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Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

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Anyone else not want to have the baby?

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Spuddybean · 27/07/2012 10:34

I don't mean changed your mind, but actually be enjoying pregnancy so much they don't want it to stop?

I am looking forward to seeing the baby, but i am 35+2 and just loving my body and feeling the baby move so much that I am getting very sad about the thought of not feeling like this.

I know most people are uncomfortable, but surely there are some others who are loving it as much as me or am i a freak?

I see loads of posts about wanting babies out - but i want mine to stay in. Am i bonkers?

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ahopskipandafurryone · 27/07/2012 10:37

Yes, you are bonkers

I would say though that I don't experience the whole wanting it out thing, and am quite relaxed about baby coming in its own time, so in my experience that's not odd. But this is DC2 and if all goes to plan my last pregnancy and I am looking forward to spending the rest of my life not pregnant.

shimmy0 · 27/07/2012 10:43

I'm only 7. Something weeks into number 1 but I am really looking forward to after the birth. If this is twins I'm not going down this route again no way!

EMS23 · 27/07/2012 10:46

I was like that my first pregnancy and felt disappointed to go two weeks early.

I'm now 32+5 with DC2 and feel the same but for very different reasons. Very scared of getting PND again and a tough first 6 months.

panicnotanymore · 27/07/2012 10:49

I read about an American lady who loved being pregnant so much she went into surrogacy, and was pregnant for most of her fertile life. Insane.

Me, I'd quite like to fast forward to the end!

Tigerlily13 · 27/07/2012 10:54

I don't think you're mad. I loved being pregnant, that's why I'm doing it again so soon! Funny really as last time I felt like poo til 16 weeks, but still loved it! Before I was even thinking about having babies, my sister had 2, and I remember her telling me that she felt really empty after her 2nd was born. It is lovely when they're all snuggled and wriggly inside, but so amazing when they outside and cuddling up to you! We've agreed on just having 2, which makes me a little sad already! As for surrogacy, I couldn't be that selfless - I couldn't part with a baby I'd grown inside me for 9 months, and have a lot of respect for those who can.

sarahpip · 27/07/2012 10:58

Whilst I have tried to enjoy it, being pregnant is a rather boring and uncomfortable means to and end in my opinion. I look forward to actually being able to do things again.

Having said that, last couple of weeks have been good - but then again, it's all relative.....

In the nicest possible way, and in my subjective opinion - yes..... you are totally insane!

ElephantsCanRemember · 27/07/2012 11:02

i felt like that with my second and third pregancy. Between 25 and 38 weeks I felt blooming wonderful. I looked good, felt good. I didn't want it to end. So no you're not that barmy

HowILiveNow · 27/07/2012 11:05

I can kind of imagine feeling like this if I didn't feel so rubbish physically! I enjoy being pregnant emotionally, if that makes any sense, but I get terrible SPD that means I am pretty desperate for it to end.

Plus at this stage (I'm 35 weeks too) I do get a certain impatience, restlessness, and very instinctual desire to get the baby out pretty soon! But am telling myself to relax - DS was 8 days late so I may have 6 weeks + to go.

Enjoy :)

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Spuddybean · 27/07/2012 11:18

I got upset about not wanting to not be pregnant anymore and DP said we could have another straight away and then another after that :) Not so sure how i'll feel then tho!

I did suggest surrogacy to DP. As i haven't massively bonded with the baby - i know that sounds awful but i very much feel pregnant and not like i'm having a baby! I've had no nesting urges or anything. I'm some kind of freak i think.

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Nancy54 · 27/07/2012 11:19

i was enjoying it until complications and bedrest (twins!). now just bored, uncomfortable and a bit worried!

i am loving feeling them move thou!

i think i would have enjoyed it if i'd had a straightforward pregnancy. all be worth it in the end thou!

only 29 weeks so hopefully still a way to go!

WillowTheWitch · 27/07/2012 11:21

I was like that with DD I lived being pregnant felt so healthy ad blooming . Not this time !! I'm 26wks and already like the side of a house my body temp is about 195 degrees and I can fall asleep anywhere ! I cannot wait to have this baby !!!!

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Spuddybean · 27/07/2012 11:32

Sorry for those of you with complications and who are uncomfortable.

I am lucky as well because i stopped work 10 weeks before the due date so have been languishing around and it hasn'r been too hot so not feeling uncomfortable. I went to italy at 31 wks and it was 32 degrees - i felt very hot and rubbish, my feel swelled, so i don't know how those in hot climes do it, i was glad to get home to the cold rainy summer here!

I felt so good i had a naked photo shoot on Weds too (totally unlike me!). I just thought i want this feeling to be captured forever.

After reading my posts i am now worrying i sound like/am a loon!

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Pickles77 · 27/07/2012 11:34

Your mental op

downbythewater · 27/07/2012 12:41

I could quite happily be about 6 months pregnant for the rest of my life! The early bit is rubbish, with the tiredness and sickness, and the last trimester is horrible, feeling like a whale. But that middle stage where you've got a lovely round bump and can feel the baby move is just lovely. Sigh...

