I can't face the same weight gain but yet again

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the only thing that stops me being sick is eating! I feel nauseus without regular filling food, or actually start throwing up painfully on an empty stomach. I really tried to keep it healthy and light at the weekend but both days had a migrane by 4pm which was crushing, despite small regular meals. Eating solves it and I feel ok.

I put on over 4/5 stone last time, 4 the time before, and I felt shit, this time I'm only about 12 weeks and already up over half a stone.

I don't have visions of being one of these waif like people, but I'd like a normal weightgain. It gets me down getting so big, and it hurts by the end. I have horrific stretch marks.

I'm normally a steady 8st 10lb-9st max at 5'8, but I can top 14 stone at the end of pregnancy. It comes off, but it really gets me down and as I said I feel awful.

I think I'm ranting because I need some understanding from anyone in a similar position. In RL my friends seem to stay roughly the same frame, whatever it is, during pregnancy andcan't relate to the fact that a, not eating isn't easy and b, I gain disproportionatly more than I should and defy logic to get to the size I do. Everyone presumes it's laziness I guess.

I didn't gain a lot while pregnant,, but I have a couple of friends who did gain several stone both times and let me tell you it wasn't what they were eating! Really I think a lot of it is down to how your own body "does" pregnancy. I'm one of the very lucky ones who barely gains anything and who's backside fat gravitates to the bump. But before you beat me round the head for being so smug, my body "does" breastfeeding by laying down every last calorie I eat as fat, and I gained 3 stone in 6 months post birth whilst bf! And I was eating healthy normal portions of food.
Basically I'm trying to say if you are eating a healthy diet, try not to get too upset, because you really have very little control over how your metabolism works during pregnancy, just do what you need to get through. I find sucking on an xtra strong mint to be helpful for my nausea, but if eating regular small meals helped me, you can bet that's what I would be doing. I'm surviving on toast and malt loaf at the moment, I feel your pain with the sickness.

I sympathise on the having to eat to stop feeling sick thing, I really do. I am exactly the same. 19 weeks now. Have put on more than in previous pregnancies and feel quite big already.

You are very slim to begin with though (I am 8.5 stone pre-pregnacy so not much lighter than you but at 5 foot 2 - and that still means size 8-10 and BMI 23 or so for me (I carry a lot of muscle). It is normal for slimmer women to gain more.

I also believe you are not really in control of weight gain during pregnancy (or loss or not during BF). Its not laziness or over-indulgence - its they way and extent to which your body wants to lay down fat stores. I actually didn't gain much weight during pregnancy last time (I did my best to stay active, but didn't worry about what I was eating). However, like rogers I was just ravenous constantly whilst BF and put on weight at that time.

Try to stay active (I know how hard that is if really nauseous too) and try not to think about weight at this stage.

I don't know what to say OP except at least you know it will come off at the end. You're normally quite slim (from your description) so you know this (pregnancy) is just a temporary state and I'm afraid it sounds like something you'll just need to grin and bear, difficult though that is.

I do sympathise though. I have been largely sedentary during this pregnancy as it's high risk and my consultant warned me not to do too much - easier said than done with a 15 mo old admittedly! I felt like I put a lot of weight on towards the middle of my pg, but I'm now almost 35 weeks and it has definitely tailed off somewhat as my appetite has gone and there's literally no room in there anyway.

I still feel porky but there's only 4 weeks left to go now so I'm feeling a lot better now the end is in sight.

I've found that eating as much protein as I can handle along with a small bit of complex carb really helps to prevent that all day sick feeling that is only cured by continual eating. So poached egg and HM wheaten bread (which is really dense wholemeal/oat non-yeast bread) in the morning; chicken and salad for lunch. I'm finding veg quite a struggle though - normally I love it.

Anything like white bread or sweet sets my blood sugar going mad and I feel dreadful for hours. I had a very bad experience with a bag of haribo on Saturday that I won't be repeating any time soon.

I ate healthily and exercised a lot during both pregnancies and put on about 17 stones each time. Honestly, I was like a Greenpeace mammal of concern, washed up and flapping about desperately. My Mum was the same, put on 5 stones during each pregnancy. I'm 9 months post dc2 and back to my normal size 10, 8st 5lbs weight (and bear in mind at my 6 week check I was over 12 stones) but yes have horrific stretchmarks and my back still isn't right.

I couldn't prevent it. It's just how my body did pregnancy. I can't give you the answers but I can sympathise.

There are pictures of me on my profile at full term with ds. With him, I had only a bump but was still 4 stones heavier. I really don't know how my body managed it. My legs/arms/face were unchanged.

Hello I feel your pain regarding weight gain and eating. I too had to eat a lot to stop feeling sick and I gained quickly in the beginning. However once I got over that bit I have been eating healthier and my weight gain has been hovering around 1 and a half and 2 stone I'm 35 weeks. I have found tho that I now can't eat a lot and my appetite somedays is non existent ( really not like me) it cause me to be shaky and feel sick cause I haven't eaten enuff but jus don't no what I want !

My 1st pregnancy I gained a lot prob about 4 stone I too breastfed which meant I didn't loose it until after weaning as with my 2nd pregnancy. But I've finally realised I don't need to eat a lot once I hit 26 weeks and started being better and baby is as far as I know (v active in there) fine and my bump is very big ! So jus aim to eat healthily once u can :) and as u sed at least u know it will come off after unlike mine !

thanks, I think I just need to feel like I'm not alone!

snowboarder, you're right-I'll be grateful it falls off me! Strangely I've become slimmer naturally after each pregnancy. Before my first I was normally around 10st.

showofhands! That's me! 4 stone plus ON THE TORSO! how????

cheeky chops- I'm trying...sigh

TOday in Sainsburys I walked past the full length mirror, I'm already a weird shape. Not pregnant, just like I have the torso of someone who is obese. Think old man with a spare tyre look. Stunna I am.