Finding a balance between being prepared for the worst but staying positive.....

[LuckyOwl28]

I have only recently discovered i'm pregnant (5 weeks), and although we are absolutely over the moon, doubt keeps creeping into my mind that something will go wrong.

I know this sounds like a very silly, negative attitude to have but I have so many close friends that have miscarried in the early stages. Also, when we tried previously we were unsuccessful after 6 months and as this was actually a 'surprise' baby I can think of 3 weekends since conception when I drank excessively and smoked.
We are trying to retain the motto of 'what will be will be', but I can't bring myself to be truly excited until the 12 week point although I really want to be, and feel like I should be.

I know, I am so bloody impatient and need to relax, but has anyone had similar thoughts in these very early stages?

yes definitely, its a really difficult time. I am now nearly 26 weeks pg with my second DC and was entirely terrified for the whole pregnancy. I seem to be doing a little better with this one, but still nervious.

The time between finding out and the 12 week scan drags so much, it feels like years. If you are getting too stressed, think about having a scan at 8 or 9 weeks, when you can see the heartbeat (some midwives/GPs will arrange this, but its easy to get a private scan if not). Obviously no guarantees, but I have done this both times and its incredibly reassuring.

Dont worry about the drinking, lots of people drink and smoke when they dont know and go on to have perfectly healthy babies. Just look after yourself and eat well now.

Good luck.

Thanks for that. I didn't actually realize you could get a scan that early, may speak to the Doc when i go in.

We've only just moved to the area (RAF base) so have scrabbling around filling in forms as I want to be seen ASAP just to have official confirmation. We've done 6 tests so far and all positive but I think I just want someone else to tell me it's official!

I'm also dreading telling my new Boss, I am going into my 4th week of work and I'm 5 weeks pregnant. How awkward! I'm worried she'll think I've been deceptive taking on the job. I did go out on a hen with them in the second week and got blind drunk with them, I never thought that would be a good thing but at least it may convince her I had no idea?

Ahh I'm annoying myself already, wish I could just suck it up and be happy!

Oh yes we did a ridiculous food shop yesterday, the check out girl said she'd never seen a healthier shop!