DH gone off me now I've got a bump - help I feel mumsy!

[scattercushion]

It's making me feel really down. Previously he was very keen and that's a great boost to your ego but now he's hardly ever in the mood (I'm 6 months pg). He admitted last night his libido has been affected by me being pregnant. This makes me feel really anxious, insecure and worried about the future - what if he forever associates me with being mumsy and no longer finds me attractive. The classic madonna/wh*re syndrome. What can I do? I want to talk about it with him but how can I do it without crashing about like a bull in a china shop?

Poor you, sc. Have you asked him what it is that's putting him off - somtimes it's a fear they have of somehow "damaging" the baby, or that they just feel a bit weird with another person in the bed IYKWIM; which means they've not gone off you as such and will feel more in the mood once the baby is delivered.

My DH did exactly the same when I was PG, but I think (at least in his case) it wasn't that he didn't 'like' me because he found me unattractive, it was just the fact that there was something in there already!! As soon as I was up to it after the birth everything went back to normal between us.

I am sure you will find the same happens with your DH :)

Don't worry scattercushion, I think this is more common than people like to admit.

My dh completely went off sex while I was pg, said it "didn't feel right", and I found it hard not to see this as a rejection. When I went overdue, we had sex a couple of times to try to bring on labour, but he really needed persuading, and made it clear he was only doing it for medical reasons! Things got back to normal pretty quickly afterwards though.

It's only for a few months. Stick with it and be patient. This is just one of the many costs of having a baby!

Thanks guys! blokes are such delicate souls aren't they?