Newly Pregnant and terrified!

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Hi I am 7 weeks pregnant and am really shocked by how worried and unhappy I feel! I expected to be so happy but just feel exhausted and worried. Also my partner has become stressed that this is not a good time financially for us to be starting a family. We had a massive upsetting arguement the other night when he suggested abortion could be an option for us. I was shocked that he could suggest this! I suffered a miscarriage last year after becoming pregnant by accident. The miscarriage upset both me and my partner and we decided to TTC. The thing is now i'm actually pregnant I feel like we were stupid to just run with our emotions and not think about things practically! For example financially it is not a good time for us - my partners contract ends this month and he has yet to find a new job. I just feel really confused and upset and can't really see how things are going to work out. I feel like everything would be okay if my partner felt confident about the pregnancy but I don't feel strong enough to do it by myself! So sorry for the long rant. Has anyone experienced anything similar? Especially regarding financial worries and becoming pregnant? Thanks.

There is (IMO) never a great time to have a baby, there's always something off. Try not to worry. It's hard I know but stressing Wong do any of you good. Hopefully somebody will come along with better advice than I can give.

Hi OP didn't want to read and run.

The timing of all 3 of my babies has been less than optimal! Not as stressful as your circumstances however my feeling has always been that babies turn up when they want to.

I know someone very close whose DH was made redundant while she was pg and they had to relocate more than 100 miles away.

You've got many months ahead in which to come to terms with your circumstances. I hope that in that time you and DP become more financially stable. Even if you don't it's not the end of the world. Becoming a family is the start of a new way of life for all of you. It's amazing how much better the world can seem when you hold your child in your arms and they give you a gummy smile.

Remember you're full of raging hormones at the moment, being pregnant for the first time can feel pretty overwhelming for anyone. Later on the 'happy hormones' will kick in and if you're like me will help you take things in your stride.

Best wishes with everything.

Hi OP - not sure I have any wise things to say about your OH situation, but think I'm struggling with the idea of being pregnant too so know what that feels like.
This is a much planned for baby and thought I'd be ecstatic when I found out but all I've done is worry! Mostly about whether I'm going to be sick or not ! And how it's going to change mine and DH's relationship, my job, what happens when mortgage rates go up if i'm on maternity etc.

Think if we didn't worry about these things then it would be something to worry about IYSWIM - it just shows we are sensible, practical people - full of hormones but we'll be fine at the end of the day!

Hope you feel more settled soon

Have you had your first scan yet?

I only ask because I am 8 weeks pregnant, and due to what seemed like a normal period last month did not discover until a week ago. Almost immediately after I (unknowingly) fell pregnant my DH told me he was having an affair and was going to leave me. We separated and I am in the middle of a divorce. As you can imagine my pregnancy couldn't have happened at a worse time, and I was convinced a termination was probably the best option for me.

BUT

I had several severe bleeds so went for a scan to see if I had miscarried. On seeing the heart beat I was overcome with much a strong feeling of love and protectiveness that all of a sudden nothing was more important than this little person.

I am fairly sure that when you and your DP see the first scan you will feel only love, and the pregnancy will seem amazing not troubling.

There never is a right time to have a baby, but having one is amazing and life changing.

They are right, I tried to pm u but I'm not sure if it worked. I haven't been working since January, my guy is supporting himself, me and a family member.

Thanks so much everyone for your replies. I wasn't expecting such encouraging responses. Really has made me feel better reading all of your thoughts and stories. I'm still feeling a little out of my depth and tired but really helps to know i'm not alone. xx