If I wore a ring...

[Meringue33]

Would people still be asking me "Was it planned?" and "Are you pleased?" !!

Yep. I have a ring, and most people have asked was it planned... I tend to have an inane grin on my face when I tell people, so that tends to counteract the "are you pleased" questions - but I still get them....

I wear a ring, had been married for 5 years when I got pregnant with DC1 and was still asked "was it planned?". So I don't think rings make any difference, people are just nosy!

Yes. I'm married and still get asking this (by my hairdresser once, of all people)

I have no ring and no partner, but I get called MRS wherever I go! Or, I get asked what my husband thinks... :/

Was it planned? People seriously ask that? Flipping 'eck.

Yes. When i was pregnant someone asked me if my (unborn) baby had the same father as my infant and I was wearing a ring.

Yep, plenty of people- including complete strangers- have asked me if it was planned- and I'm married. I tend to respond by saying 'Yes thanks. And what kind of contraception are you using at the moment?' or 'Yes thanks, I stopped taking the pill and we continued with our regular 4-or-5-times-a-week sex life, sometimes with him on top, sometimes with me on top, with my personal favourite being 'reverse cowgirl', but the baby was actually conceived with me-then-him on top one Saturday morning against the kitchen worktop.'
Or you can just tell them to sod off and grow some manners.
Sorry, it's really annoyed me that people have thought that was an appropriate question to someone they don't know.

I'm married, no ring and everyone asked if it was planned. I just don't come across as very maternal. I did buy a ring when I was pregnant and I still got lots of looks so it wasn't anything to do with that.

Londonmrss - I do something similar. It's a really intimate question!

I got asked by a nine year old boy I was working with at a school 'miss, was your baby planned or was it an accident' awkward!

I'm married, wear a ring and almost everyone asked me this too.

Suppose it is peoples nosey-ness they can't help it.

With some of my still childless female friends I think it was partly gauging how easy it was to get caught out with a hint of mild panic that if it could happen to me it could happen to them, as it was I was able to reassure that having managed effective contraception for nearly a decade this was indeed intentional!

im 20 and our baby was semi planned (we were talking about children, then i was pregnant!) and when i told my friends, and even my family, i got 'awh.. are you going to keep it?'
some people are just so insensitive :(

I actually get the feeling that it stems from friends who are not yet at the same stage of life- like 'It can't possibly have been planned, she's only my age and I'm certainly not ready for that'

Its even worse when you announce you're getting married and they ask why? Are you up-duffed? No I happen to love DP that's why!!!

This is getting to me too, I'm developing a unhealthy obsession with covering my hands up

I have a ring, been married 5 years and have 2 children already and still being asked the question if this one was planned... Seems like having 3 children is completely unheard of

Yes they would. For some people those deeply intimate questions are their go to. No idea why.

I'm stunned. People are unbelievably rude. Do they have no idea of boundaries???

They do have boundaries, but only if the person they're talking to isn't pregnant.

No way! Well, pleased to find I'm not being singled out for being unwed, but shocked people ask this of everyone! Mad!!

I have a lesbian friend who is pregnant (IVF + donor sperm) with her and her partner's second baby. Her GP asked her if they planned to have the children so close together. My friend replied, "er, no, I accidentally got pregnant....."

Flip flop that made me chuckle

People started asking me about having a second in January when DD was 17mo, found out in April that I was pregnant and the first question those same people asked me was, was it planned!!

I've been with my partner for 14 years but despite knowing this the first thing a friend at work asked was "was it planned"
I guess it's so that they can follow it up with either.
"oh how long have you been trying?"
or
"are you going to keep it?"

A ring makes no difference. All of my friends had children before they got married but maybe that's because none of my friends have been the 'marrying kind'.