Anyone had to take there DS/DD to 12 week scan.......

[StormBird]

Just want to know if I am going to be frowned upon for doing this.

Unfortunately, we have absolutley NO-ONE to look after DS believe me I have tried. I have no family here, DP's family is few and far between, friends (I'd trust with him) ar working and my childminder doesn't work fridays!!!!

It's not ideal, but what else can I do. Obviously, DP wants to be there and I NEED him there as we have a history of things not going to plan at the 12 week scan.......

What do you think??

I wouldn't worry I've seen plenty of people with children in the scanning dept.
Good luck with the scan

Yes I did. No problem, many people do it.

We did. Dp just took dd out when she started getting fidgety. He still got to see the baby for a little while

I took my DS who was then less than 1to all my scan, including 35 weeks. No one ever said a word or made me feel I shouldn't have brought him. I had no child care so there simply wasn't another option.

Thanks ladies......worrying about nothing again it seems. Really appreciate your responses

Good luck. Hope it all goes really well

We did it and it was fine.

My only concern would be if something was wrong (although hopefully it won't be!) and how your DS would handle seeing you upset after just finding out about it. Is there no one who could come along and just watch DS in the waiting room even, so at least he's not in the room with you? If there's really no other option, then you will have to take him, but I'd just make sure to have exhausted every other option first.

I took my dd as we had no-one to help as it was at 8am!!! I'm quite pragmatic so i knew if the scan showed a problem i wouldnt crumble in front of dd. she did get restless and dh had to take her out though. And the only thing i would say is that me cajouling dd into being quiet etc ruined the moment for me.

I'd double check with your hospital - our local one has a strictly enforced no child at scans policy.

We rang our hospital change appt for same reason but they said as Lin as there's another adult in the room (in our case dh!) then it's fine. And dd is 16 months and very fidgety.
Just call hospital and double check.
Good luck.

*as long as! Not Lin...

We took dd aged 14 months, DH held her and fed her a chocolate finger. She'd never had one before and sat v still and concentrated so as not to lose any.

I'd suggest a small pack of non messy treats to focus DS on sitting quietly.

I took my then 3 year old dd to an early scan I was having as I'd had a scare the previous week & this was the follow up appt.

But being so early pregnant it was a vaginal scan - I got dd settled in the corner with some books & sweets but she was obviously nosey & appeared & said really loudly "mummy why has that lady put something up your pom pom?" her phrase not mine!!) . Cue big discussion in the car on the way home.

Hope your 12 week scan goes well.

We were the only people who didn't have a small child with us when I went for my scan!

We took ds1 (aged 5) to the 12 week scan for ds2. He'd known since I was 8 weeks pg, the baby was planned, and he was old enough to understand that sometimes things don't go according to plan. Fortunately everything was fine, but we would have needed/wanted him to know as soon as possible if it wasn't.

With dc3, I'd asked a friend to look after the boys (ds1 now 8, ds2 2). I don't know why I was different this time, probably because the baby was unplanned and I was more nervous. Unfortunately I miscarried the day before my scan

Scans are not always good news, and they're not simply about saying hello to your baby. If you can handle getting bad news and having another child with you whilst you do so, then it's all good. Otherwise I'd find another option.

i took my 4yo dd to 20 week scan, the only problem was that when the sonographer asked if we would like to know the sex and told us the baby was a boy my dd said "oh no not another brother" and sulked all the way home.

I took my dd1, with me, and she was only 14mo. She lost it, and got overprotective with me. Luckily I had my mum with me, and she took her out.

yes took to both - 4.5 however somone did once mention thier hospital didnt allow it so worth checking they do if you arnt sure.

Does it say anything.on your appointment letter? I.know that the presence.of small children was specifically mentioned on mine (but can't remember exactly what it said!)

I wouldn't, as when I went to my 12 week scan I found out the foetus had died. A missed miscarriage. I was naturally very upset. I wouldn't have wanted my DS to have witnessed that.

Sorry to be harsh and pessimistic, but missed miscarriages are no so rare that I'd ever risk it.

I'd go down any route, such as roping in a kind neighbour to hospital with me to entertain a DS or DD in the hospital cafe, to avoid them coming into the scan with me.

Thaks for the reponses, I have had my scan and they were fine with DS being there x

ANd all is good with DBaby?

Unfortunately not worrywort which is another reason why I was so nervous about taking DS......we have a baby with Annencephaly - a syndrome not compatible with life outside of me!! We've been here before. But on the plus side DS was very good and we were careful not to let the news impact on him, I'm sure he picked up on the change in atmosphere but he's only 11 months so is quite unaware also and is now happily playing on the living room floor with his Dad.......now to deal with what the next week has in store for us all.......... xxx

Oh Stormbird so sorry to hear your news