Chunkychicken · 27/07/2012 12:43

I really enjoyed being pg with my DD as it was a textbook pg with few irritations and she arrived at 39+3 after a shortish labour so I didn't get that "I'm fed-up, get it out now" feeling. I didn't, however, feel sad that baby was coming, more excited to start the next stage. I had only just started my maternity leave though, so maybe didn't get to enjoy a long time of being off work & feeling good?

This time, first trimester was hellish in comparison and I swore 'never again'. However, at 23wks, I'm loving it, considering a #3 afterwards (which DH has also suggested...) but I am still very much looking forward to baby being here. I can't wait to meet him or her, cuddle them to my naked chest, breastfeed them, watch them grow & develop and most of all, I'm looking forward to how my DD will engage with her baby brother or sister. I sometimes look at my DD and wonder how she has changed so much in 2yrs, right under my eyes!! I look forward to experiencing that again :)

itsjustmeanon · 27/07/2012 12:45

Bonkers. I HATE HATE HATE being pregnant.

Angelico · 27/07/2012 12:47

My SIL is like this - she loves being pregnant :) So I don't think you are the only one - you're in good company both mental in my opinion but lucky you enjoy the whole faff :o

Angelico · 27/07/2012 12:49

And like Chunky I had a stage where I HATED being pregnant (between 12 and 21 weeks for various reasons). I'm now 30 weeks and have enjoyed the last couple of months much more, to the point where I would consider having another one. But I do still find it frustrating how much pregnancy has slowed me down / stopped me going on holidays / made me miss events / made me completely obsessed with moving house in the next 3 weeks

Naisy · 27/07/2012 12:51

Yes Spuddy!

I want my little bump to stay put until he's scheduled to arrive as a baby. I'm 30+3 and am loving it! Yes I get the usual niggles and am tired, etc, but love being pregnant.

The way people treat you, how strangers smile and start conversations with you (yesterday it was the Austrian Beach Volleyball team who were lost on the tube! ), the feeling of being so connected to the little wriggly one.

At this rate I'll be lining up again sharpish!

stifnstav · 27/07/2012 12:56

I absolutely loved being knocked up.

And I do understand what you mean about loving the way your body is.

I found that I wasn't at all broody for much of my pregnancy, I was very business-like about the fact that I was having a great time and that I would (god willing) end up with a baby at the end of it.

So much so that I only felt the heart-leapy broody feeling two weeks before DS was born, when I was holding my newborn niece. Then I got totally into it. Swimming in broodiness.

I had a planned CS as he was breech, so I didn't have the birth experience. I have found that its a strange thing for me to get my head around - the fact that I had a bump, the bump isn't there any more (apart from a lovely big spare tyre I can rest a plate on) and now there's a baby here.

Just breathe in all that baby smell and baby cuddles, it'll see you right!

PetiteRaleuse · 27/07/2012 12:57

I was a little like you OP during my first pregnancy. I loved loved loved feeling her move around and being pregnant. This time round I'm in quite a lot of pain already at 26w but in spite of that I am still enjoying feeling pregnant. Won't be doing it again though.

Don't worry about not having massively bonded with the baby yet. I didn't bond with DD until a few weeks after she was born. It doesn't come automatically to all of us, but it will happen sooner or later.

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Spuddybean · 27/07/2012 13:22

chunky and others, i think i don't associate the bump with a baby because i don't really know what to expect with a baby. I am very literal and i cannot project or imagine into things i haven't already felt.

We have no friends or family with children and I haven't held a baby for about 7 years. DP has never held one!

So because i have no idea what holding a little wriggly baby that is mine to my bare skin i just cannot imagine it. I also just cannot imagine feeling happier than i am now - i can't imagine it is possible without exploding!

This is going to sound odd - i also can't imagine loving the baby more than i loved my cat! I honestly could have just sat looking at him all day breathing in the smell of his fur. In a way i'm frightened of loving anything as much or more than that!

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PetiteRaleuse · 27/07/2012 13:37

Spuddy it doesn't sound odd. Before DD was born I couldn't imagine having enough space in my heart to love her properly as I love my animals and DH so much. But I do - though it took a little while.

Please don't explode, can you imagine the mess?

elvislives2012 · 27/07/2012 20:02

I'm like this! I'm 29 weeks atm and love being PG. I like my body and the way I feel so happy! It's weird but I am much more docile when in knocked up and feel quite loved up. Looking forward to meeting the baby but going to miss all the kicks and punches! Of course this may all change in the next few weeks as I get fatter!

GrassIsntGreener · 27/07/2012 20:10

First baby I seriously missed my bump. Silly, as the beautiful girl I gave birth to was the same fidgety monkey I had been carrying!

Now I'm 30 weeks with number two and at the moment although I'm starting to enjoy it a lot more, I can't wait to have baby with us. Our little family will be complete.

From a 'me' point of view, after dd I really got in to exercise and feeling good. I crave evening and early morning runs for example and I can't go. So I am really looking forward to getting back to that!

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