I think I'm having a miscarriage

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I'm 10 weeks pregnant with my second child. I've been experiencing a brownish discharge that I had attributed to old blood being dispelled for the last four days. Last night I had cramps (called local GP) they subsided but then started to bleed, not very heavily. I've been woken in the night with what feels like period pain and bleeding. Called doctor and have been advised to take some more painkillers and wait.

This was not a planned pregnancy. There was a rather turbulent start, even deciding if I wanted another baby yet (DD 18 months) but the thought of the baby going away leaves me a little numb. Where does this put my life now...

I've just passed some tissue matter. I'm wondering what to expect? How bad will the pain and bleeding get and how long might it take to be over?

I don't have any answers I'm afraid but just want to say I'm thinking of you.

I'm sorry, I can't advise either but I truly am thinking of you and wishing you all the very best. Are you alone?

Thinking of you. I don't know what you need to do. If you ring your doctor they will advise you though. Go easy on yourself.

Thanks. I think I'm in shock and am so coping very well. My usual reaction when something goes horribly wrong is to make tea and be stoic. It's once the shock lessens that the true fall out often becomes apparent.

As I say it wasn't a planned pregnancy and I have a DD who I will hug very tightly - once she wakes up.

Pains lessened just bleeding now. Feels like a heavy period
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oh goodness i'm so sorry about your news, it doesn't matter if it was a planned pregnancy, you're still going through a difficult time. you will need to see your GP at some point to confirm everything and make sure you're ok but in the meantime just do whatever helps at the moment. do you have any support, someone who can come and be with you or help you with DD or to just keep the tea coming?

xxx

Hey, so sorry you're through this (happened to me twice). I would go to your hospital EPU or women's health unit of possible as they can book you in for a scan & discuss your options for managing the miscarriage. One of mine was manageable at home, one was pretty grim with masses of tissue loss & left me pretty poorly & needing an ERPC so it's worth knowing how big the pregnancy sack is and what you can expect in the next few days if possible.

Cuddle your lovely DD & take care of yourself.

If you get MumsnetHQ to move this post the the Miscarriage board you will get lots of support x

Hubby has taken DD out for the morning. The Early Pregnancy Unit wont be open until Monday so I'm stuck managing it at home. I've spoken to the doctor and unless the bleeding or pain becomes excessive I'm not sure there's anything to be done.

I've lost a few big clots now and am bleeding quite a bit. I was thinking this would happen quickly and I would be up and out by this afternoon. Think I might be delusional

No advice I'm afraid but I just wanted to say so sorry. Planned or not you are obviously suffering a really tough time. Thinking of you x

Hello,

Im so sorry to hear about what you are going through...

I have had miscarriages before around the same time as you, and it can be very hard to see it all unfold... I used to go to A & E, simply because I found them very painful to deal with using just paracetamol, and wanted something stronger.

Also, I just found it reassuring, just being in the system, with staff there to monitor me and confirm things etc.

Let us know what happens. These things are so out of our hands; even when I was pregnant with my first child, I got a few small/medium size clots come out at around 14 weeks, but the pregnancy went ok. With my miscarriages, I saw heartbeats etc. at the scans - but still ended up miscarrying. So out of our hands!

You seem to be bleeding a lot, and with clots - it does sound serious...

The only time really that I was able to move on was when I had a successful pregnancy, it removed some of the hurt from the miscarriage...

There is nothing stopping you from trying again, or planning it this time with a different outlook, knowing that you surely want another now... and just because it happened this once, does not mean it will necessarily happen again...

Hope you are feeling okay.

I'm so sorry this is happening to you. I had a mc a year ago, and I did bleed an awful lot, passed out on the bathroom floor, and ended up being taken to A&E, and having an ERPC. Please don't be reluctant to go to A&E if you are bleeding a lot - I waited at home for nearly 3 hours, bleeding quite badly, because I had no-one to look after my 2 DC, who were asleep in bed (DH was driving back from work which is a 3 hour commute). Turns out my cervix hadn't dilated to let the material out, which caused more bleeding as my body tried to expel it :( If you are worried, A&E should be able to examine you, to check if you will need any extra help.

Emotionally, give yourself the time you need to heal, process everything, and be kind to yourself - I experienced a huge range of emotional ups and downs after my mc, including blaming myself for what happened (which was utterly unreasonable, I now realise), and I did need time to work through this. Talking to friends, DH, and on MN really helped me through.

Where this leaves you in future is up to you. Once everything is not so raw, you can look at your life and decide whether to try again - there's no rush to decide this now.

Oh god thinking of you , I hope its only a threatened miscarriage.

I'm not in pain and I've spoken to a nurse who said that unless I start haemorrhaging then it's just a process to be lived through. I'm ok. I just need to make myself rest. It's my hubby's birthday tomorrow and I was going to pop into town and get his presents. I probably shouldn't but finding it hard to stop.

Oh Chell. Thinking of you a lot.

I have no experience of what you're going through, but I suffer with excruciating period pains to the extent that it's as bad as my labour pains were.

In order to manage the pain I do take prescription drugs, but alongside them (with the doctors guidence) I take

? Paracetamol
? Ibuprofen
? Codiene

Now it's best to get the painkillers into your system before its too much. What I normally find works for me is have the paracetamol and ibuprofen in the day, and if I need more take Codiene at night because it does knock me out. Hopefully that should be able to help you until Monday. If things get worse you must go straight to A and E.

I'm so sorry for what your going through