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C-section for 2nd (or 3rd or 4th...) child

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twiglett · 19/12/2003 11:59

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dot1 · 19/12/2003 12:04

no idea - how come you know, Twiglett? dp had a caesarian but if she has another baby would love to push next time! Will you have to stay in hospital for a week - maybe you could escape earlier? Tricky with ds - will your dh have a couple of weeks off?

Crunchie · 19/12/2003 12:05

I had a c-section twice. 2nd time around I was in hospital for 4 days and I picked up my dd (she was 2 at the time) on the 2nd day. However I did far too much to soon, but that is me!!

Sod Dh coping with your mum, invite her down, she will be able to help you particularly with DS1 when you have the baby.

I cannot say how DS1 will react, have you had night away form hime before? Mine was fine as she was used to being with her dad, but it maybe different for you

Snowywong · 19/12/2003 12:05

twiglett, since you ask ( I had an emergency C for ds 1 14 weeks ago so it is all fresh in my mind)

He will get takeaways, have lots of laddish fun with DS1 and watch unsuitable late-night videos and be perfectly OK
It is very very hard on you but you haven't carted him about for the past 3 months anyway (you shouldn't have). This was my major concern when they told me I would have to go under the knife. You can make up for it when you are well.
I did this, and obviously i don't know how well you get on with your mum or how useful she is, but I would advise at least 36 hours for just the four of you to get used to the new family unit before you bring anyone at all in to the dyamic. I wish I had.

Hope this helps
When is the big day?

Snowywong · 19/12/2003 12:10

didn't read it properly - sorry.
DS1 will cope, he just will as long as you and DH explain what is going on and keep him in the loop.
You must have thought I was a bit bonkers with the stuff about the takeaways, I read it as DH

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twiglett · 19/12/2003 12:20

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santafio2 · 19/12/2003 12:24

i had a 2nd c-section and was out of hospital within 2 days, did lift my dd who was 22 months at the time, and didnt have any help off my mum. It was much easier 2nd time round. I am sure you will be fine

santafio2 · 19/12/2003 12:26

twiglet there was a girl opposite me in hospital who that retinal problem. She had a c-section but was not allowed to have a spinal and had to have a GA. Have they mentioned whether you will have to have this? Sorry am not trying to frighten you but they didnt tell this girl until she was at the hospital

dot1 · 19/12/2003 12:30

ouch Twiglett! I suppose at least this time round you're able to make plans. If your Mum won't drive you (and dp!) mad, I'd definitely ask her to come down and help - maybe to come a day or two after you get home - I agree with Snowywong in that it'd be nice for it to be just the 4 of you for a short while - but then call the troops in!

A friend of ours couldn't lift her nearly 3 year old son for a few weeks after having her baby - different reason - and paid for someone (who she knew) to come round during the day to help - could you do this - maybe someone you know - a friend's Mum or someone who might be able to help out?

Good luck!

RedGreenStripes · 19/12/2003 12:43

Twiglett: this is not to pressure you & I'm sure you are the only person to make the right decision for you...

It's just that statistic your Consultant quoted about VBACs only being successful 50% of the time sounded too low. I don't think anyone should believe that as a general figure. There are a lot higher statistics, more like 68%-75% as population averages, for successful VBAC summarised at this site , coming from a multitude of studies.

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twiglett · 19/12/2003 12:49

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adell · 19/12/2003 13:10

I had my second emergency c/section 14 weeks ago. My DD is nearly 5 and had just started school, so a different situation. We explained what was going to happen & she coped really well, didn't seem to miss me - it was her baby brother she was desperate to have at home, not me. As she's older the picking up wasn't too much of an issue apart from for cuddles - she'd climb on my lap.

DH coped with my Mum although I will have to admit that on day 3, as I was getting a bit hormonal I did have to smooth the waters a bit. Definitely helped DD having her around.

The whole thing has been so much easier second time around.

santafio2 · 19/12/2003 13:14

Phew twiglett, maybe thats what it was I have been worrying since i posted that i may have upset you - i am glad that i havent

prufrock · 19/12/2003 16:59

Thanks for starting this twiglett - I need to know as well.

There's a strong possibility I'll have to be in hospital for a while before the birth as well, and by that time I'll have finished work and dd will have finished nursery. We've almost decided on having my MIL down to stay for whilst I'm in hospital - we're lucky that dh can do some of his work from home so between them they'll cope. Then when I get out dh will take two weeks off. After that I'm think of getting a post natal doula or mother's help for a few hours a day for a few weeks.

I am quite worried about how dd will cope - I've been away before, so she'll be OK with that, it's the fact she won't have my 100% attention when I'm back at home that worries me. But think positivley. At least we know in advance when we need to arrange childcare for!

Millie1 · 19/12/2003 21:17

Twiglett ... I had a second c-section 2 weeks ago.

Like you I'm a SAHM and have only ever spent 1 night away from DS who is 26 mths. He stayed with my sister the night before section as hospital is 90 miles away and we went the night before. He had stayed with sis once before and was fine that time - this time he was unsettled but it was only 24 hrs and he survived.

Last time I was in hospital for 7 nights following planned section, this time for only 4 nights. Recovery much faster this time round though I haven't lifted DS yet and don't intend to unless I have to whilst DH is off work.

DH looked after DS whilst I was in hospital. I left a freezer full of food and pages of lists of about clothes, washing, food, nursery etc etc. They survived and lived to tell the tale! Two weeks on DS is a bit upside down as he's refusing to take his usual 2 hr afternoon nap but we're working on that - he loves his baby brother and after a day or so huffing with me (maybe a week after I came home) he's fine with me too but is really enjoying spending lots of time with his Daddy!

Good luck with your section ... when are you due?

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twiglett · 19/12/2003 21:23

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alohappychristmas · 19/12/2003 22:24

My good friend had her second while her first was only 20months. She discharged herself from Kings after two days, and went home with no probs. Picked up her dd when necessary, lots of cuddles and grandma came to stay. Very successful and the girls absolutely adore each other.

Jimjambells · 19/12/2003 22:51

twiglett I had 2 c-sections. The second op was vile- but only because of scar tissue from the previous section.

However I don't think you need to worry mucha bout the things on your list.

I haven't read through but unless there;s a specific reason I don't think you need to be away for a week. I had the section on Thursday (or was it Friday- maybe Friday) went in the night before after ds1 had gone to bed and was out by Sunday.

I picked up ds1 as well (he was coming up to 3- but veyr big for his age -seemed larger).

My MIL came down to help but wasn't very useful as she kept going to bed with a headache!

oh and we were selling the house so my biggest worry was keeping it tidy.

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