Amost 6 weeks - when did you / are you planning to tell people?

[veggie77]

Hi. I've known I'm pregnant for just under 2 weeks now. It started to feel a little bit more official at the GP practice yesterday when I reported it and got referred into their midwife service. I definitely don't want to tell people just yet though. I think I'm going to mention it to my parents and husband's parents at about week 11, so there's a gap between them hearing the news and then us getting the scan done - rather than just telling them and showing a scan photo straight away.

But I won't tell work until 12 weeks and I'm safe. [Bit tricky as they're doing restructuring and I kind of want to tell them now so they don't put me in a job that I'll never be around to do in the long-term, but hey, I need to play my cards close to my chest at this point, just incase!]

Then I'll tell friends and wider family after the scan. It just seems a bit hard at the moment, as I really want to talk to someone about it all, but don't feel like I can. It would be nice to have a natter with someone who doesn't know me, then I could chat about how it feels right now, but not actually be sharing the news with my social circle!

Anyone else feeling like this?

It's a very personal thing, but I told my parents and very close friends pretty much straight away - but that was because I knew that I would have told them if the outcome was bad anyway so there was no real reason to wait until after my 12 week scan. No right or wrong to it either way but there's no way I could have kept it to myself for that long!

As Kaymondo said it's a very personal thing.

After a MMC and a MC I told my close friends and family immediately, if anything didn't work out I know I'd want and need their support. I also like having people to share the experience with and the first trimester for me dragged by, having people around me really helped.

Congrats!

My advice would be to tell anyone you wouldn't mind telling if something bad happens. In other words - will you need support if something happens before 12 weeks? Tell those people only.

We told family only after we had an early scan at 9.5 wks. I was also extremely ill and really needed to ask for help and support (terrible all-day sickness).

Everyone else we'd told between about 14-16 weeks.

It is such a difficult decision. As others have said, I told close family and my three closest friends pretty much immediately as I knew I would need their support if anything went wrong. I have also ended up needing a huge amount of help from them anyway has I've had hypermesis. I'm 14 weeks today and just telling other people now. It still feels very private though and I find it does feel weird telling some people. I think the main thing is what feels most comfortable for you. I found it really really difficult to lie to some people and just felt really guilty about it but, of course, everyone understands.

It's a very lonely time when you're newly pregnant and nobody knows. I kind of wish we'd just told our friends, because they all know something's up and some have asked if I've fallen out with them. I think even if we lost the baby, I'd want to explain why I've not been the life and soul of the party. Luckily the scan's tomorrow!

we told a couple of friends who would support us through the 12WW
no point telling family and wider friends, they'ld just say congrats and not relaly help distract us through the wait.. plus we'ld have the additional chore of un-telling if anything went wrong. If anything went wrong I'ld rather have the option of whether or not I wanted to talk about the fact that I had a MC - you have made that decision in advance (without really knowing how you'll feel if it happens) if you tell people you're pregnant

I've told dh, a close friend who also had an unplanned pregnancy, and you lot on the internet! Dreading the look of horrified surprise on mil's face and the "how on earth will you cope?!" Hoping I can play my cards close to my chest at work. We're a new academy and I would fear being considered dispensible when our period of no changes in T and C's is up.

I told my mum and dad at 9 weeks because I couldnt go any longer without telling them - and if something did go wrong at that point I would have wanted their support anyway. I told everyone else I knew at 13 weeks because that is when i had had my scan and had a picture. 6 weeks is very early and my closest friend told the world at 6 weeks and suffered a miscarriage a day later - which was not only devastating for her - but also deeply upset both sets of very elderly grandparents. My father still thinks I shouldnt talk about it or even acknowledge it at all as it's bad luck and something bad could happen - if he had his way I would tell people from the delivery ward!
Good luck with it all :-)

Lacking that's the reason we haven't told them - because we agreed we didn't know how we'd feel.

We have told very few people and won't tell people until after the scan. I don't want to have to untell people and I don't want a lot of people knowing if something does go wrong, I'd rather keep it private and moving on quickly.

We have told my parents and dh's mum but nobody else (I'm 16 weeks)

Going to try to keep it until I reach 20 weeks, although in fairness I might not need to say anything by that stage!

I've told my parents, nan and two aunts. To be honest I want to tell everyone, people realise that there's a possibility of losing a baby and if that happened I'd tell people that too. However my husband wants to wait until around the 12 week scan until we tell our wider family and friends.

the only people who really know who they'ld want to know if anything happened are people who have had it it happen

We didn't tell anyone until after first scan.

I'm 7+4 and we have told family and close friends. As others have said - if something goes wrong then we'll want support. It just feels like too big a thing to keep to completely to ourselves. Also - my friends would NEVER believe any excuse I gave for not having a glass of wine! :) Wouldn't tell work or the FB crowd until post-scan when we know all is well though.

Only dh, my parents and his cousin (very close) know at present (am 9+ 4). I plan to tell work next week as they've offered me more hours and I want to accept but might not manage even 6 months so feel its fairer to warn them. Also there's a fair bit of risk so they need to be aware from that POV too.
I want to tell dds but once I tell dd2 the whole town will
Know so holding out to 12+ weeks.

Didn't tell anyone (other than DH) until I was 16 weeks.

Looks like I'm in a bit of a minority by leaving it so late!

We have told both sets of parents. The only reason for this is that we have a DD already and may need help with childcare either way. It's worked well actually as I feel very sick and so lovely MIL has taken DD for an hour a couple of times so I can have a break.

We won't tell anyone else until 12+ weeks. Maybe as late as we can leave it until it is obvious!

I originally only wanted DH and I to know until 3 months - we don't live near any family so there was no real way of them to know unless we told them. However, I discoveredI was pregnant in mid-December and had to tell family who wanted to know why I wasn't having the spirits / wine / soft cheese that they'd bought for the festive season.

There were a number of people delighted with the news that new year's eve, but possibly because I wasn't drinking so could drive people home from the NYE party