Feeling very guilty and down

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Am really struggling with this pregnancy, now 35+3 with pgp, anaemia, period pain, swollen painful hands, indigestion, insomnia and feel really sad all the time, can't say why I just do.
The main problem is that I'm really irritable. I have a three yr old and all I do these days is snap at her. Up until about a month ago I had never shouted at her (I don't think it accomplishes anything) and have always tried to get down to her level and talk to her when she play up or when she does something she shouldn't. Recently I just snap at her all the time, I have no patience and I've also started to shout which upsets her and then I end up crying because I've upset her. I have no control at all. I find it really difficult because I can't lift her, can't bend down, can't put her shoes on etc because of the pain but somehow I'm expecting her to understand all that.
It is so bad sometimes I feel like leaving just so I can't keep upsetting and hurting her. I feel really guilty and a horrible mother.

Hi,

I can't relate with having a young child whilst being heavily pregnant as this is my first, but I can sympathise with the feelings and pain you are having I am 36+5 the size of a house and I am extremely swollen all day everyday and in awful constant pain. Plus I have nt enjoyed being pregnant like most women.

Try not to be too hard on yourself your going through the worst part of it now which seems to drag, and it must be so hard to look after/play and be the ultimate super mum whilst going through what you are going through.

Can daughter stay at a close relatives or friends just for a night so you can have a break, maybe a bath and a rest??

Also sounds like your very down, are you sure your not suffering from a bit of depression. It's an awful thing to go through??? You must talk to someone you love and trust and your midwife can help she will not judge you just help you get sorted.

Try and remember you are nearly at the end now and the pregnancy fatigue will soon go as well as your lack of mobility it's just a little while longer you are so near the end now x

Hi there,

Couldn't read and not post. You are not a horrible mother - you sound like you are a great parent and obviously have your daughter's best interests at heart. Don't beat yourself up. You are human and being heavily pregnant is enough to test anyone's patience. It is a few short weeks out of your daughters life and she will not even remember it. Take each day as it comes and try and stay positive. Make sure you seek help and support if you need it.

Nearly there x