did anyone get a bfp and immediately get second thoughts?

[thepowerofvoodoo]

Situation is that I got a bfp this morning - it was something we'd discussed (we have a ds (4) together and two DSDs who are with us a lot) as I was getting broody - although not sure why because I don't like babies until they become self-sufficient (about aged 3). So we DTD ONCE without contraception and I was hoping against hope this morning that the test would be negative and I could put the foolish one night behind me. and now I'm shaking, worrying about money, finances, work (they won't be best pleased..) and everything else that goes with it. other half is not over the moon either!
I'm sitting at work just thinking of all the nasty things babies do, poo and wee and sick and nap at strange times and nappies and finding childcare and not sleeping and all the rest of it. I think i'm going mad.
Is this just shock?
i will be keeping the baby (it is our own silly faults) but i'm surprised by how anti my initial reaction is. was anyone else like this and how did it turn out?

Lots of people are shocked by a BFP and think 'what have we DONE'. You weren't actively ttc after all and plenty of people who are ttc will have the same reaction as you.

So - the practical stuff you will manage. The poo and the sick and the sleeping - you will manage. You and dp know exactly what you're getting in to and I think you will really enjoy seeing your ds and dsds bond with the new baby.

Congratulations btw

I think this is a common reaction. This pregnancy is much wanted, but we didn't really "try" as such, and then it happened rather unexpectedly. After the initial YAY! I felt a bit "omfg what?????" DS is 8 in Nov and I got scared at the thought of doing all that baby stuff again.

It's a big deal having a baby. It's GOOD that you're aware of the full picture. Give it some time and your excitement will grow

Oh god yes, big time. My DH and I were together and ttc when I got pregnant, but due to random bleeding etc I did not find out until 7weeks. By that time 'D'H had confessed to a long running affair and I was well into a divorce. I actually went to the GP to discuss termination, but couldn't do it. Had I know about the affair I wouldn't have got pregnant, but I am now, and there is a baby to think of, and I'll cope and be happy because life is what you make of it.

Yes! And it was planned! Got an 8yr and a 20 mth old and 2 months to go before this baby comes. As pregnancy goes on, I'm looking forward to it more but still
Nervous.

Thanks for the responses. I am certainly not being very productive at work today... I know I'm very lucky really as lots of people try and try and I've got one DS (he was a shock - I was on the pill, but bizarrely I wasn't this anti - I suppose I didn't know the truth back then....) and now at 35, I'm up duffed after one go, when everything tells you fertility begins to go down the pan. Lordy.
It doesn't help that whenever I have asked my DS about whether he'd like another, he's always been very anti. Hey ho.
I suppose we'll cope and I'm sure we'll be happy. The bright side is some time off work....

actually, i'm now looking at the positives. my ds starts school sep 13 (he's not quite 4 yet, i rounded in the above), so having an early april baby means i can go on mat leave from end of march, take 9 months (i only took 10wks with ds as i had no savings and didn't qualify for the work mat scheme), save his £600pcm childcare from April-August (£3k - which should go someway towards the unpaid mat leave) then be at home when he starts school - very handy as I was worrying about that already and look to go back to work Jan 2014 (golly, that's a long way off...) and put new DC with a childminder. Request school hours at work (pipe dream) and go from there.
Oh yes, I'm beginning to see the positives!

That is a big positive! I had dd3 (also an April baby - very fab time to have a baby) when dd2 was in Year 1 and really enjoyed having that extra time to do school pick up type stuff.