Can't stop worrying

[notasillysausage]

I am really struggling to feel positive about this pregnancy. I have convinced myself I have had a mmc.

I have my 12w scan on Friday (although by my calcs I would only be 10w or so) and I am so so scared there will be no heartbeat.

This is my third pregnancy, previous 2 ended in mc's. One at 5w and one mmc discovered at my scan.

I have had sickness etc up until Sunday and since then they have really declined. Hardly any sickness, not as tired etc.

I'm sorry for posting, I don't really have anyone to talk about all this to. My DH keeps saying don't worry. None of my friends or family know I'm pg because of my previous losses I was keeping it quiet. I guess it is just cathartic to post this here

Just wanted to say I was exactly the same a few weeks ago, I had a mmc before dd1 and bcos I have not been feeling sick like last time I convinced myself I had had another mmc, I had a scan at 7 wks and was happy to see bubs there heartbeat flicking away on the screen, have you done a test to see if it's still pos? Hope all goes well at your scan, hugs. Try not to worry too much I know it's hard xx

Thanks Mummy I haven't done a test in the last week so I will do one tomorrow morning and hopefully that will reassure me. I've only got Internet cheapies though and the lines tend to be fainter than other tests I've done.

Glad your scan went well, when is your 12w scan? They wouldn't give me an early scan unless I have had 3 previous mc's, hopefully
I won't get there!

Easier said than done but try not to worry. Approx 10 weeks with ds I felt strange lack of symptoms, no sickness, tiredness, etc and convinced something wrong after previous ep. Convinced doctor to test hcg levels, big mistake as they showed a huge dip (nearly halved!). I was told that short of a miracle baby was lost. Scan ag Epu arranged to determine next action. Was devastated and then gobsmacked to discover that my baby was perfectly well.
I later discovered that a drop in hormone levels and therefore symptoms at this stage is perfectly normal. Ds is now 2 and thankfully no worse of for the large glass of wine I had when grieving!

notasillysausage - just wanted to give you a remote hug (is that allowed on mumsnet?!)

I've experienced a miscarriage and I do think that afterwards, scans are never the same again. Symptoms do come and go so try not to hang your hat on that (when I miscarried I felt sicker than ever). I've since had a successful pregnancy and my little one is fast asleep as I write.

I did find a wonderful book in Waterstones by an American woman - called something like Preventing Miscarriage or similar - will try to dig it out and send you the exact title. It explained that even after a number of m/c, your chance of having a successful pregnanty are very high. Talked about the importance of having support throughout the pregnancy (both for your own wellbeing and also as that seems in itself to help baby too). Could you talk to your GP/midwife and ask for a referral to the consultant for some reassurance? My friend, who had a number of miscarriages did just that and it helped her hugely. Could you afford accupuncture or something like that to relax you?

Hey, my 12 wk scan is on 1st august, I'll be 11 weeks but dp is then out of the country for the rest of august so they said to have it done early, they scanned me early to date pregnancy as I was unsure of my dates xx

Kneedeep how awful for you to go through that but thank goodness all turned out well

It's reassured me a little that your symptoms slowed down too, maybe it's just natural. I guess it's because I lost my symptoms with my first mmc that I am worrying!

Thanks ohdaddy, I'm sorry for your mc, it does jade your view somewhat next time you get pg. I feel horrible typing this but I am so jealous of a girl at my work who is pg with her first and has told everyone really early and with lots of symptoms too! I just wish I could enjoy it like that rather than worry.

I can't really afford anything like acupuncture but I will definitely look for that book. Hopefully Friday will relieve my worries somewhat - I suppose I will have an answer either way which will end this uncertainty.