DH Flying to only brother's wedding - I'll be 38 weeks - WWYD?

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Thread title says it all, really

We have two DC (5 and 2). We live on the Western Coast of America, DH will be flying to the East Coast - If I went into labour there is no way he would make it back in time and he would miss the birth. Trust me: I will be very, very annoyed at that.... My fab mum and step-dad are flying in from the UK to be with me (plan is that mum will go with me to hospital, step-dad - god help him - will have the other two DC).

I feel increasingly apprehensive about it all... really don't want DH to miss the birth! He's been so great the last two times and it's really our thing to do together (weirdos, we are....). Also, feel a bit (a bit?!) peeed off at the whole wedding extravaganza - mad future SIL (who is v nice but real bridezilla) spent 18 months planning this shenanigan and is having 3 receptions in addition to the wedding... sigh... Her business, of course, and our decision to have DH go, I just feel worried about it!

WWYD? Should I shut up? Let DH go with a good grace? Give him hell when he gets back ? Thoughts?

ask him not to go? I wouldnt have entertained saying yes, and arrange a video to be played at the wedding with someone, congratulating them

That's really tough.

You'll feel really bad if he doesn't go and then you don't give birth for another month.

But then if he misses it you'll probably hate him forever (I would ).

Not much help am I?

Is he going for long? Will you be 38wks dead on, or 38+6 ?

I'll be 37 plus 4 when he leaves and 38 plus 1 when he gets back. Last two I delivered at 39 plus 3 and 39 plus 4 - I'm hoping that increased my chances of not going into labour at 38 weeks?? (No idea if this is true?)

jamais you've hit the nail on the head! If I don't let him go (fling myself in front of the plane?) and we have another month of waiting around, I'll feel a right prat...

sighing I like the video option..... But I think I'm going to have to let him go (he's found a good ticket deal and wants to book).

I think I just want to show him this thread and point out what a great wife I am for letting him go!

Ha ha ha - evil laugh....

I don't think DH would have seriously considered going if we were in your position. At 38 weeks you could have had the baby already!

However... It sounds like you have sat down together and talked about it and at the time you were happy for him to go. This is your third so it's not like eithrr of you didn't know what you were in for! You will also have your mum and step-dad there to help out with your other DCs and support you in labour if needs be. You could always say to your DH that you're feeling a bit more nervous now and maybe he should reconsider, but my personal opinion is that you should let him go with good grace and certainly not make things unpleasant for him when it's you reneging on the agreement. If the baby arrives or you go into labour before the wedding though then he definitely shouldn't go and if anything happens while he's away he should be on the next flight home.

AKMD I know! I was more alright about it at the time that we decided than I am now.... And I'm not seriously going to give him grief about it if he goes and the baby chooses then to arrive (I will give him grief in my head however, and get it all out before he comes back - also, the lovely, sparkly earrings that I have pointed out with no subtlety at all will go some way to easing the pain )

I'm just feeling a bit terrified, tbh. But it's fine. It'll all be fine. Mustn't grumble and all that.... And yes, we do feel like we know something about labour, having had 2 already (oh, please don't strike me down with lightning and reward me with a hugely different experience?!)

X-posted. I didn't see that he hadn't booked yet. Hide his credit card. Or just have a proper talk with him and tell him how you're feeling now.

It will be fine. :)

I had something similar with our first. DH went for two days when I was 38+6, I told him it would be fine, waters went first thing the following day, cue mad dash (and very expensive plane fare) to get back from Italy. Rather politely I held off on the first contraction until after he arrived :)

Having had that experience I don't think he'd go travelling after 37 weeks.