Guilty about DD1 - 8 weeks pregnant

[Rosduk]

I am really struggling with 24/7 nausea, headaches and exhaustion and am feeling guilty as I just can't seem to function properly and it's only been for about 3 weeks! DD is 14months and for the first time since she was born I have to nap when she does. We stick to our routines for feeding etc but I just can't get out of the house easily. I feel bad that I'm not taking her out as much although i do try and get out at least once a day but sometimes not for long and shes watching alot of tv at the moment :( Yesterday I felt so sick I put her in bed earlier than usual (only by 10 minutes but she didn't sleep so I felt really bad.)

How are other people coping? Am I a wuss? I just hope it gets better.....boohoo

Am lying on the sofa here whilst DD watches her million-th Postman Pat of the day.

She is living off frozen food (since I can't face cooking anything fresh).

She is sleeping in our bed since I can't cope with getting up in the night to settle her.

She is getting driven everything since I hardly have the energy to go up the stairs, let alone walk places.

She's loving it . Am feeling quite guilty, but also telling myself that she's not going to enjoy being pushed off her pedestal when #2 arrives, so it's fine to spoil her now... Excuse excuses...

hmmm.. that is a tricky one, and generally I would say you have to cut yourself some slack! Half hour to an hour of really baby-suitable TV (night garden etc) won't harm a 14 month old.

I remember times when my two year old was watching up to two hours of TV because I couldn't cope with him (pg with DC3 and having a hard time). So I totally understand and I felt guilty too.

BUT you will have to step up your game once you are over the physical sickness ... you will have two kids to look so that will be a step up from one. So for a short while you might have to dedicate more time to your kids.. but you will be rewarded for the hard work once they play together and you can get on with things!

Good luck!

typo, I meant
when my FOUR year old

I could have written the OP about 3 months ago and am so pleased I am out-of-the-woods... It was hideous and you have my full sympathies!
My only advice is to just go with the flow, do whatever you need to do, get help with dd if you can, and know that it will get better. I'm now 22 weeks and have spent the whole day out and about with dd (19mo). I didn't even have a nap today [big girl emoticon]

It's normal, it won't last forever, your DD won't remember it (not many people remember their toddler-hood do they?), everyone that has more than 1 child has gone through it, to some degree, and I think most siblings are ok. Seriously, you're hormonal, so likely to feel more guilty and so on, I felt exactly the same, but now back on a more even keel (at 21wks). Just get some toddler meals in for those desperate situations, nap when you can & play with her when you can, & give yourself a break!! :)