when did you tell people?

[babaloulou]

Just found out i am pregnant again after 4 miscarriages and a still born baby.

Feeling apprehensive but everything seems to be more positive this time. We have decided to keep the news to ourselves for as long as possible so our families don't feel anxious for us.

How long did you manage to keep you pregnancy quiet?

12wks, and I found that so hard (and told my mum) so sorry for your losses, it makes pregnancy a very anxious time doesn't it.

Best of luck xxx

My mum guessed at 5 weeks, I told my best friend at 7 (she has a new born and I was concerned about stomach pain) and everyone else was told after 12 week scan.

I have everything crossed that this pregnancy is successful for you.

I managed to hide it at work until 15 weeks and that was the second one so I was pretty big.

I told family and close friends earlier both times as I would need the support however it went IYSWIM.

good luck babbalou

I am 5 weeks and have told both sets of parents. Would have rather waited but oh wanted to tell his parents as they had bad news recently and he wanted to cheer them up.

Congratulations and good luck!!

Thanks everyone. This will hopefully be our dc3 so assuming i will show quicker! Would like to keep it quiet till Christmas but I'll be 22 weeks then!!

We told both sets of parents straight away, and then everyone else knew by 8 weeks as I got signed off work and had to explain why.

I did make me nervous that everyone knew so early, but I'm 24 weeks now and luckily everything has gone ok so far.

Told most people at 16 weeks, parents as soon as as I found out!

We told our families at 6 weeks and everyone else at 12 weeks wishing you all the best

I'm 9-10 weeks and not planning on telling anyone any time soon.

Lost a baby last year and found out just what a unsupportive bunch my "friends" are so not bothered about keeping it from them.

Can't wait to tell my parents but since they were the ones who really helped us last year I want to wait as long as possible so they don't worry.

Only dh & bf know just now.

I think my mum may have guessed but has not asked me yet.

I have a scan this week then another at 14 weeks so I def want to hold off until at least after that but I think I will end up with an amnio so will likely be 16 weeks.

This is dc4 so wish me luck keeping the belly hidden

advice sorry to hear that your friends let you down. Unfortunately my friends were rubbish also. Wishing you all the best xx

We told both mums at 10 weeks. Rest of family and friends at 12 weeks, work (aside from one close colleague) at 20 weeks...

I'm so sorry about what you've gone thru and your mates not being there for you.

I think you should do what you want.

All I would say is that yes you are shielding them from worry - but you are also shielding them from the small moments of joy that go with it. Don't feel that exposing them to worry is all bad.

But like I say do as you want. Just don't feel like you can't tell them.

I kept it from friends up to 28 weeks!! I would have told them earlier at 20 but in the end wanted to see who would guess first

I too suffered a MC last year so I can understand how you felt to an extent. Wishing you well

Wow abby 28 weeks that's impressive
would like to keep it quiet till Christmas and make a lovely announcement. I'll be 22 weeks then. I'll let you know how i get on.

OP, I think you should be able to do it. Much easier in the winter with lots of layers to wear than in the summer.

I kept DC2 quiet till New Year and she was due in early May - is that the same as you? It's a long time ago now and I cannot remember how many weeks I was. I knew that I didn't want work to know for ages because I had only just come back from maternity leave with DC1, and I had a friend who had had a mc and another friend who was trying ttc, so all in all it seemed easier to keep quiet for as long as poss!

Anyway, wear layers - a jacket or cardigan hides the side view. Also just bustle about busily as if NOT pg. People might start to guess but it is a brave person who actually asks, and even then you can just look offended, as if they are calling you fat.

i had an early miscarriage so i was very apprehensive about telling people this time.

i told close family and a couple of friends straight away. basically the people i would have needed around if i had another miscarriage.

i am not 12 weeks and starting to tell more people very slowly.

i hope all goes well for you

I managed to get to 20 weeks with dc3 before I told anyone other than DH following a previous still birth.
Good luck!

I have started telling people, we had "12" week scan last week, which put me at 10+ 5 and we told family etc. over the weekend. Acquaintances etc. will wait till after my proper 12 week scan, but we felt as i was 11 weeks and we had seen wriggly baby we are safeish.

Boss and a couple of colleagues I have puked in front of know, some times hard to cover!

I told a couple of close work colleagues at 6 weeks (had to because of my job). DH told his parents at 7 weeks after early scan. We told everyone else at 14 weeks. Probably could have kept it quiet for longer (if I had wanted) as didn't show for ages. After keeping the secret for what seemed like a long time, it felt like a funny thing to suddenly announce. Good luck OP.