Bump at 28 weeks

[Plunkett]

Hello
I've spent the week with everyone (family, work collegues, strangers) telling me how big I am! Beginning to get me down and worry me. Someone at work even joked about starting a sweep-stake on how wide i'll be when I leave :(
I'm 5ft9 and usually a size 10. 2nd pregnancy and 6 yrs older so expected to show earlier, also having a different sex (dd this time, ds before) so don't know if this makes a difference or just a myth. I can still get my pre-maternity trousers on legs, just belly is huge.
Just wondering how others are feeling, thanks.

panic I think you've been lucky tbh in not getting any rude comments.

It's not always what's said but the way it's said - high pitched or loud or with a gaping mouth or the constant size questions over and over.
I have had people chat to me about my pregnancy, ask when i'm due, ask how it compares to my last pregnancy, whether I know what I'm having etc and then say something like "are you bigger than you were at this stage last time?", or "I found I was much bigger second time round, are you bigger?". That kind of conversation isn't hurtful and doesn't make me feel like a whale, there's a huge difference.

I could've written your post OP. I'm 28 weeks and the comments are Beginning to piss me off now too! Especially when a friend who is ready to drop said she was the same size as me now... I think its all bull.
MW says im spot-on for measurements so I think people just forget what pregnant women look like. I think maybe it depends on what your figure was like pre-preg also. I'm pretty petite and was a size 8 before so I think people just think I'm huge because they are used to me being small, if that makes sense?

That's my experience too ItsMyLastOne . And the wide eyed "really" when giving dates / fact only one baby in there

Acceptable questions and absolutely no need to say anything else other than "I hope all is going well for you, you look lovely... yes you do" when you've received the answer:

1. when are you due?
2. do you know what you're having?
3. is it your first?

Unacceptable questions (I've had all of them)

1. Do you always get big during pregnancy?
2. Are you absolutely sure you're only expecting one? One isn't hiding behind the other is it?
3. Have you got your dates right because you seem very big for xx weeks?

None of them seemed awkward or sympathetic. And my pg BMI is well within normal. Bumps and women - shock horror - are different.

I blame Heat Magazine and Daily Fail constant analysis of celebrity bumps and competitive pregnancies. Bring back the days when all pregnant women were allowed to hide under a tent and very comfy shoes and not expected to shave.

I had similar around this time. Its my first but I started showing around 14 weeks (after everyone telling me I wouldn't show till at least 7 months) between then and about 28 weeks I kept getting told how massive I was (was a size 8 and only 5'3 pre-preg so I guess any bump looks big on me) but now I'm 35 weeks I keep being told how neat and little my bump is! Baby is measuring bang on weeks and has def had a big growth spurt since 28 weeks but the shape has changed. Not decided which is more annoying, being told I'm huge or that baby is tiny!!

I am 28 weeks and have had a few 'massive' comments too. When I responded to someone last week that I was measuring normal for dates, his response was 'it doesn't look normal, it's all out in front' (where else is it gonna be? On my arse?!)

To me, that's rude. It's rude to analyse someone's shape and size, pregnant or not.

From now on I'm just going to say 'thanks!' with a smile; or the classic 'did you mean that to be rude?'

Also, it really doesn't matter whether a woman is skinny before pregnancy/still skinny but 'all bump'/ really does have a massive baby bump/is overweight.

It's never OK to be rude!

I am 34+1. I have had this all the way through my pregnancy and I have come to the conclusion that sometimes people don't know what to say but feel they should comment on bump so say something which to them may be encouraging and nice but to you makes you feel even bigger than you already felt. I used to come home in tears because of comments about the size of my bump even though I have put no weight on anywhere else but I have learnt to be proud of my bump. Just smile sweetly and be proud of your lovely baby bump.

Hi all
Thanks for all the replies, Luckily feeling a bit better this week so not taking comments quite so to heart :)
Like others have said there's a difference between someone talking to you about your pregnancy and randoms you never normally speak to making rude comments. I'm well aware i'm going to get bigger and have a bump and having had some problems and scare at 14 wks i'm very proud and happy with my lovely baby belly,it's the people who make comments suggesting my belly/size is somehow abnormal that were upsetting me - however I'm guessing we can't all be freakishly big so must be other peoples perceptions :)
I love the comment about being good at growing babies - I will be using that this week.
Hope you all have a lovely week.