Arguing constantly with BF and worried about effect on our unborn-advice needed!

[LeighMummy]

Hey all. I'm 26 weeks today and just needed a little vent and to see if anyone is experiencing the same/has done in the past? My partner and I have been arguing pretty much daily now for the last 8 weeks. It started with one maHOOSIVE row and has just not stopped. I feel I'm trying to keep as calm as possible when we row but this causes problems too ( he doesn't like my calm voice...) Last night we sat down and discussed some of our issues and feel like we got somewhere towards resolving them but after 2.5 hrs of discussion we were still left with a HUGE list to continue discussing at a later date! Gulp. We've booked a romantic meal for tonight and I'm dreading it as I never know when something I say may spark an argument, although I'm the pregnant hormonal one I feel like its HIM who's overly sensitive and touchy at the moment.
After rows at the weekend I havent slept longer than 4hrs each night and on a serious note am massively worried about how this (and the continued stress) is affecting our baby. During these 8 weeks we have had screaming rows where I have literally been hyperventilating from the upset, this is followed by me being massively down, crying uncontrollably and withdrawing from friends and family. We are due to go on a family holiday sat with his little boy and my parents and at the mo I just see it ending in disaster as I feel so fragile in myself and this relationship. Please help! (sorry for waffling)

awww bless ya, i not really sure what to say as im not sure what your actually argueing about,,,,
but im my experience there is alot of rowing in pregnancy which is hard to deal with as you expect it to be this 'wonderful magical time' loved up to the max and everythings rosey , however the truth is your bf/h does your head with pretty much everything he does from eating to loudly to not being considerate enough and careing lol ive got a 1 yr old and after i gave birth my sister had a baby and then my bro's gf had 1 and they all went through the rowing /cnt do anything right stage ,it was quite funny stepping back and watching it after youve been through it lol
oh and the men always seem to go through the stressing about money stage ect which make them snappy and mardy aswell, but like i said it all depends what your argueing about - hope that helps ya chin up.

We argue alot about me talking to my friends and family about stuff relating to us like arguments. I say it helps me vent, get over things and build relationships with people I'm confiding in. He says its selfish of me and is convinced that me "moaning about him" to other people will make them hate him and think that our relationship is fading. I feel like he needs to put on a brady bunch act infront of everyone when the reality is far from that...

Thanks for ur advice that lots of people go thru this as a stage, I can deal with this if its gonna end lol just wish that seemed near! Do you think we are harming the baby in utero by rowing? This is a BIG concern for me and I suppose cause I kinda beleive it I resent BF more when we do argue (i.e do we need to argue re washing up? you're harming our baby by shouting at me)

i had abit of thatwith my bf , he thought if i moaned about to my family they wouldnt like him but in reality everybody moans bout there partners at some point its sometimes just healthy aint it like you said get it all out then 9 times outa 10 u end up laughing bout what ever your moaning about lol

i dont thing argueing will hurt the baby at all the only thing ull have to keep an eye on is your blood pressure, constant argueing will stress u out and people cope with stress differently , ive personally never had high blood pressure and im always stressed lol (mum of 3 with another on there way) but i know that can cause problems with the baby such as earlly labour ect but your mw should keep on eye on that.