MC started last Friday...how long will this last?

[SMCookie]

Hello ladies,

I was 6 weeks pregnant but sadly last Friday I started getting some pains and small amount of blood, I have been in and out of hospital and finally had a MC confirmed on Thursday. My husband and I are devastated.

To make matters worse I have been bleeding heavily for 3 days now and it seems to be getting heavier.

Can anyone please tell me how long this might last?

Many thanks

So sorry to hear that, I had a mmc in Feb and it was devastating :( I decided to have a ERPC beause of the uncertainty of not knowing what/when things would happen.....could this be an option for you? My close friend had a mc at 6 weeks and she said she had a couple of days of heavy bleeding and then passed clots for a day, sorry if this sounds awful but there was no obvious baby to pass as the baby would be so tiny :(
Its so shit, once the physical healing is done you can start to heal emotionally. I was heartbroken after my mc......happened at 13 weeks (baby had died at 7) I promise you it does get easier....ur hormones will be all over the place at the mo which wont be helping.....take some time off from work (if you can) be with your husband and cry as much as you need... If its any comfort I am now 20 weeks pregnant (and still shitting myself!!) If you do decide to try again there is EVERY chance that all will be fine....I couldnt believe the amount of people that told me about having a mc before going on to have heallthy babies....seems its so common but maybe not talked about (not that that makes it any easier)
Sending lots of hugs....if you want to ask anything feel free xxxxx

So sorry tonhear your loss. Its truly a shit time but it does get easier.
My mmc was end of June. Baby was 9 weeks. Once I'd passed pregnancy tissue ie. clots the bleeding went to a light period for a couple if weeks. If your bleeding really heavily for longer then maybe 3 days might be worth rInging your GP for reassurance.
There will be plenty of women here to help you. Just ask

I meant if your still bleeding heavily once you stop passing clots.

So sorry you're going through this. Mc is awful. I've had 3. 2mmc and one natural which was last month. I do think every mc is totally different ( from what I've read on here) but my only natural one was really ok physically. I was about 7 wks and it was really just like a period. 2/3 days heavy ish bleeding and period type cramps (not hugely painful). I stopped bleeding after about 10 days (& it was very light at the end). Bleeding was actually shorter than after my 2 erpcs. Although I have read on here (the thread about the practicalities of mc) that some people have had very heavy bleeding. Mine was honestly fine (physically).

Not sure if you have any dc yet but after my 1st mc I went on to get pregnant with my gorgeous DD around 6 months later. So don't give up hope. Do give yourself time to grieve and try and be positive and believe it will get better. It honestly does - this time I thought it never would but it has and hormones probably do play a big part. I'm still waiting for af at the moment so still treating myself and making the most of eating what I want and drinking wine! The mc board on here is amazing if you feel you need any more support x

Thank you both so much.

It is really shit. Just want it to all be done with so I can try and move on.

Allchick, 20 weeks is great news and does give me hope that it may not become a recurring thing?

Thanks again x

teaandchocolate, I did have severe cramping, have been bed/sofa bound for about 4 days with it :(

I will keep my fingers crossed that it will start slowing soon then. I have been told I shouldn't use tampons which I always have done for my periods so to visuals of sanitary towels are rather harrowing in comparison.

Thanks again

Oh no sorry didn't realise you already have bad cramps. Think I was really 'lucky' in that respect (although bleeding started at DDs birthday party so not that lucky :( !) Hope it eases off soon. Do you have a scan booked to check whether it has all gone? Might help put your mind at ease. I had a couple and was relieved there was no sac to pass. I used sanitary towels too rather than tampons and i also never wear them normally. Found it harder to move on while i still felt i was wearing a nappy!! Especially yuk in this heat! it's just so rubbish isn't it.

I was advised not to wear tanpons because if the risk if infection. If you can't control the bleeding go and get checked out. Always best to be on the safe side. Plus they will want to follow up to check all pg tissue has passed.
Because I found out at my 12 week scan and lost baby 5 days after my follow up scan was 3 weeks after 12 week one. That's kinda when you feel a bit of "closure" but you'll never forget it.
In currently TTC after having my first Af since last month. Docs will say leave TTC until you've had an Af but that's only do they can date you, I'd your ready to start trying again there's no reason why you can't.

Hello SMCookie.

Firstly, I am so so sorry for your loss. I also had one at 7.5 weeks in Jan this year and it was so incredibly distressing. My bleeding was accompanied by really bad cramps which lasted about 2 days, and then the bleeding took about another week or so to stop. It wasn't until it stopped that I started to be able to deal with it emotionally. I agree with Haylebop12, definitely get it checked out if the bleeding continues to be heavy.

I was also given a scan a few days afterwards, just to check that everything was out. Have you been offered this?

I'm now 24 weeks pregnant, having had one AF inbetween. It's totally nerve racking but a lot of my friends seem to have experienced the same, ie a miscarriage and then a normal (hopefully!) pregnancy. I read somewhere that it might be your body not quite being ready for pregnancy yet - I'm 36 and I think my body had almost resigned itself to never having a baby! Not that that's much consolation but I also heard that you can be extra fertile after a miscarriage. I was also advised to wait for next AF but it seems ok to just start trying again whenever you feel ready.

Tips for moving on: treat yourself, cry, treat yourself, cry and treat yourself again!! I promise that it will get better.

Am keeping my fingers crossed for you that the bleeding stops and that you are getting lots of love and support xx

Harbot is right... If you wanna cry, cry! We took dd to the cinema few days after to see Alvin and the chipmunks, cried like a baby bout halfway through!!
You'll never forget but it will get easier to cope with. Let us know how you get on with the bleeding.

Echoing harbot really does seem like sometimes its natures way of giving ur body a trial run! My doc sed ur more fertile after a mc so to go for it if we felt able,was same as harbot pregnant again after 1 AF....rest up,grieve n when ur ready go for it! My due date wud of been 5th Sept n know I will shed sum tears...dnt think il ever forget but trust that il continue to heal x x x

SMCookie how are you getting on? Hope the bleeding has died down for you.

allchik my DD would have been 10th Sept so very close to you - hope it goes by ok for you x

SMCookie, I am so sorry for your loss. I had a miscarriage at 10 weeks in October and it happened quickly for me - everything passed within about 4 days of the bleeding started and (many apologies if this is too graphic but i wished that someone had told me what would actually be involved!) once the sac and placenta passed, the bleeding dramatically reduced. My timeline: started brown spotting on a Thursday morning, it stayed brown til Friday night then went pink then red, then the bleeding got heavier until the Monday when I was at the hospital booked in to come back on the Wednesday for the operation but within 2 hours of leaving the hospital it turned out not to be necessary.

I have heard, though, that it can vary wildly between women, sometimes taking a couple of weeks. I found the Fri - Monday to be incredibly hard whilst my body went through the process, but i was glad that it had happened naturally, so I would say be guided by what you feel is right for you as to whether you want some medical intervention. The most important thing now is your safe recovery, both emotionally and physically.

SMCookie, another thing that I hope you find helpful: I found it helped to have performed some kind of small ritual to say goodbye. Mine was to wash a bit of the blood off me into a bowl of water, and then water a rose bush in my garden with it. Astonishingly the rose then bloomed, in October.