Getting irritated by family members 'knowing best'

[LuckyOwl28]

Is anyone else experiencing friends or family being a bit too forthcoming with their opinions or knowledge on what you should or shouldn't be doing?

I had a bit of a battle with Gran and Aunty yesterday when I dropped the bombshell that there won't be a Christening. Anticipating a follow up lecture soon.

Another one i'm experiencing a lot are people's do's and don'ts with food! I know I'm probably being over cautious by avoiding the foods that I am (eg. cheesecake yesterday), but for me personally with this being my first and at least til I've had my 12 week scan I don't want to take any chances. I wish people would respect my wishes, especially as I don't have the energy to explain myself at the moment!

Shall I expect this for the rest of the pregnancy? I can't imagine ever lecturing anyone about their baby choices, unless they asked my opinion or unless it risked the child's health significantly!

I once asked about a pushchair in JL. During the conversation my DD (about 18 months at the time) asked me for water, so I got her cup out. Cue the sales assistant telling me I really shouldn't pander to her like that and she'd grow up demanding and hard work. Oh and she also told me she had no children but knew lots of children. I was giving her water FFS, it's not like she had a tantrum about chocolate so I bought her a chocolate factory!

Cheesecake is fine especially shop bought.

However if you don't want to eat something then surely you can choose for yourself? You are an adult after all! My tip is not to say it is because of pregnancy. Just say "no thank you I am full up perhaps I'll have some later" or use morning/all day sickness as an excuse and say "oh no I had something like that the other day and it made me feel so sick for hours - i'd better pass on that!" Or even just say "no thanks I don't fancy it"

Pregnant or not - you do not have to justify your choice of what food goes in your mouth to other people.

I come from a very large family (think siblings in the double figures) One of my sisters is routinely ignored and avoided by a large percentage of my siblings. The split between those of us who talk to her and those of us who would do anything to avoid her is split cleanly down the line of who has children and who doesn't.

As the group sans children is getting smaller with every passing year you would think by now she would have realised that lecturing us on how to raise our children is possibly not well received.