should i keep my baby?

[YummyMummy17]

i have just found out im pregnant - i already have a 3year old from a different partner and have been with my current partner just under a year and haven't moved in together yet...

we have a great relationship with each other, but is it too soon? is he ready? can we afford a child ..... these are all the things going through my mind. either way he says he will support me, i guess i just don't want to be left a single mother again...

we both in our hearts want it, but our heads seem to be saying different...

im not asking anyone to make our decision for us, just need some friendly advice ?

thanks

I think you should speak to your GP and ask for some counselling? This isn't the kind of advice you should be seeking from an internet forum imho (sorry)

I think if you are asking the question, then you probably want to keep the child. It is not a "if the pros are more numerous than the cons, we go for it" kind of decision, it is so much more emotional than that.

fluffys advice is pretty sound too. Best of luck deciding.

What's the alternative to keeping it? Could you live with yourself if you either had a termination or gave the child for adoption? I couldn't.
Sounds harsh I know - but I just couldn't do it.

Your heart is the only consult you need.

I think you already probably know what you want, but came here for validation.

i was with my boyfriend forabout 10 months before i got pregnant. we were planning on it though and he wasnt living with me. I thinkwe made the right choice. only you will know whats right for you though so good luck xxx

Is it not far better to end up a single mum to two lovely dc than have to live with the regret of a abortion?

I have nothing againsed abortion but if your only reason is "not wanting to be a single parent again" then even though I think you are being sensible thinking through your options you don't really want a abortion do you?

Whatever you decide though you will always get great advice here. Good luck.

I'd been with my partner less than 3 months when I found out I was pregnant - I also have a dd from a previous relationship. It is a pretty scary thing to deal with and as someone said already, only you can decide what is right for you. And it's about what you can or can't live with.
I worried a lot about the effect a new baby would have on my relationship with my dd and with her dad (it's tricky at the best of times!) and I have a lot of concerns about living with a partner again after nearly two years on my own. I considered the alternatives of termination and adoption but felt that I would struggle with these emotionally far more than the 'known' risk of having a child, iykwim...
So I decided to go for it and consider the baby a very 'unexpected blessing'. I'm 21 weeks now and my partner is turning out to be the most reliable and brilliant man I've ever met and my dd is excited to be getting a sibling although gutted it's not a sister
Good luck with your decision - be brave and do what's right for you.

I was with my boyfriend about 3weeks when i fell pregnant, but we was over the moon. We lost our baby boy at 23weeks we don't regret it, I then fell pregnant again after being with him for 8 months but I miscarried again but at 7weeks. Everything we've been through has made us stronger. Only you can decide, go for a meal and talk to you boyfriend about it?

When i aaid we dont regret it I don't mean loosing my baby boy I mean falling pregnant. Just didnt want anyone to misunderstand he was the best thing that happened to us our first perfect baby x

Don't rely on your partner. Would u keep it if your partner wasn't there?
My DC1 was 3 when I got pregnant with diff partner, I'm a single mum again and 2 is def much harder than one. But would I swap my life? most of the time no.