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Anyone else HATE the first trimester??

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schoonko07 · 05/08/2012 08:44

After the high of finding out I was pregnant again I remembered how much I disliked the first 10-12 weeks.Not because of the aches and pains and the nausea and worry pre scan but the not telling anyone!
It's worse this time round because I've had to start wearing maternity clothes to work from week 8/9 as none of my trousers fitted.As I can't tell anyone pretty certain people are just thinking 'who ate all the pies'.When someone offers you a drink or something forbidden they know you like you have to come up with some silly lie as to why you've gone off it/or say you're watching your weight which raises an eyebrow or two or provokes 'i thought you'd put on a bit' type comments.Then for some reason people everywhere seem to be inviting you to do things they never showed any interest before pre-pregnancy 'let's go horseriding,let's go on rollercoasters (whatever things are on the docs forbidden list you can bet will be suggested!).
Plus I am ridiculously weepy/emotional but cannot explain that at all-crying during the olympics opening ceremony had to just mutter 'don't you think it's very emotional too?'
It sounds ridiculous but DH pretty insistent we wait until after the scan to tell friends, family and work,which I totally understand,but at the same time I look forward to just being able to respond/explain by saying 'sorry I'm pregnant'.
Sorry for the rant just had to get it off my chest!

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InchyInchy · 05/08/2012 08:50

Me too hated it - and it dragged by! I'm now just leaving, currently 13 weeks.

In the end I did tell a few close friends I needed some people to talk to and keep me sane, plus those are the same people I would have wanted around me anyway if anything had gone wrong.

It sounds like you don't have long to go now, I found that having a scan date really helped - something to aim for and look forward too!

iamstitch · 05/08/2012 08:53

God yes! Expecting DC4 and it's the not saying and the fact I feel like death. I have my own business and I usually work there 6 days a week, 7 if we are busy but yesterday and today I've had to pull more staff in as I just can't get out of bed I am hating feeling like this so much. < weeps in self pity >

WantAnOrange · 05/08/2012 09:18

Hate isn't a strong enough word. I loathe the first trimester. For me, it's the exhaustion. I couldn't keep on top of basic housework, I am also self employed and work was horrible. This time round I had Hyperemesis, then I got Tonsilitis at the same time, and a chest infection which triggered my asthma. I was not happy.

I am now 30 weeks and actually grateful for being huge, slow and the pelvic girdle pain because at least the worst is over!

tamster83 · 05/08/2012 09:20

yep its horrible ! tired beyond belief feeling sickly and over emotional crying sessions, and like you im on week 8 and feeling the need to get bigger clothes already , however my family do know and a few close friends so im not haveing to hide it so much

gardenpixies32 · 05/08/2012 09:22

It is awful. I remember walking around Sainsbury's with my OH and feeling so sick. I turned to him and said "this is our first and last pregnancy". I hated it. I stopped being sick around 16 weeks and the tiredness lifted then too. I enjoyed weeks 17-24. Now I feel big, achy and tired again!

TheBigRazzoo · 05/08/2012 10:07

First 18 weeks were grim. Seriously considering taking antidepressants after week 14 cos it was all so miserable and then woke up feeling magically wonderful at 18 weeks and have been full of the joys of life since then - until about 9.30pm each day when I have to go to bed or I turn into a stroppy dragon. Am now 25 weeks...

tedmundo · 05/08/2012 11:11

I came looking for a thread like this. I am so miserable. The constant queasy feeling is starting to mess with my head. This is dc3 and I am dreading the summer hols as I can barely think straight, let alone entertain 2 boys.

panicnotanymore · 05/08/2012 11:19

I'm not enjoying it much, because I keep having bleeds, the GP has been no help at all, have had no support from a midwife, and no one seems to give a toss. I just want to get past 12 weeks so that I can relax, and someone somewhere will finally get me on the system so that I can have some medical care.

I don't understand why the big secret until 12 weeks though. If it doesn't work out just tell people it hasn't, and believe me after one sympathetic comment they are never going to mention it again. I've told people. It is better than lying about why I can't go to the gym/won't drink/fall asleep at about 8pm/ want all my food at a BBQ very very well cooked/and have developed a paranoia about soft cheese. Most people can work it out by looking at you anyway, as women do not spontaneously grow huge knockers randomly over night unless they are pregnant.

PeshwariNaan · 05/08/2012 12:02

I hated it too. I've never been so ill in my life. Many days I couldn't get of bed from exhaustion (except to be sick). I'm amazed people do this more than once. The worst bit was having to keep it from people - nearly impossible!!

Badgerina · 05/08/2012 12:59

Yes. Fuck yes. Grumpy, tired, no appetite, no motivation to do ANYTHING. I spent the first trimester under a blanket on our sofa. ROUGH.

MamaMary · 05/08/2012 15:15

I feel your pain, especially showing sooner 2nd time round and being in the maternity clothes so much earlier- it's depressing.

I'm 15 weeks now and just starting to feel better. But I cried at the opening ceremony too - it was the children's choirs that got me going!

SkinnyMarinkADink · 05/08/2012 15:40

16 weeks here and i hate it, with a passion there is nothing about this pregnancy that i am enjoying except the thought of a baby at the end of it all...

Hopefully like some of you guys 18 weeks will be a turning point

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schoonko07 · 05/08/2012 17:42

A few close relatives know but don't want to tell work and friends until after the scan.I understand why people tell early too but I think if anything was wrong im just one of those people who'd rather deal with it myself rather than tell people im not so close to about it.having one of those days today where feel like im feeling ill because I'm so hungry but then when I try and eat anything it makes me feel worse,im not being sick a lot,just constant nausea and no appetite for anything.
Bleugh.Scan date is this Friday so I will be tellung everyone straight after that if all is well,thank goodness!
Struggling through today,up for family Sunday dinner and don't feel like eating anything : (

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backwardpossom · 06/08/2012 11:05

I'm not enjoying it much this time around! In fact, I think I don't want to do this ever again... No 2 may be our last!

stowsettler · 06/08/2012 11:45

I'm with Panic, I told every bugger who'd listen. I'm rubbish at keeping non-critical secrets anyway, and I figured that anyone who's interested would be people I'd tell if the worst happened anyway. I told people when I thought I was 8 weeks - turned out I was only about 6 weeks

I'm now 12+5 and just getting over the tiredness. That was the worst imho. I managed to keep doing a bit of exercise and this was key, I think, to staving off the worst of the exhaustion - doing a bit of exercise has ironically kept me more alert. Plus rediscovering the fact that I love swimming.

dontcarehow · 06/08/2012 11:54

hah, I feel the same, this is my first and last! there's no way I'm going through this again. I'm half hoping it is twins so I won't feel like I have to have another. Its just one thing after another since week 5. I'm almost 11 weeks now and although the sickness has gone its been replaced by heartburn which makes me feel sick in an entirely different way, and indigestion whenever I eat more than a teeny tiny amount. I'm seriously considering a lucozade diet for a few days so I don't have to actually eat anything.

I also hate the secrecy. I've never been good at lying, and I'm lying to everybody right now. I also suspect people have cottoned on to the whole not drinking part, and are now gossiping about it. that's really upsetting actually, knowing that people are talking. Got my scan appointment in what will be week 13 so all this time I thought its not long til 12 weeks and I can tell everyone, I was wrong!

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