Viability scan tomorrow

[jumpingjackhash]

Hi there, I'm currently 7wks 2 days pg following ICSI and am due to have a viability scan (awful term!) tomorrow.

I understand it's to check there's a heartbeat, but anything else I need to know or ask about? I think it's an internal scan, so not sure what we'll 'see'?

We've had a bfp from ICSI before but I lost that before we got this far, so while part of me is pleased and excited to have made it this far, a massive part of me is terrified!

My viability scan after IVF was internal (basically the same procedure as when my ovaries were scanned during the treatment) and we saw a little blob that had a flickering bit at the centre which was the heartbeat - amazing! (In fact I'm just off to my 20 week scan now.)

It took a bit of routing around by the nurse to find it and we obviously had no idea what they were looking for so it was a bit unsettling until she said "Look, that's the heartbeat" so don't panic if your nurse doesn't say anything to start with, it might take time to find and it's a small dot in the middle of an otherwise empty space!

The other thing they checked was that it was a singleton pregnancy rather than multiples. Then I was given a list of foods not to eat and discharged to my GP. They then send a confirmation letter to your GP and I had to go in to see the doctor to be referred to the local midwife team. I don't think there's anything you need to particularily ask at the scan.

Good luck, I really, really hope you see the flicker and will have my fingers crossed for you.

Thanks BadgerFace, it's reassuring there's not much more to it (although still scared they'll find nothing there and I've been imagining the nausea, sore nips, constant need to pee!).

So internal, so empty bladder and a little bit of patience is called for!

DH is coming with me and we've both taken the afternoon off work so we can either get excited (finally, we've not let ourselves talk about it properly yet!) or sob together! I'm not sure who's more nervous - me or him!

I'm trying to be rational but feel far too aware of all the things that can go wrong (at every stage), is that part and parcel of being cautious through assisted conception, or just being neurotic?!

I think it's normal be it assisted conception or conventional! The thing I found hardest about IVF was the waiting for the next stage after each thing was ticked off. Turns out that was good practice for waiting for the next stage for pregnancy...

I am hopeful that this scan is the last waiting for thing I think about for a while - got to be an optimist!

In that case I'm glad it's not just me being neurotic! I guess the checklist/hurdle practice approach is a good way of looking at it.

Hi. I had my viability scan on saturday. She tried over the belly first and but too snall so had an internal.
Seeing the flicker in the screen of the heartbeat was incredible. My friend came with me and recorded it on my phone for me, I must have watched it 1000 times! Good luck and enjoy!

That's a good friend Laura! I'll get DH to get a snap if the screen or film it! Do you reckon the clinic will give me one of the print outs they do?!

Barely slept last night, just so worried about all of the things that can go wrong, while I need to focus on the things that can go right!

Good luck today jj

Hope it all went well jumping, I remember you from icsi hand holding!

No heartbeat

Feel betrayed by my body for giving me symptoms when there's just a sack there. Don't quite know how else to feel or what to do at the moment.

So sorry...

Take care of yourself. X

So sorry, I have been where you are. There are just no words.

Thanks, just feel so empty (ironic, eh?). It's starting to feel like we'll never have a baby.

Sorry I don't know your history, how long have you been trying?

Lunar, 2 years before we started ivf over a year ago. This was our second fresh/full round of icsi and we had a frozen embryo transfer in between too.

Oh jack, it's so heartbreaking. It took me a long time and 3 loses. I wish nobody would ever have to go through it. Infertility is such an evil bitch.

Oh Jumping I'm so sorry to hear your news. My heart really goes out to you.

I hope you and your DH take care of yourselves and each other.

x

Thanks both, it's not helped by the fact that most of our closest friends are popping kids out (most of these pregnancies the result of just looking at each other saucily). Just feel so shit at the moment. It's so unfair, isn't it?!

Oh jumping I know that feeling too. My best mate got pregnant first time (although to be fair before we started trying) and then she got pregnant first time again whilst we were mid-IVF after loads of failed months of trying.

And her husband only has one ball! (childish, I know, but that still amuses me for some reason...).

But remember that this will always be the shittest, shittest moment, so the rollercoaster can only go up next.

oh jumping. so sorry

I really don't want to give you false hope, but there are quite a few stories out there of people who have been misdiagnosed at this early stage and gone on to have a healthy pg. If you have no mc signs in another week or two, do seek further tests. I know it is only a very small chance they are wrong and I don't want to prolong the limbo for you but just thought I would mention... If it is not this time, I really really hope it is next time for you.

Thanks minipie but I saw the sac myself. They said if it's not left my body in a couple of weeks then to go back and they'll scan and talk about 'helping' it out . I'm all for being hopeful but don't want to get carried away and get my hopes up again.