What do you wish you'd done BEFORE PFB arrived

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Hello i'm currently 6 weeks PG.

I am wondering if there is anything you now wished you had done before the baby's arrival?

I have had two MC before this and I need something positive to think about rather than sitting here worrying the whole time.

My lovely DH suggested i ask for ideas and work my way through them

So far i have got

1. Get a new hairstyle so i don't have to spend 40 mins blowdrying my hair every morning

1. Get a freezer and make some healthy meals to put in there for after the birth.

1. Go away with Dh for a weekend by ourselves.

• Lazy sundays, reading news papers in bed or on the sofa, with freshly ground coffee and warm croissants.

• Sunday pub lunches that turn into a few more drinks sat round a nice pub with dh or friends or both.

• Appreciate my body- certainly my boobs... in hindsight they were a pair of crackin' tits... now they are a sad old sorry sight! I also should have worn clothes that accentuated my body! ... now it's more of damage limitation dressing!

• Had long soaks in the bath, alone.

But you know what, I've never been happier since dc arrived, it's easy to give up everything for them!

Sleep.

Read books.

Sleep.

Watch films and box sets.

Sleep.

Sit and stare into middle distance.

Sleep.

Long baths.

Sleep.

Appreciate silence, stillness and peacefulness in the house.

But most of all, sleep.

Enjoy :)

Im due in three weeks.

I am currently doing "nothing"

this is because I imagine I will never have time to do "nothing" again.

I should probably be doing "something" but then I have not got "anything" that needs doing. Soon there will always be "something" that should/could be done.

Until then I am not doing ANYTHING.

Apart from making cakes, eating cakes, drinking tea, watching crap TV and Mnetting.

:)

Lay in bed and watch time go by without a care in the world all snuggled up i do this daily often.

Long baths.

If i new the last time i went out drinking would be my last id make more of a night of it :(

signet2012 that sounds like you've got exactly the right idea! That's what I did in my last couple of weeks. Also towards the end I enjoyed walking around the house in my underwear like something out of shameless! Was the only way I could be comfortable! I recommend it!

Our baby hasn't arrived yet but I realised that apart from all the lovely things to do now, it would be a godsend to have trained our dog better before the baby arrives. The thought of him being demanding once we have a baby to look after really worried me! I also realised that pregnancy meant I had time to focus on our dog and to spend time with him, working on training for better control and patience. It's slow but quite fun.

I have an endless "to do before the baby arrives" list - sadly very few fun things! My list includes:

• get new glasses, mine are ancient and I'll need them more when DD arrives
• get small freezer and fill with batch cooked meals
• sort out the junkheap cellar
• sort out a proper filing system for bills etc
• get the leaking roof fixed
• re-learn to drive as I've virtually forgotten
• sort out christmas presents and cards (baby is due in December)

Holidays and seeing friends too, of course... when we have the time!

Appreciated being able to pee without an audience more.

Ditto being able to eat with both hands (DD always seemed to want to feed when I was eating, so I became an expert at BF using only one hand...).

Seen my friends more: it just isn't the same after, particularly if nobody else has babies yet.

Gone to more places with nothing but my keys, wallet and oyster card. Going anywhere with a baby seems to require silly amounts of stuff.

Talked to people about things other than babies...

I sound so bitter!!! I'm not really :)

Certainly spending more time with your DH and going away for a nice little break is a great idea, I loved doing that with my DP a few months ago - it was brilliant and so nice to think how precious it was to have this time together before our baby arrives and we spent the whole time being excited about all the places we want to take her when she's here too.

But for me... what I would have done is get married. My Fiancé proposed just 2 months before we got pregnant and I would have loved to have got married first. But for reasons I'll not bore you with, it had to be this way round :) I'm delighted either way though because she can be a part of our wedding now.

Browse in the shops just idly without a list. Try clothes on, consider reflection in mirror at leisure :)
Have lunch when you're hungry in the middle of the afternoon

I know it's dull but I really wish I had sorted through the mountains of crap I seem to have accumulated over the years and got rid of it. It's one of those jobs that I just can't do with DD around and the last thing I want to do once she's in bed is go though boxes and cupboards.

Agree with posters above about seeing friends, going away for weekends and generally doing anything that just won't be the same with a buggy and a constant voice in your ear ^muuuummmmy^

Weekend morning sex.

Long lie ins with dh.

Dinner in non child friendly resturants.

Nights out dancing until way after a babysitter could ever be reasonably expected to work.

A holiday.

Nothing.

Since DD was born 2 and a half years ago, I've not really had the chance to do 'nothing'. Even when she's in bed, I have an ear out for her in case she wakes up. It's going to be a long time before I get to do 'nothing' again!

Just remembered something else I wish I'd done whilst putting dd for a nap.....put wd40 on all the hinges on the doors in the house!

It's so frustrating when trying to creep through the house just as she is drifting off and then a door creaks! Start all over again!

I agree with fatsamsgrandslam - More trips to cinema, theatre, posh restaurants etc

Got everything done that I wanted to do around the house, I've not had time since.
Been able to have gone out more with DH.

1.) Finished my masters thesis. Researching and writing about William Blake with a baby on your lap is NO FUN.

2.) Travelled a bit more.

Ijustneedsomespace and UnexpectedItemInShaggingArea

I am sure life with a baby is going to be amazing - however, I am starting to mourn my lovely, currently simple life...

..... so for the next 9 weekends until d-day, the recommendation for weekends is:

• sleep, lie in, sex, sleep, watch box sets, sleep, sex, lie in bed.

AMAZING, I can live with that!

Decorated the living room!!! I've been wanting to get it repainted since early pregnancy, never got round to doing it and now not a chance

Listened to friends with babies telling me I didn't need the bedding set, the top and tail bowl, etc etc

Researched my big purchases more (yes I'm talking about you silver cross pram ) before wasting money on something I would end up replacing after using for just 2 months