does anyone ever think 'why on earth am i bringing a child into my life, i liked it just how it was before?!'

[Bubbless]

im having one of those pregnant hyperemesis filled days where im regretting everything
do other pregnant people ever want to wish it all away and go back to how it was pre-pregnancy?!
pregnancy wasnt planned so this may contribute?
just sat here thinking, i liked my life, me and DP went to reading festivals, went out for nice meals, went for days shopping and posh lunches... what on EARTH am i doing being 'with child' when i liked it how it was before?!

;;grumble over;;

Yes. It gets worse after they're born when you really can't do anything except look after them.

Am currently pregnant with no 2 and thinking the same thing - am not sure life can get much more limited but I suspect I may be wrong about that.

But, and it is of course a humungous great but, you get all the other stuff which is just fab - and might well be better than anything you used to do before. I thought the first bit of having a newborn was a bit pants to be honest, but now she's a toddler and zooming around everywhere and gerenally being very groovy and I wouldn't go back to life pre-DD for anything.

You also realise very quickly how soon they grow and what a short time (in the bigger scheme of things) they totally rule your world for. DD started sleeping through the night quite some time ago and the odd occasion now when she's ill and wakes up comes as a real shocker - you do all this adapting and then the really intense bit slackends off - and I hardly even noticed. And you will prioritise which bits you most want/need to get back and you will manage it because they're important to you.

It will also all look a damn sight better when you stop puking! Honestly!

Pretty much what Goldrill said.
And I'm doing it again already!

I imagine pretty well everyone thinks that. Though I was interested to see that the things I worried about in pregnancy (the baby taking up space in the house, having to give up the spare room, having to remember when to give feeds and change nappies) weren't actually the ones that bugged me once the baby was born. Other things did, but none of the things I'd fussed about in pregnancy.

I am feeling like this too, but I am very early on and finding out I was pregnant was a bit of a surprise! Am hoping that the whole perspective/life shift will occur once he/she arrives...

I am pg with DC2, and when I just read your post's title I was reminded of what I said A LOT when pg with DC1. We decided to have a baby because we were happily married, enjoying our life together so it had seemed like a good time to start a family. It then suddenly occured to me when pg - why throw all that happiness, settled feeling, financial comfort etc in the air by adding a screaming, needy, unknown quantity of a baby in to the mix?

It suddenly made no sense to me to wait until you are really happy as a couple before you have children! It played on my mind throughout the pg, and of course our DS did scream and was needy and he has changed our life completely - but all for the better, and the fact we had a solid relationship at the start obviously helps enormously during the tricky times.

I think it is completely normal to have moments of fear when your pg, especially with your first. I found it so hard to visualise what our life would be like, so struggled sometimes to get really excited about it. It isn't long before you begin to claw back the fun bits of your old life as they get older and more independent, and then you also get to experience a whole load of new fun bits too!

I really hope your hyperemesis eases soon and you manage to enjoy your pg.

It will get much more fun soon, promise!

Yes, yes, yes I am really feeling this all the time at the moment. Think I am having some issues that I'm not going to be in a muddy field, unsuitably drunk, singing my heart out to some crap band!

i think most of you have hit the nail on the head- it changes your life but in a good way.. just hard to think of it like that at the mo!
glad im not the only one feeling this way
cant really talk to dp about it as preg was unplanned and he wasnt sure on whether this was the right choice in the first place!?

silvachick- am also very :( about missing the festivals!

It probably took me until DS was 18mo to adjust to parenthood completely, and the fact that DS was always going to be here- not that I wanted him to go away, but I'd just have days where the responsibility would get on top of me and I'd worry about stupid "what if's" like "what if he has no friends at school?", "what if he develops a special need that I cant cope with?"

Because at some point-maybe not in the first few weeks or months- but at some point you will look at your child and beam with pride. You will choke back tears and wonder what you ever did with your life before you had him/her.

Ds1 is the apple of my eye. Ds2 is every beat of my heart. And I have no idea what ds3 will do to me but they are worth every difficult second.

(and I'm not what I'd call a 'natural' mother) we all feel like that at some point. And as your child gets older they'll be times you could throttle him/her (I promise ) but you would never choose to be without them.

God - you are not alone! . I've discovered non-alcoholic Becks which helps with the I could just murder a drink days while pregnant.
The best bit is that you will miss your previous life but you will only very rarely resent it's loss once the baby shows up as you won't be able to imagine life without them in any real sense of the word. You will quite happily wish them away for a couple of peaceful hours though .
Savour the Sunday papers, the nice lunches and the impromptu meals out in the evenings now. You won't really appreciate them until they are gone but it is properly irritating to be told to "make the most of it" constantly.
Plenty of pregnant people go to festivals - depends on whether you like camping and wellies, .......... and spending time sober in the company of drunken friends. Call it a good excuse to go glamping, not carry anything into the middle of a field and make the most of it.

I had the same fears, I'm 24 weeks now and spent so long worrying and thinking about all the things my DP and I can't do anymore, just us. A family member explained it to me not so long ago and she said that before kids you get to a point where everything you want to do is in reach and if you want to do it, you can. But nothing at all can beat experiencing those 'firsts' all over again with your new little family. I can't wait to be able to take our little girl on holiday, on days out doing the things DP and I enjoyed before her, and teach her all the things my mum taught me too.

Also, I know everyone is different, but I actually found the "portable baby phase" much harder than the toddler phase, despite everyone saying "Oh but they're so easy when you can just carry them around with you. Toddlers are a nightmare." I just used to get really bored, whereas toddlers are hilarious- they're so transparent but they think they're being really cunning. Just been away for the weekend with DS (nearly 2) and he was so excited and thrilled by everything, whereas baby holidays were a bit "meh"- trying to keep him entertained with minimal toys, etc, and basically tag teaming rather than spending time all together.

So, I guess what I'm saying is, if you find the baby stage limiting, dont assume it's going to get harder. That really hasnt been my experience.

What gold rill said! Also pg with dc2 with smallish age gap, less than two years.... and reason why? To get it over and done w quick so life can get back on track lol.

A colleague took her baby to reading festival tho so life doesn't have to be totally over!