When's the best time to tell people you are up le duff?

[MrsBradleyCooper]

Last time we told pretty much everyone at about 8 weeks because I could not hide the fact that I was puking everywhere I went, though we waited until 12 weeks to tell DSD.

This time I am not sure what to do. Some people I know have told parents and close friends straight away, then waited until 12 weeks to tell Facebook the world.....

Others haven't told anyone until after the first scan.

What I'm most concerned over is telling the children - they are 11 and just 4, and they both start a new school (secondary and primary respectively) on the day that I will be 12 weeks.

So, do we tell them now, in the summer holidays, or wait until after they start school?

I think it would be better to tell them a few weeks before they start school, but DH wants to wait until after they've started

I don't want them to find out from someone else making a comment, especially the 11 yr old, though she doesn't live with us all the time.

Any words of advice appreciated .

mrs I would wait until after the blood test result too (but at my hospital they do they blood tests before the scan so you get the result of bloods & NT all together straight after the scan).

when I say after the scan, I mean once I get the results of that combined with the blood tests.. But if you haven't heard in 3 days here you know it's going to be okay

After that I tell people as I see them/talk to them! so can be as late at 16 weeks by the time I've told everyone

I think your husband is right - tell the kids after 12 weeks, but maybe give it a week or so to let them settle into their new schools. We told DSS1, DSD (both 12) and DSS2 (5) after we'd been for the 12-week scan. We just felt they would be too upset if I had a MC, and wanted to be sure everything was OK before telling them.

This did mean of course that anyone we did tell before this was sworn to secrecy, which was very difficult for my MIL!

Our kids were very excited for a few hours and then went about their business as usual. You may find with yours it's not such a big deal to them as you think it will be.

A few friends knew at 6 weeks as we were doing the moonwalk 26.2 miles overnight) when I was 8 weeks and I needed them to know in case of emergency. Family were told at 5 weeks if anything went wrong I'd need their support. Didn't tell my dcs until 14+3 after my first scan as I didn't want to risk having to give them bad news (I know there's still a chance but a lot smaller chance now)

I haven't made a fb announcement but a friend did congratulate me on there so a lot of people realised from that.

Aha. I had bloods taken at my booking in appointment so do they usually use the same blood for the down's test? I hope so, because I have rubbish veins and it took the midwife a few tries to get any out of me.

It's not me who's desperate to tell everyone, it's my parents! They are so excited and can't wait to tell everyone else in the family, and I told them they could do after the scan. Now if I tell them they have to wait a few more days it will probably send them over the edge!

I'm going to wait until the 12 week scan I'm very excited and it's very hard to keep it in but I'm worried about telling people and then something going wrong, my best friend had two miss carriages at 10 weeks each so I'm worried how she will take it bless her :/
I say do what feels best, you know your family better then anyone so when your ready tell them all in one go and have a baby shop which your children can get involved in to help make it real :D
xx

mrsbugsy I had a amniocentesis test with my son, it was a horrible experience but the doctors/nurses were lovely and really sympathetic.
It was a needle in my tummy at I think it was 20 weeks, (I'd already told everyone and only expected to found out the babies sex on a scan) to test his fluid as they though he would have Edwards Syndrome but came back all clear and he's perfect in every way.
I didn't realise they could test with just the bloods too, I'm so out of touch with what to do and what to now expect as it was over 6 years ago now xx

Hi motherofone they still need to do the amnio or cvs to get a definite result - you only get a probability rating with bloods/scan. (Though I believe they are working on developing a definitive test using just mother's blood, but this is still some way off).

mrsbugsy I don't think they do use the same blood - at least mine didn't - I had a whole load of blood tests at my booking and then had to come back the week after for my downs etc screening bloods - and then the week after that for my scan...

sorry thread hijack Mini pie are you ok? We haven't heard from you since mon afternoon. Everyone has been thinking of you!

Almost every b*gger I know already knows and I think I'm about 10 weeks. I told my mates straightaway, partly because one of them is also pregnant so we can bore each other with tales of cravings and sore boobs.
Mainly thanks to my big-mouth sister, the whole of my home village knows, even though I haven't lived there for about 12 years!
I haven't told work yet, I'm waiting until after my scan. I need to tell them as early as possible though 'cos I'm the senior manager and need to put in a lot of contingencies for when I'm away.

Oh bless you Stacey - yes all fine, spent ages in A&E only to be told the doctor didn't need to see me (gah) but heard heartbeat so all appears ok. i will come and update the thread, sorry!

I would definitely wait until after the scan. I've had a MMC that I only found out about at the 12-week scan, so it's best to be cautious, particularly with DC. Plus, it's nice to have a picture to show them of their new little sibling. Congratulations!