ultrasound pics on facebook?

[Lovelylace]

Right, tbh I dont really care if people want to put their ultrasound pivs of their children on facebook, but it has alwasy been a no no for me personally..This is a little individual i am carrying and I think that it is a bit of an infringement on his/her integrity if I start posting pics of them in my utereus on a public forum..now to the issue...i am swedish and both my parents live back home. I have e-mailed both my parents (they are separated) pics form the ultrasound which they have enjoyed and it makes them feel part of this pregnancy even though they cannot be here with me in person..I have never forbid them outright to put the pics on there and as I am now 15 +3 weeks preggers I have no problems with them telling their friends and family about their coming grandchild..providing nothing bad happens...however today i find that my dad have posted ALL the ultrasound pics on FB and tagged me in the pics so that they have popped up on my wall as well..I am not much on there but use it to easily stay in touch with old friends and family back home...now of course there have been an onslaught in wellwishers and questions from not very close acquintances, which is nice but I still would have liked to kept to images private, and some of the people that I have as friends there are collegues, and I havent yet told my boss I am pregnant..which wasent how I wanted the news to reach my boss, and this will undoubtedly cause friction when i come back to work on Monday after holidays... not happy with my dad, and have sent him a polite mail to take them down..even though the damage is probably already done...anyway I am overreacting...maybe it aint such a bad thing..sooner or later people will find out, and maybe some ultrasound pics is not really such a bad thing to have on a public forum??

We have totally vetoed anything about our daughter going on fb, it's not our life to put on the internet. If and when she's old enough/wants to she can put whatever pictures she likes up there when she's old enough to decide for herself. And that includes scan pictures!

Proud to say there's not a single photo of her anywhere accessible on the internet

It is a personal decision but I can't bear scan pictures on Facebook. I think it's tasteless and I found it massively upsetting when I had a MMC. I don't expect anyone to not post them because I once found it upsetting but I wouldn't do it myself.

I'm not keen on the 'immediately post birth' pics that seem to be the rage at the moment where the baby is still gunky and the mum has barely shut her legs and has one boob hanging out, either. Think they should be in the private collection, not on the Internet.

I'd be a bit mad at my dad in your position too OP. I woud never think sharing someone else's news on a social network before them was ok.

Very good points being put forward about the fact that it can be upsetting if you have suffered a MC...

and yes you'd have thought that people would realise that you don't put on pics of others on there if they have been emailed to you as that implies that you do not want them on the forum.

FB can serve a purpose, it is very good for keeping in touch with people abroad, but it can also be a tricky and sometimes dangerous thing..people should be careful on what they put on there, to much personal information and it might well come back to haunt you. I think these social networking sites are so new that we havent really quite developed a code of conduct on how they are best to be used, and cyber bullying etc is failry commonplace..anyway, personally I will be very careful what pics of my children, both when unborn and born I decide to share with the world..

I can't see a problem but then I don't have people on my Facebook that I wouldn't want to know. I am not a 200friends +person.

Your dad is proud of you, thats a lovely thing. If your really unhappy ask him to remove them

The pics are now removed on my request and dad said he was sorry...

I havent got hundreds of friends on FB, but I as I have worked all over the world, I have friends that I am not THAT close with but still like to keep in touch with and Fb is perfect for that...great to arrange hook ups when travelling, etc..and even though I am fairly computer savvy, I had missed out the tag setting..but that is now rectified..Otherwise my mates are not really the kind of people that would plaster unflattering pics of other friends on FB either and this is the first time something like this have happened.
And totally agree about the "immidiate post birth photos" YUK, I really think that is for personal use...

I would never post a scan pic, in fact I've only shown our scan pic to my sister and bf - as far as I'm concerned it's a totally private thing and not for anyone else's consumption. The pic is on our mantelpiece though, so if people do visit us they may see it, but I don't feel the need to shout it from the rooftops.
Also my other bf, who lives on the other side of the world, is unable to conceive and is in fact currently in the early stages of surrogacy. I wouldn't dream of rubbing it in her face, especially as this was a very much unplanned pregnancy.

I agree with you, OP. Your dad has posted your medical scans on Facebook. Scans of the interior of your body! Not okay! I hope he takes them down. It's YOUR BODY.

(FWIW, I don't post mine on Facebook because I do see it as a medical thing. I just feel it's a bit weird to see the inside of someone else's body on there as well, but lots of people seem to be into it....)

Glad he removed them, OP. I'm totally with you on this one!!

I think I'll probably be the only one saying this and I expect to be slightly barbecued, but I think it's being a bit oversensitive not to post your own baby photos because someone who's had difficulty conceiving or has had a miscarriage might see them. I spent the majority of my 20s and 30s certain that I would never be able to have children, and when friends told me they were pregnant I would congratulate them warmly and wholeheartedly then put the phone down and cry. I appreciate that having a miscarriage is vastly more of a loss, but surely it's part of being a friend to someone that you are glad for them and happy to celebrate their baby with them, regardless of your own status. I think it's pretty solipsistic to expect your friends to censor themselves because of something that happened to you. Sometimes it ain't all about you.

Zulieka while I think some of what you say is true, there are problems with fb that don't apply in real life - so, the friend who puts their scan pic as their profile picture and it appears all the time; the tagged wall photos that jump onto your own wall; the pictures that keep coming back every time someone comments on them.

Zuleika I do see what you mean, but I would see it as being quite insensitive (not to mention a bit naff, but that's another story). I told my mate about it and she was delighted for us, as I knew she would be. However I did that in a private message, so that any response she made would also be private and just between me and her.
I suppose what I'm really not a fan of is the "Look at me! look at me! I'm pregnant" implication of sticking scans on facebook. Not saying everyone does it because of that, but there are certainly quite a few who do. I'm just not into that sort of self-promotion.

Zuleika, I agree, and think baby pics are really fine. If I get down about them it's my prob. But scan pics seem a lot more personal to me, the baby is still inside! Plus so many people get bad news at their scan, so those images are particularly powerful I think. And lastly, a lot of people aren't only communicating with close friends on FB, but also with a load of random acquaintances as well, I think that's where the problem is.

I have seen other people announcing baby news, going into labour, baby names etc on facebbok. Not their own, oh no - another person's.
I always when I see them.

No problem at all with people putting their own news up there but when someone else does it I always wonder how pissed off that person is going to be.