Pregnancy and a toddler

[WeeLors]

I know there are always loads of threads on coping with a newborn and a toddler but I'm wondering more how people cope looking after a toddler when pregnant? I'm 28wks and have been really struggling this week, and I know its only going to get worse. I'm starting to feel a lot more cumbersome and breathless, with a wee bit of PGP, so I'm finding it exhausting/sore taking DS out anywhere at the moment, even just a walk to the shop and back (we don't have a car). DS is actually a pretty easy toddler to look after too but understandably gets bored spending too much time in the house, esp when the sun is shining outside. However, if we're out and about I always have to push him in the buggy at least some of the journey and he's not light (doesn't help that we live at the top of a hill either). Plus, he's cutting his 2yr molars at the mo and waking up in pain multiple times in the night. That combined with heartburn and restless legs waking me in the night anyway means I'm not exactly starting the day on full energy.

Obviously when DP isn't at work, or when DS's grannies are visiting, its not a problem cos I don't have to be too hands on but on the days where its just him and me I feel really bad because we're not getting out of the house as much as usual. I just don't have the energy though (I took him to the park this morning, which is literally a 2min walk away and I was still exhausted when I got home and desperate for DS to have his nap). I'm almost welcoming the madhouse that will be having a newborn and a toddler cos at least I'll have full mobility back instead of feeling like an obese 90yr old woman.

Not sure why I'm posting really, think I just wanted a moan really!! Anybody else in the same boat and struggling?

I don't have a toddler any more but have two dd's age 4 and 7 and I'm 40 weeks now anemone found these first two weeks of holidays absolute hell! I can't go far I'm tired moody and starting to resent dp coming home and sleeping when he could maybe take them out for me ! It will no doubt take jus as long to get out the house when baby is here but at least I won't feel like sleeping constantly ! I do sympathise ! Best I can say is when u have the energy do the more longer outings and make it a whole day event if u can then when u have the off days he won't b quite as bored being in maybe some crayons, a DVD or 2 min park trip ?

Thanks, yep thats kind of what we're doing now, DP always has a Friday off so we do the energetic things like soft play, swimming, day trips then where I can just sit on my bum and cheer on from the sidelines. Plus, I tend to see DMil on a Tuesday afternoon and my DM on a Thursday which keeps DS pretty entertained. I have no complaints about DP in the evenings either, he does DS's bath and tidies the toys etc every night just now (we usually take turns) cos he knows I get chronic heartburn doing anything that involves bending and lifting just now.

Ach, maybe I'm just worrying over nothing, DS is generally happy in the house as long as we get out for a short time each day - think I'm just feeling pissed off with being so tired/sore at the slightest exertion (I tend to carry really big so already the size of a small elephant ) and guilty that he might be bored. The last 2 weeks have just been a bit different cos my mum has been working overtime and my DMil has been away visiting family, plus friends we normally see for playdates etc have been on hols or in one case getting married so not been meeting up. Because of that we've had a lot of time just the two of us lately so I've been struggling to keep up with his energy levels. Think I'll just have to suck it up and get on with it.

I can imagine you are going demented with the summer holidays cheekychops if you're 40wks - I very much sympathise!!! Hopefully not long to wait until your baby is here though, you can turn your dd's into little helpers, that should keep them amused for the rest of the summer

I'm having a really hard time coping with terrible twos and pregnancy. I have massive sympathy for you!

I am 27 weeks pg, have a 2yo, and raise you a broken leg! It is not nice, but at least you can get out a bit. Mine doesn't nap either

She has only just got over the pox too!

Hi mrswee (waves)

Ok Valium you win hands down, I think I'd have to eat chocolate all day just to cope if I had a broken leg too!!! Wouldn't help with my small elephant status at all (mmmm, put me in the mood now, off to sample some of the Mars Bar cake me and DS made earlier....)

I am followed by an indigestion tablet obviously. I do not quite understand why people seem to think this is an ideal age gap. May be for the kids, but not for mummy. It sounds as if you have a supportive family, so hopefully things will get a bit easier for you.

I've a four year old dd and ds is 2.5 and I'm 27 weeks today

That's the only time I've smiled today
Bloody, bloody hard work

fish I am guessing the smile comes from them both being asleep? I also have a 6yo, and sometimes think she is the more demanding one.

I miss a glass of wine so much! Really massively sympathetic about the broken leg, I can just about cope that'd really send me over the edge.

We've been potty training here too in the hopes of having that sorted pre baby and my reserves are seriously depleted.

How easy it was being pregnant the first time

We don't realise that first time though. And it is all relative. It makes me smile on my thread when the ones who are half my age and on their first pregnancy are having naps in the day. I wish!

I should be potty training as DD keeps taking hers off, but I simply cannot at the moment.

I miss wine too. It should be available on prescription to parents ( in small amounts obviously)