Worried :(

[phoenixrose314]

Hi all. I went on holiday last week to Madeira, which was wonderful except I was 10+5 and suffering quite bad nausea all day long... I felt awful on the plane ride out, and a bit iffy for the rest of the day - and I had a small bleed a few hours after getting off the plane. However, the next day I woke up and felt nothing. Felt fine. I assumed it was because I was relaxed and on holiday, but I've since been back home and symptoms still not returned. This was a week and a half ago since I got home, and my 12 week scan isn't until this weekend.

I am really, really panicking that the baby has died, and that it's my fault for going on an aeroplane. I've had 3 MCs before, two at 7 weeks and one at 13 weeks, so am trying my best to keep my hopes up but every time I think about going into that scan and seeing no heartbeat... I break out in a cold sweat.

Please, can someone just give me reassuring stories so that my mind will be quiet and stop torturing me? I will never forgive myself if I have miscarried again.

I've had bleeds in both pregnancies. DS is now running about, 19 months old, shouting at daddy to hurry up, and I'm nearly 23 weeks with our little girl.

I've flew extensively in both pregnancies. The bleed may be nothing to panic about, but if (and I hope not) something has gone wrong, it is NOT your fault for flying. It categorically cannot cause a miscarriage. Flight attendants are allowed to fly until something like 6 months.

I hope everything is ok at your scan.

Flew? Flown.

It's not unusual for symptoms to abate towards the 10 week mark.

Don't worry, when you see your little dot on that screen it will be all worth it.

Good luck.

I've had bleeds during pregnancy and with both of my DCs, my early symptoms (i.e. nausea and the like) started to go at about 10-11 weeks.

You've obviously been through a lot and worrying is completely natural, but I hope this help to reassure you just a little bit.

Also, as Bunty says, flying cannot cause miscarriage so even if something happens, it is absolutely nothing to do with you. There is no doubt about that whatsoever.

Keeping fingers crossed for your scan x

I had a heavy bleed at 10 weeks and also felt a loss of symptoms. I was so convinced I'd lost the pregnancy I went to the scan with a sort of numb acceptance. When I saw a little wriggling baby on screen I cried buckets.

Best of luck, I hope you have a happy outcome.

As everyone else said, the flight will not cause a miscarriage. I think the main risk when flying is DVT due to thicker blood.

Have you contacted your GP? If its stressing you out then you might be able to get a scan today? Wishing you lots of luck, keep us updated xx

I'm another one that my symptoms seemed to disappear around 11 weeks, I think that's when the placenta starts to take over.

Call your GP if you're worried they may be able to scan you earlier at the EPU. But please try and relax if something happened to the baby it WOULD NOT be down to anything you've done.

Let us know how you get on. x

Thanks a lot, those messages are really reassuring. Laura I would contact my GP but to be honest I am sure there are others out there more in need of early scans than me, I'm just a natural born worrier! I guess all the time I felt sick/dizzy etc I felt connected to the pregnancy, now I just feel really... un-pregnant. Just a little fatter than normal, lol.

I will let you know how I get on on Saturday. If there is a heartbeat on that screen I am going to cry with relief...

Thanks again for all your advice.