I was going to say feeling neglected but that makes it sound like i think he's to blame in someway.
DH is a personal trainer - it's a very demanding job, and he's often out the house at 6am for his 7am clients, and doesn't get back until 10/11pm at night. I'm 24+5, feeling hormonal and obsessing about how we haven't had sex in weeks. It's not even like I am wanting it especially, I just miss that contact. To add to the lack of intimacy, he's been falling asleep downstairs after I go to bed, and not bothering to come up - I wake up most mornings in an empty bed confused and wondering why he's not here. I do get it - he's always had problems falling asleep and I think the act of coming up to bed wakes him up. Falling asleep naturally give him more hours in a situation where he's already only got 5 or 6 hours a night before he has to get up anyway.
I've mentioned it a few times but mostly just feel like I am putting unnecessary pressure on him when he's already got a lot on his shoulders. He is working insanely now in order to give himself a few weeks off when the baby is born. I can't fault him and his approach to his family - everything he does is for us, and when he is here he is loving and sweet as he ever was, albeit extremely knackered.
It's just - I can't help but feel like I am missing him, and the intimacy between us, and worrying this is the road to drifting apart. I know that's dramatic - we've been together 6.5 years, married for one, and I have so much love for him - he truly is the love of my life. The spark and love between us is as fresh and strong as it ever was, and I can recognise all the different way he shows me he loves me. He is devoted to me, and to our baby, to looking after us, to being a husband and a father.
I guess I'm just realising - is this the time in our lives that we have to go on the backburner temporarily for the greater good of our baby/family/homelife? Is it just that he's realised that already and it's OK, that it's how it should be? I guess I am worried if I go along that path too, we'll wake up one day with miles between us. People say, oh you'll not notice DH when the baby is here, and I do get that. But it's not an either/or, surely?