clearblues (the ones that apparently tell you how pregnant you are) I'll do it tomorrow morning.

Secondsop that made me laugh, sounds like something me and DH would do, you're not a scientist too by any chance??

Thank you for all the reassurance about the trip, I am only there three days, so I will just push through. The flights are business class and overnight, so I will try and sleep as much as possible (and maybe book in for a massage if I get any time off)

Weeblueberry How funny that we're in the same boat. I just got back from the West Coast... at least when you're at your meeting, you shouldn't be too jet-lagged flying that way. Hope it goes well.

I'm just going to try and take the next few weeks as they come and not worry too much!

I think that your midwife service will depend on your GP as they are the ones that refer you. I am in Southwark and I had my booking in appointment at King's and all my scans are there. I see my midwife at my GP surgery (although she is also from King's). Nearer to the due date they then ask where you want to give birth so I think at that stage you'll be offered the different hospitals as choices.

Many congratulations! we tried for a similar length of time and I also have PCOS, I know how amazing and worrying it is when you finally do see those 2 lines.

You are not mad at all to want to test again. Just a word of warning though, those CB digitals are notoriously unreliable (can give negatives even when other tests give positives). Do make sure you use first morning wee and you might want to get a Clearblue or First Response non digital test to use just in case the digi one gives a negative (you might want to wee into a cup so you can dip two tests in if need be). Hopefully the digital one will work fine for you but just in case it doesn't!

Hi guys

So yesterday I took a pregnancy test as I was 5 (now 6 days) late for my period. 2 lines appeared almost instantly so I took another 2 the same happened.

I’m so happy beyond words that it says positive but is it natural to not believe what the test says ?

I feel like I want to do 100 more tests to confirm! (I will more then likely still not believe it lol!)

Hi @progia321

I did 8 tests when I was 4-5 weeks because I couldn’t believe it! There’s a 5 weeks pregnant thread that’s a little bit more up to date if you want to speak to people at the same stage as you. Really difficult at the beginning because it’s ALL you can think about, but you’re probably not ready to tell anyone yet!