Crying and running away due to loud music - AIBU?

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I'm 5 months pg with DC2 and so far nothing has made me cry randomly and in my biased opinion I am still reasonable sane.

We were at a BBQ at our neighbours house. The BBQ is a leaving party to say goodbye to us. Come 8pm the music is being played super loudly. I try to cope with it for as long as i can but for some reason I come over all strange and cannot bear it any longer and escape to the garden where i sit on the ground and cry.

AIBU to be pissed off with DH that firstly it takes about 15 mins before he comes looking for me. Secondly I grab the house keys from him and run as fast as I can to our house to get away from the music and lie down to try and recover myself. I explain the situation, I'm in tears which is very unusual for me, but rather than see if his pregnant wife has some problem that might be a cause for concern he goes back to the neighbours house and the music continues so I stay home and make myself a chamomile tea until I feel better.

Am I justified in giving him the cold shoulder?

Aww YABU! He's just a silly man who doesnt understand about these things and doesnt know what to do for the best! (YANBU to run away though, understand completely) He probably went back to explain to people that you just didnt feel well and make sure they werent upset with you - in a way defending you. He probably took a while to come and look for you because he was mingling and assumed you were doing the same. Dont be cross with him he's probably doing his best.

I agree with nigglenaggle - he was probably trying to maintain a sense of normalcy. It was a party held for you, he couldn't exactly just run off too! Sorry you felt overwhelmed by all the noise. Were you overtired?

You're not justified in being pissed off with him,.don't ruin your weekend by being so!

YABU.

It was a BBQ with music playing, you were not standing next to a jet plane.

Plenty of mums go to concerts when pregnant - I myself went to numerous punk, metal and rock gigs when pregnant with DC and didn't feel the need to run off in tears when it wasn't at a sound pitch I liked. In fact, I calmly just took myself off to stand further from the speakers if it bothered me.

If you were at a BBQ I'm assuming you had the choice of either being inside or outside? Surely the sensible thing would have been to just go somewhere further from where the music was?

I am likely being very harsh to you (I'm 40+2 with DC2 and feeling every minute of it) but I do think you need to catch a grip of your senses.

I think the 'came over all strange' was probably coincidental to the music. Get over it and chalk it up on the 'silly things I did when pregnant' list to laugh at in the future.

I went to a gig at 5 months and foetus was wriggling and dancing along with the music quite happily all night, I only got furious when I was restrained from the mosh pit (obviously a VERY good call from my VERY caring and long suffering mates). I'd forgotten I was pregnant for a brief moment!